Russell Edwards Confidence Coaching

11/02/2026

Confidence vs no confidence. It’s a no brainer.

You know mind over matter is a real thing and I didn’t realise this myself a few years ago. I just thought it was a load of New Age bull. But trust me it’s not.

And when you’re a person suffering from confidence issues and low self-esteem it’s a very important lesson that you need to learn, just like I did.

Positive thinking is so important as an aid to recovery.
Let me give you an example from my life, and this occurred yesterday.

Most of you know that I had a partial meniscectomy operation in November. I had been struggling with a pain in my left knee for about a year. I’d tried physio but nothing was working.

I had been kicked in the knee during a krav maga training session and just asn’t able to recover. I could no longer walk long distances and I even experienced pain walking short distances.

It literally drove me mad as all my life I have been an active person who enjoys jogging and walking.

But here’s the kicker and the importance of positive thinking: I was given the all-clear by my surgeon and physio and so began walking for an hour every morning at 6am.

I had also gone back to jogging and everything appeared to be going fine.

But then I began to experience twinges in my knee. I think it was my imagination as I was told that the tissue that was causing me discomfort had been cut away. I had a strip of skin that was hanging down and was causing the pain.

Anyway, for the past week I had felt in discomfort but carried on walking every day. Yesterday I said to myself “Blow this” as I walked.
As I adopted this positive mindset, guess what?

Yes, the pain disappeared and today I woke up feeling great and pain free.

I walked around for an hour with a spring in my step like a young gazelle.

A much younger Russell Kurt Edwards wouldn’t have had the confidence to tell himself that he was imagining his discomfort.

But a confident one did and his subconscious mind responded accordingly. Positive thinking is everything, so why not learn how to do this?

Have questions? Drop me a comment below or reach out directly—I’m happy to help!

I help people with the following issues:

• low self-esteem
• confidence issues
• social anxiety
• career progression
• relationship difficulties

Please take care and know that you can beat this – Russell

10/02/2026

Isn't it time you started following me?

07/02/2026

06/02/2026

Having low self-esteem really costs you

Because I was stuck in a miserable relationship of co-dependency for a year I lost all my confidence and allowed myself to be controlled. This meant that I made choices that suited someone else but not me.

Personal freedom is very important to me and in my younger years I was very fortunate to have a lot of this: I went to university for four years and so there were lots of holidays and short days at the university.

I never took this freedom for granted and always had summer jobs such as working as a waiter in the Swiss alps. At university I would typically be home by 3:30 pm and so used to go running round the park every afternoon.

When I got my first job working for a shipping company in London the loss of control over my free time really affected me. In fact, I grew to loathe having to be at work from 9-5 every day and the daily commute of 90 minutes each way. I became mentally exhausted.

I basically allowed myself to be pressured into the first job that came along because I didn’t have the confidence to stand my ground and wait for the right job. I remember thinking that my world was shrinking, that I was being controlled and the weekends just seemed to be so short. Then everything changed when I split up with my girlfriend.

One summer’s day in July I remember meeting up with a friend in my lunch hour. He was a teacher and on holiday for the summer. I was so envious as we sat having a beer. He was doing a job that he was passionate about, whereas I wasn’t.

I decided there and then that I wanted what he had: he loved his job. Back in those days teaching meant a short working day, lots of holidays and the opportunity to help nurture and shape young minds.

I often think of that hour in the pub with my friend George with a sense of profound gratitude because it truly shaped my life. I went back to university just a few months later and became a teacher and really loved my job.

Don’t let your confidence issues hold you back in your working life because life’s too short to be miserable. If you’re struggling with low self-esteem and confidence issues why not get in touch if you need a helping hand?

Have questions? Drop me a comment below or reach out directly—I’m happy to help!

I help people with the following issues:

• low self-esteem
• confidence issues
• social anxiety
• career progression
• relationship difficulties

Please take care and know that you can beat this – Russell

04/02/2026

When you’re lonely it’s so easy to find yourself daydreaming, isn’t it?

Daydreaming about a happier and more fulfilling life where you’re surrounded by love. A life that could be yours if only you had the confidence to do something about it.

Break ups are tough; being lonely is tough because whereas you once had someone to share your adventures with, now you don’t and this just reinforces your loneliness.

For example, imagine yourself on a beautiful beach somewhere. The sky is blue and the sun is gloriously hot, not a cloud in the sky. You’re sipping a cocktail from the beach bar and should be feeling happy and content.

Except you’re not because you’re alone and single on this holiday; none of your friends wanted to come as they had already made plans with their boyfriends. You think that they’re selfish and don’t care about you, but that’s not really true is it.

This is exactly the scenario that my client Jayne found herself in last year: she had a close knit goup of friends, but ever since she started going out with her ex she no longer had time for them, so they stopped bothering with her.

Her boyfriend was a controlling and manipulative man and Jayne went along with his behaviour because she had no self-confidence. After six months he cheated on her anyway and left her feeling distraught. After being with him her self-esteem really hit rock bottom.

After a year Jayne was finally over him and wanted to get back out into the dating world again. But she was afraid and lacked the confidence to do so until she started working with me.

Through working together Jayne was able to learn that the key to rebuilding your self-confidence is to nurture your relationship with yourself: to start giving yourself the appreciation you deserve.

She also learnt that she has a voice and that she deserves to be respected by her boyfriend. To attract the right person you have to learn to love, accept and respect yourself again and to truly believe that you are deserving of love.

Once you have learnt how to do this your confidence will come soaring back and you’ll feel ready to get back out there into the dating world. You’ll also discover, like Jayne did, that your new-found confidence will attract people.

Want to start liking what you see in the mirror? If the answer is yes and you’re fed up of being single and lonely then my program, The Confident Dater System, could be just what you need.

If you’re interested, please DM me for more info. We can then arrange a free 30-minute Zoom call.

Take care and always believe in yourself – Russell

02/02/2026

Stop being so hard on yourself

02/02/2026

Self-Love vs. Narcissism

In a world that often profits from our insecurities, the concept of "self-love" is frequently dismissed as a fluffy marketing term or, worse, a mask for vanity. We are taught from a young age that humility is a virtue and that focusing on oneself is a fast track to egoism.

But here is the grounded truth: Self-love is not the same as being "in love" with yourself. One is a sturdy foundation for a functional life; the other is a house of mirrors. Understanding this distinction is the single most important step in regaining the self-confidence you may have lost along the way.

1. The Great Misconception

Before we can build confidence, we have to clear the debris of misinformation. Many people resist self-love because they fear becoming "stuck up" or narcissistic. However, these two states of being are actually opposites.

• Being "In Love" with Yourself (Vanity/Narcissism): This is characterised by an obsession with image, status, and external validation. It is fragile. It requires being "better" than others to feel worthy. It is a loud, defensive armour built to hide a hollow core.

• Loving Yourself (Self-Compassion/Acceptance): This is a quiet, internal realisation that your value is inherent and non-negotiable. It isn’t about thinking you are perfect; it’s about accepting your flaws while still being on your own team.

Think of it like a parent’s love for a child. A good parent doesn’t think their child is a flawless god; they see the child’s mistakes and messy hair, yet their commitment to that child’s well-being is absolute. That is self-love. It isn’t vain: it’s vital.

2. Why Self-Love is the "Fuel" for Confidence

Confidence is often mistaken for a personality trait you’re either born with or you aren’t. In reality, confidence is a byproduct of self-trust.

When you don’t love yourself, you become your own harshest critic. Every mistake is seen as a moral failing rather than a learning opportunity. This creates a "fear state" in the brain.

If you know that failing at a task will result in hours of internal verbal abuse, your brain will naturally try to protect you by avoiding risks. This avoidance is what we call a "lack of confidence."

If you would like to read the full article please click on the link below in the COMMENTS

Have questions? Drop me a comment below or reach out directly—I’m happy to help!

Please take care and know that you can beat this – Russell

01/02/2026

A one night stand is so bad for your self-confidence

29/01/2026

27/01/2026

Being single and lonely can really affect your self-confidence, can’t it?

And the longer you remain single the worse it gets: you start to feel unattractive and lack the self-belief to start talking to another person because you fear rejection.

This was exactly how a friend of mine had been feeling. John had been really miserable for the past six months, ever since his girlfriend of two years had split up with him. In fact his self-esteem was at rock bottom.

Despite the best intentions of his friends he wasn’t interested in meeting anyone else because being dumped had stripped him of his confidence; he just didn’t feel attractive anymore. But he was also very lonely.

One cold December evening, a week before Christmas, he was on the bus back from Cromer to Norwich after visiting his parents.
Suddenly without warning as the bus was meandering through country lanes and villages it broke down. The heating went off and it was freezing.

As luck would have it, the bus broke down outside a pub in a small village. After 10 minutes John decided he would rather wait inside the warm pub for the relief bus to arrive.

As he got off, another person followed him inside the pub. Her name was Maria and the two of them immediately struck up a conversation. The pub was cozy, with a warm open fire and was so Christmassy and romantic.

At first they laughed about the bus breaking down and as their conversation progressed John felt so relaxed and content being with this beautiful stranger. It soon became apparent that there was chemistry between them.

After 45 minutes the bus driver appeared to tell them that the relief bus had arrived. John and Maria sat next to each other on the way back to Norwich. When they arrived they went for another drink.

From being in the depths of despair and not able to trust another woman, John’s confidence soared. He and Maria spent Christmas together and have been together ever since.

Isn’t it strange how a bus ride can change your whole life? You just never know what’s around the corner…

John learnt from this experience that sometimes you just have to take that leap of faith and jump right in if it feels right. But to do this you have to have the confidence to believe in yourself because sitting on the fence and doing nothing will get you nowhere.

Want to start liking what you see in the mirror? If the answer is yes and you’re over 30 and fed up of being single and lonely then my program, The Confident Dater System, could be just what you need.

Have questions? Drop me a comment below or reach out directly—I’m happy to help!

Please take care and know that you can beat this – Russell

27/01/2026

26/01/2026

Stop waiting for someone to choose you and start becoming the person you’d choose for yourself. The shift is smaller than you think. 🔗 [Link in comments]