The Nurturing Coach

The Nurturing Coach Specialist support for individuals affected by parental narcissistic abuse including adult children Sessions can be done in clinic or over Skype.

Our Positive Parenting After Abuse, provide specialist group coaching. We also offer one:one sessions with our counselling team for those of you who need that little bit more support. Costs: £50 for a session. For more information hit the blue Contact Us button

DO YOU SET YOURSELF GOALS? Most people have some goals in life. It might be "be a good parent" or "be happy" or it coul...
19/02/2026

DO YOU SET YOURSELF GOALS?

Most people have some goals in life. It might be "be a good parent" or "be happy" or it could be much more specific like "be a millionaire" or "be a graphic designer".

Studies have shown that people who write their goals down are 46% more likely to achieve them.

Why is that?

Firstly, because it gives you clarity on what you really want. That sets intention. Your 🧠 likes instructions.

Secondly, it gives you focus. The brain loves to know what to focus 🔍 on.

Thirdly, there's an amazing part of our brain called the Reticular Activating System which once you set your intention and focus on it for a while, it will start to show you (reticular 👀 ) opportunities to make that dream become a reality.

It is one of the first exercises in Get Court Ready because so far your focus has been towards the narcissistic ex and their games. I want you to shift woards what you REALLY want and allow your brain to help you achieve it.

So take a moment to today to think about what your TOP 3️⃣ LIFE GOALS are and if you feel comfortable, share them below 👇

The tension starts building hours before each custody exchange. Your stomach knots as you prepare for the unpredictable ...
18/02/2026

The tension starts building hours before each custody exchange.

Your stomach knots as you prepare for the unpredictable reactions, the potential public scenes, the possibility that one wrong word could trigger an explosion that impacts your children.

What should be a simple handoff has become a source of constant anxiety and stress.

While some tension during custody exchanges is normal after divorce, there's a point where it crosses into dangerous territory.

The challenge is knowing where that line is and what to do when you're dealing with more than just typical post-divorce emotions.

This uncertainty can leave you paralysed, affecting not just your wellbeing but your children's sense of security.

The High Conflict Personality Test was created specifically to help parents navigate these challenging waters.

This comprehensive assessment looks at the patterns of behaviour you're experiencing and helps you understand whether you're dealing with normal divorce stress or something more serious.

You'll gain clarity on why certain situations consistently escalate and learn to recognise the early warning signs of high-conflict episodes.

When you complete the assessment, you'll receive our essential guide "5 Steps to Handle High-Conflict Exes in Court" absolutely free.

This practical resource offers specific strategies for managing custody exchanges, protecting yourself legally, and maintaining a stable environment for your children.

You'll learn effective techniques for de-escalating tense situations and documenting problematic behaviours in a way that courts take seriously.

Stop dreading every custody exchange.

Understanding what you're dealing with is the first step toward creating safer, more stable transitions for you and your children.

Take the quiz now and gain the insights you need to handle these challenging situations with confidence and clarity.

Because you and your children deserve peace of mind during these necessary interactions.

Click below to take the High Conflict Personality Test

https://f.mtr.cool/xwxedavhsg

This week I thought we could look at safe handovers and contact because these can be fraught with anxiety and fear.This ...
17/02/2026

This week I thought we could look at safe handovers and contact because these can be fraught with anxiety and fear.
This is the one time that you potentially have to have physical contact with your ex and it can be used to bait you and create conflict.

SO LET'S START WITH PREPARATION:

Where are you going to conduct handovers?

In an ideal world, with a "normal" ex, it would be safe to do these at each others houses when necessary but obviously with a narcissistic ex, you don't want them near your home if at all possible. So my advice is to do the following:
Utilise schools or nursery - one drops off the other other picks up. that way you don't have to see each other at all
For weekends or out of schools hours, use a public place preferably with CCTV cameras and people

How are you going to communicate any necessary information with your ex?

You will need to speak to them, it is beneficial to the children to do so, but remember to KISS. No, not that type of kiss (urgg). Keep It Short and Simple. Facts only and zero emotion. You could consider a communication book for smaller children but be prepared for them to use it to start an argument, make an accusation or belittle you. As with all other forms of communication, do not respond with emotion. KISS.

How do I manage the kids not wanting to go?

First step is to make sure you own anxiety is in check. Children are sponges and have been conditioned to detect the slightest mood change and so if you are feeling anxious, they will pick up on it and begin to feel anxious themselves. Do some deep breathing, stretch and chew on some gum to trick your nervous system into relaxing.

The natural response to your child feeling anxious is to try and reassure them or tell them "it's OK, it's only for a few days" but that only serves to reinforce that they have something to be afraid of. Instead tell them you have confidence in them. Acknowledge but don't reinforce. There is a whole section in the book with more details on how to help your child manage their anxiety (https://thenurturingcoach.co.uk/co-parenting-book)

Many of you have to balance the reality of an emotionally abusive parent in a system which encourages contact. I can totally understand the frustration with that but unfortunately the reality is that your child will have a relationship with the other parent. It may not be a quality relationship but it exists. Your role as their parent is to help them to manage that relationship. What they learn now as children will help them in adulthood and will protect them from other abusive situations and people. Focus your energy on helping them build resilience, confidence, self identity and independence.

Break the chains of emotional imprisonment with our I Am Safe course.Through practical somatic healing and nervous syste...
16/02/2026

Break the chains of emotional imprisonment with our I Am Safe course.

Through practical somatic healing and nervous system regulation, you can move from feeling trapped to experiencing true freedom.

"I no longer feel stuck—I finally feel free," shares one course graduate.

For just £49, gain lifetime access to tools that liberate you from trauma's grip.

Click here to get the I Am Safe course: https://f.mtr.cool/feqjkzmtvv

13/02/2026

Boundaries don't come naturally, it's a skill you have to learn

WHY DID THE NARCISSIST CROSS THE ROAD? IT THOUGHT IT WAS A BOUNDARY
13/02/2026

WHY DID THE NARCISSIST CROSS THE ROAD? IT THOUGHT IT WAS A BOUNDARY

“Everyone believes their version of events - even the mediator seems convinced. I feel like I'm taking crazy pills!"If t...
11/02/2026

“Everyone believes their version of events - even the mediator seems convinced. I feel like I'm taking crazy pills!"

If this sounds like your custody battle, you're experiencing one of the most frustrating aspects of dealing with a high-conflict ex: their ability to convince others that you're the problem.

What makes this situation especially dangerous is that while you're trying to "take the high road" and "be reasonable," your ex may be systematically undermining your relationship with your children and your credibility in court.

The High Conflict Personality Test helps you break this destructive cycle by:

- Exposing hidden manipulation patterns
- Revealing how high-conflict personalities influence professionals
- Identifying DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) tactics
- Showing you how to maintain your credibility effectively

Plus, you'll get our powerful guide "5 Steps to Handle High-Conflict Exes in Court" absolutely FREE.

Inside, you'll discover:

- How to document behaviours that courts take seriously
- Ways to protect your children from manipulation
- Strategies to maintain professional credibility
- Methods to counter false narratives effectively

Stop watching helplessly as your ex controls the narrative.

Understanding what you're dealing with gives you the power to protect yourself and your children.

Take the quiz now - because your relationship with your children is too important to leave unprotected.

Click below to take the High Conflict Personality Test

https://f.mtr.cool/toehjfpxlh

You survived narcissistic abuse.But surviving isn’t the same as feeling safe.If you still feel on edge…If criticism hits...
11/02/2026

You survived narcissistic abuse.

But surviving isn’t the same as feeling safe.

If you still feel on edge…
If criticism hits like danger…
If you swing between hyper-vigilance and shutdown…
If you question your own reality…

There is nothing “wrong” with you.

Your nervous system adapted.

In our latest blog, we explain how we support survivors of narcissistic abuse at The Nurturing Coach — using a holistic, trauma-informed approach that works with:

🧠 The brain (understanding how trauma reshapes stress and memory)
🌿 The nervous system (regulation before processing)
💛 Attachment (rebuilding safety in relationships)
🪞 Identity (restoring self-trust after gaslighting)
🤝 Community and connection (belonging without self-loss)

For almost 10 years, this has been our specialism.

Not quick fixes.
Not bypassing.
Not “just move on.”

Structured healing. At your pace.

If you’re ready to understand what’s happening inside you — and why it makes sense — this is for you.

Read the full blog here: https://thenurturingcoach.co.uk/blog/how-the-nurturing-coach-supports-victims-of-narcissistic-abuse

You are not broken.
Your nervous system is learning safety again.





Of course you want to move on. No-one wants to dwell on a traumatic experience. But your wonderful brain simply won't ...
11/02/2026

Of course you want to move on. No-one wants to dwell on a traumatic experience. But your wonderful brain simply won't allow you to just "forget it". It keeps replaying and questioning. Keeping you in a loop.

We get asked so often by clients "why can't I just get over this?"

Because it is not just a break up or a family fall out.

It's trauma.

And trauma needs a specialised approach.

So when you are ready to break from, get in touch for a free initial chat about how we can support you moving on https://thenurturingcoach.co.uk/support

"I don't feel lost anymore—I know how to organize my evidence and prove my case." Turn confusion into confidence with ou...
09/02/2026

"I don't feel lost anymore—I know how to organize my evidence and prove my case."

Turn confusion into confidence with our proven EvidenceTracker system.

Click here to get Master Your Evidence: https://f.mtr.cool/bbozuemzqa

Court dates can stir up a lot, even before you step into the room. ⚖️Creating a calm routine, limiting triggering input,...
06/02/2026

Court dates can stir up a lot, even before you step into the room. ⚖️

Creating a calm routine, limiting triggering input, and anchoring yourself with one steady coping practice can help your body feel safer and more grounded. Planning time to decompress afterwards gives your nervous system space to settle again. 😇

We can support you through the process, helping you feel steadier, clearer, and emotionally prepared.

🌐 thenurturingcoach.co.uk

Holding space for your child and your own well-being takes strength and care. Both deserve attention. 💛Trauma, co-parent...
05/02/2026

Holding space for your child and your own well-being takes strength and care. Both deserve attention. 💛

Trauma, co-parenting and court involvement can keep stress high, making it harder to stay calm and clear headed. Healing creates space to respond with intention rather than survival. 💪

If this feels familiar, reach out and explore supportive, trauma-informed guidance today.

👉 Visit thenurturingcoach.co.uk to start the conversation.

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Who are we?

I set up The Nurturing Coach after a life-changing encounter with a narcissist. I searched for support and struggled to find anything which really resonated with me and so I decided to create what I had needed.

To me The Nurturing Coach represents the lighthouse in your storm.

You may have just spotted the huge wave coming and so are searching for answers - we got you.

The wave may have hit and you are floundering about, unsure how and if you will make it to safety - we got you.