Holistic Transformative Therapy

05/12/2025

Have you ever noticed that you’re rarely, if ever, fully present?

You might feel a constant tug-of-war between the past and the future:

On one side, guilt for what you should’ve done, didn’t do, could’ve handled better.

On the other side, the pressure of the future -
worrying, planning, imagining scenarios, attaching expectations, hoping everything will play out just right so you finally feel okay.

And if reality doesn’t match your internal plan?

Disappointment arrives instantly.

So you end up shifting between resentments from yesterday and anxiety about tomorrow…

Hardly ever stopping to breathe into now.

But here’s what’s truly important to understand:

Staying present is extremely hard when “being” never felt safe.

Many of us grew up learning that:

– Doing earns love.
– Doing maintains peace.
– Doing helps overwhelmed parents.
– Doing keeps us included.
– Doing gives us a sense of control in unpredictable environments.

And without even realising it, we carry this into adulthood.

We live in the past to analyse it, to fix it, to avoid repeating the same hurt.

We live in the future to control it, to prevent disappointment, to feel one step ahead of danger.

But this isn’t your identity.
This isn’t your personality.

It’s conditioning. It’s survival.
And just because it feels familiar doesn’t mean it’s healthy or permanent!

You can teach your system that being here is safe. Not by force, but by gentle, consistent healing.

If this resonates with you, you’re not alone.
You’re simply carrying patterns that were never yours to begin with.

Dorota 🤍
Holistic Transformative Therapy

05/12/2025

Do you ever notice how you’re almost never here?

You’re either…

✨ Feeling guilty about the past - what you did, didn’t do, “should” have done.
✨ Feeling torn because you can’t please everyone or meet your own unrealistically high standards.
✨ Or obsessing about the future - planning every detail, imagining how things “should” play out, attaching huge meaning to outcomes.

And when reality doesn’t match the script in your head?

You feel disappointed, deflated, unsafe.

So you spend your life swinging between resentment about yesterday and anxiety about tomorrow, rarely giving the present moment any real attention.

Here’s the part no one tells you:

Being present is difficult when your nervous system never learned that simply “being” is safe.

In childhood you learned that:

✔ Doing kept the peace.
✔ Doing earned approval.
✔ Doing made you feel needed or less invisible.
✔ Doing gave you a sense of control in a chaotic environment.

But you never learned how to be.
How to rest.
How to feel “enough” without performing.

So now your mind time-travels as a way to feel safe.

But this isn’t “just who you are.”
It’s learned. It’s old programming. It’s not your identity.
And what was learned can be unlearned.

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29/11/2025

Because for the first time you see yourself clearly:

— Why you freeze during conflict
— Why you panic when someone pulls away
— Why you feel responsible for everyone’s emotions
— Why you keep choosing the same relationships
— Why you can give love so deeply but struggle to receive it

This isn’t weakness.
It’s your inner child calling for safety, softness and connection.

And once you understand her…
you finally understand you.

My Inner Child Healing Kit helps you:
✨ connect with your younger self
✨ uncover the root of your patterns
✨ calm your nervous system
✨ soften your inner critic
✨ feel safe inside your own body again
✨ build emotional security from the inside out

If you’re ready to stop repeating the same cycles and start healing in a way that actually lasts…

Download the Inner Child Healing Kit (link in bio).
And begin the transformation your future self has been waiting for. 🤍

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29/11/2025

The real signs that therapy is working are often quiet.
Not dramatic.
But deeply, beautifully human.

It’s when you notice your feelings instead of drowning in them.
When you stop abandoning yourself the moment life gets hard.
When you forgive yourself faster…
explain yourself less…
and finally feel safe in your own company.

It’s catching an old pattern mid-thought and thinking,
“Wait… I don’t have to do this anymore.”

Healing isn’t loud.
It’s subtle.
It’s steady.
And it shows up in the way you return to yourself... again and again.

❤️

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23/11/2025

Your patterns didn’t come from nowhere. They came from a core wound you had to survive.

Some wounds make you chase love.
Some make you hide.
Some make you reject yourself before anyone else can.
Some make you fight for fairness because no one ever protected you.

Your reactions aren’t “too much.”
Your patterns aren’t random.
They’re echoes of a wound that was never given space to heal.

✨ If you want clarity on what drives your attachment, triggers and emotional reactions - take my Core Wound Questionnaire.

It takes 2 minutes. 🤎

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23/11/2025

Behind every pattern is a core wound -the first imprint that taught you what connection felt like.

Some wounds make you chase love.
Some make you hide.
Some make you reject yourself before anyone else can.
Some make you fight for fairness because no one ever protected you.

Your reactions aren’t “too much.”
Your patterns aren’t random.
They’re echoes of a wound that was never given space to heal.

✨ Discover your core wound in 2 minutes.
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19/11/2025

There’s a moment on every healing journey where you realise:

“It was never my personality… it was my wound.”

We try to outperform our pain, outgrow our past, outshine the emptiness but trauma doesn’t respond to willpower.

It responds to awareness.

And once you see the wound, you finally stop organising your life around it.

The result?
A calmer nervous system.
Clearer boundaries.
Healthier love.
More ease, more joy, more you!

If you’re ready to understand which core wound is running your patterns and how to begin healing at the root, take my Core Wound Questionnaire.

It’s quick.
It’s wildly accurate.

And it might just be the most important self-awareness moment of your year.
✨🦋

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17/11/2025

15/11/2025

You were never “too sensitive.”
You just had to adapt. 💔

The need to be perfect, helpful or calm didn’t start in adulthood - it started in childhood, when love was conditional and space was limited.

It’s time to understand what your nervous system has been protecting you from and how to finally feel safe being you.

🧠 Take the Core Wound Test (link in bio)

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07/11/2025

Do you fall for their soul… or for the familiar chaos your nervous system thinks is love?

You’re not broken - you’re patterned.
And patterns can be rewired.

Take the free Core Wound Assessment to uncover which wound still shapes your attraction, attachment and self-worth.

✨ 3 minutes. 5 wounds. Deep clarity.
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02/11/2025

You’re not “always busy.”

You’re afraid of the stillness because stillness means:

feelings come up

needs become visible

the mask slips

you face yourself

Silence threatens the parts of you, you had to exile to survive.

✨ If you’re ready to learn how to rest without guilt, rewire your nervous system and break the high-functioning survival cycle -

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