14/11/2025
Therapist turns therapoet
Hope this maybe resonates or helps ❤️🙏🏻
Sometimes I get asked why did you become a therapist and my answer can vary day to day but in a nutshell it’s this
I’ve learned to dance a different dance to the one I got taught, although I don’t always maintain the awareness to remember to change the steps.
It’s a rare and insanely satisfying privelege to be able to sit opposite the chair I once used to occupy and facilitate a safe space for often troubled souls to teach themselves that they too can change the steps in their own dance.
Sometimes, however, I still get my dance wrong and recently I have found (thanks to an inspiring and wonderful friend and fellow therapist) that writing has helped so……here goes!
Healing
The painful learning, the rawness of growing the mastering of not showing the pain of rejections that seem so real,
The flavours that went before showing up at every door, is this. Nothing or something more is the pain real, what’s the deal
Developmental trauma, written across your nervous system like the words in a seaside rock, manifesting as traits of neurodivergence, affecting relationships everyday, hindering connections, if you allow it, like a road block
Learning the art of making generous assumptions isn’t an easy task, finding the strength to glance in the mirror to instead question yourself is often a big ask
Hypervigilance exists from a lifetime of fight or flight, but attention deficit and hyperactivity shows when viewed in the world’s generic light
How do we know what is what?
Can trauma be the explanation when spectrum traits open more doors, are the topics that remain hot!
Maybe the pain dissolving can lead to the evolving required to alter the exit through the door that’s revolving
Let them, let me, Mel Robbins states clearly, but emotional boundarying isn’t that easy, is it, really?
Authentic connection when rarely found can feel like a warm blanket, a tight hug, a reprieve from your amygdala, that old guard dog hound
Those old neural pathways aren’t easily avoided against the backdrop of every day life, it often feels easier to hide away, avoid the world, simply dodge the strife
So what’s the solution to this never ending question, take it or leave it here is a suggestion
Make every effort to keep your side of the street clean, be authentic, be kind and avoid being mean
Own your insecurities with those you can trust, hope your connections are true and just
Let those that aren’t simply fade away, have patience and gratitude for those that stay
Healing can feel lonely but try not to feel sad, connecting with yourself is part of the journey, it’s not always bad
Find compassion for your inner child who didn’t get what they need, don’t be your own worst enemy, sit with acceptance and plant the following seed
Based mostly on experience here is part of my how, pour into your own cup first before others. Presence is everything, sit gently in the here and now,
Breath deeply when required to calm an unexpected storm, look after yourself, make that the new daily norm
Quit vying for attention which when lacking leaves your insides crying, no more of that trying, to fit in, lacking authenticity while your sense of self is simultaneously dying, understand that the piece of s**t that your brain can sometimes be, while you stop with the sighing, is simply, following your pre-programmed nervous system and is in fact straight up to your face sometimes just out and out lying!
So that’s it in a nutshell, healing, for free, for what it’s worth, according to me.
Presence and self care might just be the chip shot you need to get your ball out of the rough.
Stop doing. Stop trying.
You’re good. You’re enough.
