25/10/2025
My menopause story began long before I ever heard the word POI. Sharing it today to mark the first World POI Day, created by the incredible team at
POI, or Premature Ovarian Insufficiency, is when the ovaries stop working before 40.
My menstrual cycle was horrendous from the start. Fainting, awful cramps, days each month where I could barely function. I believed this was how it was meant to be. That it was normal. That it was part of being a woman.
At 30, I began my fertility journey, the same year I was diagnosed with coeliac disease. Looking back, I wonder how long it had been silently affecting my body, energy, hormones, and perhaps my fertility. Give it a year, they said. A year came and went. Then came medication to support ovulation. More checks. More sighs. Passed from one doctor to the next.
Soon after my coeliac diagnosis, I noticed changes that didnāt make sense. Another piece of the puzzle was revealing itself. I asked the same question again and again. Could this be early menopause? Each time, I was told no.
At 34, I began IVF. It was a physical, mental and emotional rollercoaster. I tried to stay positive, but my body didnāt respond well. I was on the highest dose of medication, and it took its toll.
Ten months after having my daughter, my miracle IVF baby, I was finally told I had Premature Ovarian Insufficiency, also known as early menopause.
Even in the medical space, the diagnosis, support and follow-up care were almost non-existent. I donāt know how I got through those weeks, months and years, and with a young baby too.
Weāve moved forward since I was diagnosed, but there are still mountains to move before women have access to gold-standard menopause care as the norm.
I did just get on with it for a long time, until I wasnāt prepared to any longer. And Iāll be damned if Iām going to watch others just get on with it too.
That experience became the reason I do what I do today, to help women understand their bodies, feel confident to self-advocate, and find support grounded in empathy and evidence.
World POI Day is a reminder that early menopause deserves recognition, research and real support š