Clare Spiers - Grief Recovery Specialist

16/11/2025

Mourning is what happens on the outside, grief is what happens on the inside. 💔

National Grief Awareness Week (2nd–8th December) shines a light on the importance of opening up conversations about grief and ensuring that no one has to face loss alone.

We invite you to take a gentle pause for yourself. Finding safe spaces and supportive communities to sit with your grief is a powerful step in recovery. 🌿

✨ Join us on Wednesday 3rd December at 7:30pm for a calming online pamper session, an hour dedicated to self-care and emotional restoration.

You’ll receive a pamper pack lovingly curated by Amy Woodcock of Naturally Grown Health, filled with plant-based allies to support you to regulate and soothe challenging emotions as we move through the session together.

🌸 Take this time for you. Honour your grief. Feel supported.

🎟️ Reserve your spot on Eventbrite before 27th November to receive your pamper pack in time.
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Don’t wait ..give yourself permission to pause, to feel, and to recover.

14/11/2025

This walk will mark two years since I began monthly Grief Walk and Talks in Leamington.

I started these walks because wanted to offer a space as an alternative to a grief café where you can connect with nature, move and benefit from being able to walk alongside others to share your experience.

This walk is also special because it leads into the beginning of National Grief Awareness Week with the purpose of normalising conversations around grief and helping people feel safe talking about loss rather than suffering in silence.

I’d like to invite anyone in our community who feels that they would benefit to join us.

📅 10.30am - Sunday 30th November
📍 Newbold Comyn
👟 Bring your heart, a good pair of shoes and share as much or as little as you are comfortable with.

Get in touch with me to let me know you'd like to come along so that I can look out for you.

From my heart to yours, Clare

13/11/2025

Some grief doesn’t come from death, it comes from the love you never received.

Growing up with a toxic or narcissistic mother leaves a kind of grief that rarely gets named.

It’s not the loss of a person it’s the loss of what could have been.

✨ The love you craved but didn’t receive
✨ The validation you were denied
✨ The safety you were never allowed to feel

This grief is quiet, complicated and often dismissed.

Society tells you to “move on,” but how do you move on from something you never had?

💡 As a Grief Recovery Specialist (Closure Coach), I help daughters untangle this hidden grief to honour what was lost, rebuild boundaries and find peace with what cannot be changed.

Because recovery doesn’t mean excusing the pain… it means reclaiming yourself beyond it.

If you haven't subscribed to my newsletter ReRoot for Daughters of Toxic or Narcissistic Mothers then click on this link: https://www.linkedin.com/build-relation/newsletter-follow?entityUrn=7392233188775059456

If your heart’s tired of carrying the weight alone, I see you.

Let’s lighten it together.

Book a free no obligation call today: Link in bio / https://peopleboost.co.uk/contact-me/ola/services/discovery-meeting

11/11/2025

"All grief does not have trauma, but all trauma has grief." — David Kessler

This quote speaks to something I see often in my work.

Not every experience of grief comes with trauma sometimes, we lose someone or something dear to us and, though painful, our nervous system remains relatively steady.

But trauma is different. Trauma always carries grief; grief for the safety, trust, identity or a future we once believed in. It’s the quiet mourning of “what was” not just the event itself.

When we focus only on the trauma and forget the grief that comes with it we miss an important part of recovery.

And when we acknowledge the grief within trauma, we open space for compassion, integration and ultimately, recovery.

💛 In grief recovery work, I help people explore both sides the losses that broke their hearts and the hidden griefs that linger beneath trauma.

Recovery begins when we can name both.

If your heart’s tired of carrying the weight alone, I see you.

Let’s lighten it together.

Book a free no obligation call today: Link in bio / https://peopleboost.co.uk/contact-me/ola/services/discovery-meeting

10/11/2025

Amy and I are hosting our Grief Pampered Session on 3rd December during National Grief Awareness Week. She has written a wonderful blog on the power of plants to support emotional well-being when grieving.

Time is running out to book tickets to the session. Get them here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/grief-pamper-session-national-grief-awareness-week-limited-tickets-left-tickets-1769351922229?sg=1b7cc817f9efc61a77fa97dae6dc7b4c0ad5e2ff3209b83b2aa615d8fd09f9bd76dd6d2a63d2d10cd940198e3214072a312057a18cc587341cf0386b92a38ab010059e3721feeb438f3aadb5d2&aff=ebdsshios

Did you know that plants can support us through grief and loss?
In this weeks blog, we explore how plants can support us to respect and acknowledge the grief, whilst giving us the strength and resilience we need during the difficult days.
The link is in the comments.

06/11/2025

Grief Can Be Exhausting...Take Time to Rest

Grief isn’t just emotional it’s physical. It can leave you foggy, drained, unmotivated or struggling to do even the simplest things.

That’s not weakness. That’s grief doing what grief does: asking your whole body and mind to process something enormous.

If you’re tired, rest. If you can’t focus, soften your expectations. If all you manage today is getting through the day that’s enough.

Rest is not avoidance. It’s healing work.

As a grief recovery specialist, I see so many people judge themselves for feeling “stuck” or “lazy” in grief, when in truth, their body is just trying to recover from heartbreak.

Gentle reminder: you don’t have to push through. You can pause through.

If your heart’s tired of carrying the weight alone, I see you.

Let’s lighten it together.

Book a free no obligation call today: Link in bio / https://peopleboost.co.uk/contact-me/ola/services/discovery-meeting

05/11/2025

The Grief of Going No Contact

Grief doesn’t only follow death. Sometimes, it follows a decision one made for survival, safety or self-preservation.

Going no contact with a toxic or narcissistic (and I don’t use that word lightly) mother can be an incredibly painful, complex experience. You may feel sadness, guilt, anger, even relief and all of it is valid.

This kind of grief often goes unacknowledged, because it doesn’t fit society’s typical idea of “loss.” But the truth is: it is a loss of connection, of belonging and of the hope that the relationship could one day be different.

As a grief recovery specialist, I see this kind of hidden grief often. It’s why I’m so passionate about helping people understand and process their pain using the only evidence-based grief recovery programme in the world a framework that helps you move toward healing, even when reconciliation isn’t possible.

I’ve explored this topic in more depth on my blog https://peopleboost.co.uk/my-blog/f/grieving-the-mother-you-never-had and YouTube channel, https://youtu.be/vwapnU0PZI0?si=j3lR1kiEONRl5jjP where I talk about the emotional reality of going no contact and the steps toward genuine recovery and peace.

You’re not alone in this. You deserve to heal not just to survive.

If your heart’s tired of carrying the weight alone, I see you.

Let’s lighten it together.

Book a free no obligation call today: Link in bio / https://peopleboost.co.uk/contact-me/ola/services/discovery-meeting

04/11/2025

Good news: the UK is taking a landmark step in grief education. Under the updated statutory guidance for Relationships, S*x and Health Education (RSHE), children will now be taught that “change and loss, including bereavement, can provoke a range of feelings, that grief is a natural response to bereavement and that everyone grieves differently.”

Schools will also teach how families and relationships change over time including through death.

This is a huge step forward because research shows that in England around one child in every class has been bereaved of a parent or sibling.

Many of us we weren’t given the opportunity, growing up, to learn about grief, loss and how to navigate them in a safe and supported way.

That’s why I’m so passionate about my work as a grief-recovery specialist. Because while policy is catching up, many adults are left without tools, language or support to understand their experience.

In my work I help individuals and groups engage with their grief, connect to it and move through it, using the only evidence-based grief programme of its kind in the world.

If you’ve ever felt isolated, overwhelmed, or unsure what to do next after a loss know this: you’re not alone. Grief isn’t something to “get over” quickly it’s something to understand, honour and grow through.

If your heart’s tired of carrying the weight alone, I see you.

Let’s lighten it together.

Book a free no obligation call today: Link in bio / https://peopleboost.co.uk/contact-me/ola/services/discovery-meeting

03/11/2025

Join us this Wednesday ❤️‍🩹 for a cuppa and chat with those that appreciate your experience x

03/11/2025

Grief pamper session - online on Wednesday 3rd December at 7.30pm

Time is running out to get your tickets. Link: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/grief-pamper-session-national-grief-awareness-week-uk-wide-event-tickets-1769351922229?aff=ebdsshcopyurl&utm-source=cp&utm-term=listing&utm-campaign=social&utm-medium=discovery&utm-content=attendeeshare or search "Grief pamper session" on Eventbrite.

30/10/2025

My client came to me unsure of what working with someone around grief would even look like. They just knew they were struggling to make sense of what they were feeling the confusion, the sadness, the waves of emotion that seemed to come from nowhere.

Together, we worked gently through the complexity of their emotions and began to find clarity and calm. Slowly, the weight began to lift and they could see a path forward through their loss.

Grief isn’t about “moving on” it’s about learning how to move with it.

We're taught how to acquire things but not what to do when we lose them. The Grief Recovery Method is a gently journey through understanding your own relationship with grief and loss and learning and integrating the tools to begin your recovery.

If your heart’s tired of carrying the weight alone, I see you.

Let’s lighten it together.

Book a no obligation call today: http://tinyurl.com/3trbba4e