16/12/2025
Sleeping by yourself night after night is tough.
You miss the warmth and intimacy of having someone else cuddling up to you and sharing your bed don’t you? Sleeping by yourself reinforces feelings of loneliness and sadness.
You start to despair and convince yourself that it will always be this way and you think that you aren’t good enough and that no-one else would want to share a bed with you because you aren’t good-looking and desirable enough. I know, because I’ve been there…
But you’re wrong; the real reason you’re sleeping alone and waking up by yourself is you’ve lost your self-confidence. You’ve been damaged by past failures in your relationships and consequently have lost the ability to trust others. Often you don’t even trust your own judgement anymore.
This is because you’ve dated the wrong type of person; people that ultimately you weren’t compatible with and sometimes you’ve made the same mistake multiple times. This has left you devoid of confidence and with low self-esteem, to such an extent that you’ve stopped believing in yourself.
You’ve become afraid of dating because you’ve had enough of getting hurt and being disappointed. So, living a lonely life has become preferable to meeting the wrong person again. But this is killing you isn’t it because you want the intimacy of sharing your bed with someone special again.
The solution is to learn how to fall in love with yourself again, and I’m not talking about vanity. Falling in love with yourself means respecting yourself, appreciating yourself and ultimately liking and accepting the person who you are.
When you love yourself you are a confident person with high self-esteem. You become a risk taker, no longer consumed by self-doubt and fear, and you want to get out there and show the confident version of yourself to the world.
It’s only by learning to love yourself again that you can expect others to love you and you do this by radiating confidence.
Want to start liking what you see in the mirror? If the answer is yes and you’re over 30 and fed up of being single and lonely then my program, The Confident Dater System, could be just what you need.
If you’re interested, please DM me for more info. We can then arrange a free 30-minute Zoom call.
Take care and always believe in yourself – Russell