Holistic Transformative Therapy

07/11/2025

Do you fall for their soul… or for the familiar chaos your nervous system thinks is love?

You’re not broken - you’re patterned.
And patterns can be rewired.

Take the free Core Wound Assessment to uncover which wound still shapes your attraction, attachment and self-worth.

✨ 3 minutes. 5 wounds. Deep clarity.
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02/11/2025

You’re not “always busy.”

You’re afraid of the stillness because stillness means:

feelings come up

needs become visible

the mask slips

you face yourself

Silence threatens the parts of you, you had to exile to survive.

✨ If you’re ready to learn how to rest without guilt, rewire your nervous system and break the high-functioning survival cycle -

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Your peace is not a luxury - it’s your birthright 🤍

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Be honest - what’s your relationship with rest?

23/10/2025

What are conditions of worth?

They’re the unspoken rules we internalised growing up:

“I’m loved when I’m good.”
“I’m accepted when I please others.”
“I’m safe when I don’t make mistakes.”

They taught us that love is conditional - something we work for, not something we are worthy of by being.

How they show up now:

You over-give and over-explain.

You apologise for existing.

You chase validation instead of peace.

You fear rejection more than disconnection from yourself.

The truth is…

Love was never meant to be a reward.
It’s your birthright.
You don’t need to earn love or belonging.

Read my latest article "When Acceptance Has to Be Earned”, where I unpack the roots of conditional love, how it wires the nervous system and the steps to reclaim your inherent worth.

👉 Read it now on
www.holistictransformativetherapy.com/blog

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11/10/2025

✨ Two Private Spaces Opening Next Month

I’m opening two private 1:1 spaces for women who look successful on the outside, but quietly feel drained, anxious or disconnected within.

This is a deeply personalised therapeutic experience, blending psychotherapy, hypnotherapy and nervous-system regulation.

It’s designed to help you reconnect with your authentic self, release long-standing patterns and find peace within.

Available in person in Leeds or online across the UK.

Limited to two new clients starting next month to keep the work deeply personal and tailored.

If you’ve been feeling that gentle nudge to start your healing journey — this might be your moment. 💫

👉 Book your Alignment Call (link in bio) to explore whether this work is right for you.

26/09/2025

Did you grow up feeling like acceptance had to be earned? 💔

As children, many of us quickly learned which behaviours gained us approval and which parts of us were ignored, criticised or rejected. That taught us that acceptance was conditional, not natural.

As adults, it shows up as perfectionism, people-pleasing, over-apologising, pushing ourselves too hard, feeling guilty when we rest and being crushed by even small criticism.

Deep down, we’re still chasing approval without even realising it!

This isn’t a flaw. It’s old conditioning - the belief that to be accepted, we must prove ourselves.

But acceptance was never meant to be earned. It’s your birthright. The real shift comes when we stop striving to be “enough” for others and start reclaiming our own worth.

I wrote a new blog about this wound of conditional self-worth, how it forms and the first steps to begin healing it.

✨ Read it now on my website in the blog section.

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23/09/2025

Hi lovely people 👋

I’m putting together a new programme for women who seem successful on the outside, but often feel drained, burned out or unfulfilled inside. They tend to prioritise others and forget about themselves, constantly trying to prove their worth.

Before I launch, I want to make sure it really speaks to women’s real needs - not just what I think they need.

That’s why I’ve created a 15–20 min questionnaire. If this sounds like you (or a friend you know), your input would mean so much.

👉 In return, I’ll create a short personalised summary for you, highlighting your key emotional wounds, core beliefs and some gentle first steps you can take to begin healing.

DM me if you’d like the link 💕

(Not selling anything here — just research and heart.)

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12/09/2025

You’ve always been the capable one.
The strong one. The beautiful one.

The one who holds it all together.

And yet - you feel invisible. Unfulfilled. Exhausted.
Even after all the books, podcasts, therapy…
You’re still stuck in patterns you can’t think your way out of.

Your self-worth got tied to how much you do, how good you look and how well you perform... and now you don’t know how to just be.

You keep showing up, giving more than you receive…
And the relationships around you still leave you feeling unseen, too much or never enough. 💔

But what if your healing doesn’t live in doing more?

What if it lives in reclaiming the younger parts of you who never felt safe being ordinary, soft, messy… human?

💛 I’m building something for you. Something deep, real and heart-led.

But before I finish it - I want to hear from you!

If you’re a self-aware woman who’s done “the work” but still doesn’t feel free + I’d love to ask you a few questions.

👉 DM me “ready” and I’ll send over a few questions (it takes 3–5 minutes max).

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04/09/2025

✈️ Overworking? → That’s flight.
🔥 Quick temper? → That’s fight.
❄️ Procrastination? → That’s freeze.
💞 Can’t say no? → That’s fawn.
🌑 Feeling hopeless? → That’s flop.

✨ These aren’t flaws. They’re trauma responses. And they can be healed.

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📖 Want to dive deeper? Read my article on animal defence responses and how they shape our patterns.

https://www.holistictransformativetherapy.com/post/the-five-animal-defences-how-your-nervous-system-shapes-your-coping-patterns

📝 And download your free Inner Child Healing Journal to start your healing journey today.

10/08/2025

You know the patterns.
You can name the feelings.
You understand exactly what happened to you…

…so why does it still feel like nothing’s shifting?

This is the moment so many of my clients reach before they come to me - when their healing has been mostly cognitive.

🧠 The mind understands.
💛 But the body and the deeper parts of you? They don’t yet feel safe.

And that’s not because you’ve failed. It’s because you’ve spent decades ignoring, suppressing or abandoning yourself. Your nervous system and your inner parts learnt survival, not connection.

The real transformation begins when you learn to connect emotionally with these parts:

✨ Lonely
✨ Overwhelmed
✨ Shamed
✨ Despairing
✨ Fearful
✨ Hopeless

And no - you don’t need to “fix” them.
You just need to be with them.
Even your presence is healing. 🌿

💌 I’ve created a free Inner Child Healing Journal with prompts + a guided audio so you can begin this work safely.

Click the link in my bio to download it today and take the first step from awareness to embodiment.

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