01/03/2026
Iâve always been a natural carer itâs in me, itâs who I am.Being the eldest of four, I grew up looking after everyone else, and that instinct has stayed with me all my life. I care without thinking. I give from the heart.
But lately Iâve had to be honest with myselfâŚ
What starts as âjust a bit of helpâ â a little cleaning, some gardening, popping in to check theyâre ok â slowly turns into full-on caring. Holding space for their worries, sorting things out, and then the constant calls when something else is wrong.
And itâs been getting heavy.
The hard part for me is that some of these people have families around them, they have the means to get the help they need and yet they still ring me and put it on me.
My heart will always care, that will never change.But Iâm learning that being a carer doesnât mean I have to carry everyone.
This isnât me becoming a different person.This is me putting loving boundaries around my energy as I move deeper into my own healing and my own path.
There is one very special lady I will always be there for.She has been in my life since I was a young girl, like a second mum to me, and the love and care I give to her comes from somewhere pure, balanced and real. That connection is sacred to me.
So this is where I am in my journey right now:
⨠I am still kind⨠I am still a carer⨠But I am no longer available to be taken for granted
My energy matters.My healing matters.And I matter too đ