ShellyTherapy

11/11/2025

Saying no doesn’t make you difficult. It makes you honest.

If you’ve been taught to please, fix, or smooth things over, saying no can feel wrong. But your ‘no’ is where self-respect begins.

Before you say yes, pause and ask yourself:
• Am I saying yes to avoid guilt or rejection?
• Will saying yes drain me?
• Do I actually want to say yes?

🪞If your body whispers no - listen.
It’s not selfish. It’s self-trust.

⚖️Therapy helps you find that voice again.
Because your calm depends on it.

| Anxiety & Confidence Specialist
Website: shellytherapy.com

09/11/2025

When you don’t know what to do, your brain goes into overdrive trying to fix it.

But uncertainty isn’t failure. It’s a natural pause while your mind and emotions realign.

In therapy, we often slow things down here, because confusion usually means you’re growing out of an old pattern. Your nervous system just hasn’t caught up yet.

If you’re feeling stuck or unsure, it’s not that you’re doing something wrong. It’s that you’re learning to choose differently this time.

Save this for the next time your thoughts spiral.
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07/11/2025

Opening up about how you feel can be hard.
Even in therapy. Even with someone you trust.

💫Most people think they need the perfect words before they speak. You don’t. You just need a safe person and a steady place to start.

This guide is here to make the first step feel lighter.
How to prepare.
What to say.
How to ask for the support you need.
And how to share things that are difficult to explain.

😶If you’ve been holding things in for a while, save this.
Use it when the pressure builds or when you want to talk but the words won’t land.

You’re allowed to take your time.
You’re allowed to speak slowly.
You’re allowed to be unsure.

And you deserve support that feels safe.

Save or share this with someone who might need it.

04/11/2025

When Grooming Habits Become Compulsions.

Cutting off your eyelashes on impulse or biting your nails until they bleed isn’t just a quirky habit , it may signal a body‑focused repetitive behavior (BFRB). BFRBs include hair pulling, skin picking, nail biting, and other actions driven by intense urges and are more than simple nervous tics .

These behaviors often provide momentary relief from tension or anxiety but can lead to shame or even physical harm. Genetics, brain differences, and emotion regulation difficulties all play a role .

If you catch yourself engaging in these behaviors, take a compassionate approach. Notice the urge and ask what triggered it: stress, boredom or perfectionism?

Therapies like habit‑reversal training and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) help build awareness and replace destructive habits with healthier alternatives .

Keeping hands busy with a stress ball or fidget toy, applying bitter‑tasting nail coatings, or wearing gloves at vulnerable times can reduce the urge. Speaking with a mental health professional can help you develop a tailored plan. Remember, you’re not alone, and recovery is possible.

If this resonates and you would like to know more, give me a call or book a free online consultation and we can discuss more, without obligation. Booking link

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04/11/2025

How to quiet food noise, without weight loss drugs.

Discover how hypnotherapy helped Jade quiet constant food thoughts without GLP-1s or medication. Real results, lasting change from the inside out.

03/11/2025

When Anxiety Isn’t Anxiety (Physical Conditions to Check)

I want to talk about something that comes up often in my work: the gap between what we’re feeling and what we’re being told we’re feeling.

It’s completely understandable to wonder if anxiety is behind your racing heart or shakiness, especially when those are the explanations offered to you. And yes, anxiety can absolutely create real physical sensations.

But here’s what’s important: sometimes our bodies are signaling something different, and we deserve to have that explored.

I’ve been reading through community discussions where people share their experiences, and a pattern keeps emerging. Someone spends months or even years managing anxiety symptoms that never quite respond to traditional approaches.

Then they discover it was actually something physical all alone, maybe a reaction to certain foods, a hormonal shift, or the way their body regulates when they change positions.

One story that stayed with me: someone finally realised their panic like episodes were allergic reactions. Not anxiety. Not all in their head. A real, physical response that needed a different kind of attention.

This isn’t about dismissing anxiety as a diagnosis, it’s very real and deserves proper care. This is about making sure we’re asking the full picture of questions first.

Some gentle guidance if this resonates:
If you’re experiencing symptoms that feel like panic but something feels off, maybe they come on without emotional triggers, or they happen in patterns (certain times of day, after eating, when you stand up) I encourage you to trust that feeling.

Keep notes. When do these feelings happen? What were you doing? What had you eaten? These patterns can be really illuminating.

And when you talk to your GP, it’s okay to ask about exploring other possibilities. You’re not being difficult. You’re being an advocate for yourself.

Share with someone who’s been questioning their anxiety lately.

Shared for information and support only. If you’re struggling or unsure, please speak with a qualified healthcare professional.

02/11/2025

Sometimes you just need to pause, breathe, and remember who you are beneath the noise.

🪴The world moves fast - but you don’t have to.
You’re allowed to slow down, start over, take up space, and choose peace.

These are the reminders I keep coming back to, the ones that help my clients (and me) rebuild calm, confidence, and self-trust.

🍂 Because healing isn’t about doing more.
It’s about learning to be again. Which reminder spoke to you most today? Let me know in the comments. Share with your bestie.

💭 Save this post for the days you forget how far you’ve already come.

31/10/2025

Therapy doesn’t have to feel daunting.
I offer a free consultation so you can see how we’d work together - no obligation, just clarity and support.

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30/10/2025

I enjoy holding my group sessions, a quiet space where everyone rests in deep physical calm, while I guide the deeper emotional knots to soften into a loose wave of peace.
Each one feels different, yet the stillness always lands the same.

🌙 Each session is uniquely crafted, guided by intuition, energy and seasonal influences.

🌟 By combining guided visualisation, sound healing and therapeutic techniques, I help your mind and body realign harmoniously.

While most of my work is one-to-one, group sessions offer a profoundly transformative collective energy - gentle, creative and uplifting. It gives my guests a quiet space to come together quietly and intentionally, each session feeling personally different yet deeply familiar.

It’s the meeting point of our humanity, where transformation happens.

Let’s stay together and keep our peace 💛

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30/10/2025

Slow mornings still move you forward.

Some mornings aren’t made for momentum.
They’re made for letting the sun touch your face,
for slow coffee, open windows, and breathing room.

If you need a reminder today -
rest is productive too.
So is pause, quiet, and slowness.

The world won’t fall apart if you slow down.
Sometimes that’s exactly how it starts to fall back into place.

Which one do you need most today, rest, pause, quiet, or slowness?
Save this for the next time you forget that slowing down counts too.

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