Holistic Renewal

Holistic Renewal Holistic Renewal works with young people and adults offering person-centred Psychotherapeutic Counselling and Clinical Hypnotherapy.

I am a qualified Hypnotherapist, NLP/EFT/Past Life Regression Practitioner and Reiki therapist. I am committed to supporting people in making the positive changes necessary for a more fulfilling and satisfying life.

Every relationship experiences moments of disconnection; misunderstandings, sharp words, emotional withdrawal, or unreso...
19/02/2026

Every relationship experiences moments of disconnection; misunderstandings, sharp words, emotional withdrawal, or unresolved tension. What truly determines relationship health isn’t whether conflict happens, but how repair happens afterward.

Repair might look like:
- A sincere apology without defensiveness
- Taking responsibility for your part
- Reaching out instead of waiting for the other person
- Reassuring your partner that the relationship is safe

From an attachment perspective, repair restores emotional safety. It signals: “We can struggle and still stay connected.” Over time, consistent repair builds trust, resilience, and secure attachment.

After your next disagreement, ask yourself:
- Did I focus more on being right or reconnecting?
- What would repair look like in this moment?

Remember: Repair doesn’t erase conflict, it transforms it into connection.

Many people confuse boundaries with barriers, but healthy boundaries create safety, respect, and intimacy. Boundaries al...
18/02/2026

Many people confuse boundaries with barriers, but healthy boundaries create safety, respect, and intimacy. Boundaries allow partners to express needs, protect emotional wellbeing, and engage in healthy interdependence.

Examples of healthy boundaries:
- Saying “no” without guilt
- Sharing personal feelings without fear of judgement
- Taking time for self-care and personal interests

Consider one area in your relationship where a boundary could strengthen trust and communication. Setting it with compassion allows love to grow, rather than restricting it.

Emotional attunement is the difference between just living alongside someone and truly being connected with them. It’s a...
17/02/2026

Emotional attunement is the difference between just living alongside someone and truly being connected with them. It’s about:
- Observing emotional cues (tone, body language, facial expressions)
- Reflecting back what you notice (“I sense you’re stressed, want to talk about it?”)
- Responding with empathy, not judgement.

Today, take 5 minutes to check in with your partner. Ask how they feel and practice active listening; no solutions, no advice, just presence. This small act strengthens emotional bonds and deepens intimacy.

Romantic love is often romanticised as grand gestures; expensive gifts, surprise trips, or dramatic declarations. While ...
16/02/2026

Romantic love is often romanticised as grand gestures; expensive gifts, surprise trips, or dramatic declarations. While these moments are nice, the small, consistent acts of care truly sustain a relationship.

Examples include:
- Sending a thoughtful message during a busy day
- Listening without interrupting
- Offering a helping hand with chores
- Giving a compliment or expressing appreciation

These small acts signal to your partner that they are seen, valued, and loved consistently, which builds emotional security over time.

Practice This: Pick one small act of care each day and notice how it affects your partner and your connection. Over time, these small gestures compound into lasting intimacy.

When emotions run high, our attachment patterns often take over. Learning to self-regulate, pausing before reacting, ref...
15/02/2026

When emotions run high, our attachment patterns often take over. Learning to self-regulate, pausing before reacting, reflecting on triggers, and responding intentionally, strengthens connection.

Tip: Try a 5-minute daily mindfulness check-in: notice your emotional state, breath deeply, and ask how your feelings may influence your responses to your partner.

Your attachment patterns are not a sentence, they’re a map for growth. Recognising your triggers and responses allows yo...
14/02/2026

Your attachment patterns are not a sentence, they’re a map for growth. Recognising your triggers and responses allows you to consciously shift toward secure attachment behaviours, improving communication and intimacy.

Reflection Exercise: Identify one recurring challenge in your relationships. Ask: “Is this coming from my attachment patterns?” Awareness allows choice.

Being securely attached means trusting that love can be safe and supportive. It doesn’t mean perfection, it means practi...
13/02/2026

Being securely attached means trusting that love can be safe and supportive. It doesn’t mean perfection, it means practicing patience, empathy, and openness.

Steps to build secure attachment:
- Reflect on your emotional triggers and patterns.
- Engage in relationships that encourage growth and communication.
- Practice vulnerability in small, safe ways.
- Seek feedback and notice positive responses.

Daily Practice: After interactions with loved ones, reflect: “Did I communicate openly? Did I feel safe? Did I respond with empathy?” Over time, these reflections reinforce secure attachment behaviours.

Therapy isn’t about “fixing” you, it’s about understanding you. Helping clients gain clarity, reconnect with their value...
12/02/2026

Therapy isn’t about “fixing” you, it’s about understanding you. Helping clients gain clarity, reconnect with their values, and trust themselves again is always a privilege. Thank you for the lovely feedback!

Disorganised attachment combines the traits of anxious and avoidant styles. These individuals desire intimacy but fear r...
12/02/2026

Disorganised attachment combines the traits of anxious and avoidant styles. These individuals desire intimacy but fear rejection, creating push-pull patterns in relationships. Healing involves building trust with self and others, often through self-compassion, therapy, and supportive partners.

Tip for partners: Show consistency, patience, and empathy. Avoid pressuring or dismissing fears, acknowledge them.

Tip for self-reflection: Journaling your fears and recognising triggers can help you separate past patterns from present relationships, allowing safer connections to develop.

If you notice patterns like avoiding vulnerability or pushing people away, it’s not a character flaw, it’s a protective ...
11/02/2026

If you notice patterns like avoiding vulnerability or pushing people away, it’s not a character flaw, it’s a protective mechanism. Early experiences may have taught you that closeness comes with risk.

Strategies to grow:
- Start with small, safe disclosures with trusted people.
- Notice moments you feel the urge to withdraw and explore why.
- Communicate your boundaries without shutting down emotionally.

Remember: secure attachment can be developed over time, and growth happens when you practice vulnerability intentionally.

People with anxious attachment often feel a constant need for reassurance, interpreting small signs of distance as rejec...
10/02/2026

People with anxious attachment often feel a constant need for reassurance, interpreting small signs of distance as rejection. This isn’t a flaw, it’s a learned response from early experiences with attachment figures.

Ways to manage anxious attachment:
- Practice self-soothing techniques like journaling or meditation.
- Communicate needs calmly and clearly, rather than reacting impulsively.
- Seek relationships that respond with consistency and empathy.

Tip: If you feel anxious in a relationship, pause and ask, “Am I reacting to facts or fears?” This helps break cycles of insecurity and strengthens your bonds.

This year’s Children’s Mental Health Week theme is “This is my place.” Every child needs a place where they feel safe, v...
09/02/2026

This year’s Children’s Mental Health Week theme is “This is my place.”

Every child needs a place where they feel safe, valued and heard. A place to belong. A place to grow. A place to be themselves.

For some it’s a classroom corner, a football pitch, a cosy reading nook, a friendship group — or simply a trusted adult who listens.

When children know they matter somewhere, their confidence, wellbeing and resilience grow everywhere.

Let’s notice, ask, and connect — and help every child find their place.

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Leatherhead
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