Stef’s Place

26/02/2026

26/02/2026

Frozen to a spot on the stairs because there's so many upstairs and downstairs jobs to do and my washing machine finished and the thing needed charging and my 2nd ADHD assessment pre titration assessment was this morning and my heart started to palpitate because there's was so many questions about my liver health which always makes me feel like I'm in trouble for drinking what everyone else drank when we were younger and the habit of opening wine and having a bottle and a cocktail or two with crisps and dip, most nights, anyway facing that reality of not being a capable human because I've not spent time reading up on what I can do to help myself is very confronting. Changes need to be made but it's like buying a new notebook, it starts with underling titles and by this afternoon I'll forget I even own it or have ever seen it. It's the same when I haven't seen a friend in a while or my mum. I forget she's dead, I forget I have friends I don't see and then I feel so much shame and guilt. I know that's an ADHD THING. The psychiatrist also strongly suggested I ask to be assessed for autism as well. Perimenopause has brought all this to the surface. I never used to be this feeble!

26/02/2026

Oh oh here she goes (Maniacal laugh whilst tapping fingers tips together...)

21/02/2026

Chickens and rats and seedlings

21/02/2026

Edgeworthia Chrysanthemum Grandiflora

19/02/2026

19/02/2026

I learnt a new 'Hack' for positivity and spiralling upwards this morning. If you're anything like me you also mine for dopamine everywhere and this helps.
Step 1. Set a one minute timer on your phone
Step 2. Think of things you've experienced, the cup of coffee you had this morning, you saw an animal yesterday. Really visualise that beautiful moment and how great it tasted/ felt/ sounded, you get the picture.
Step 3. Set another minute timer of your phone and repeat. If you do this three times your brain automatically starts scanning for memories of things that felt/ sounded/ tasted amazing. Boosting dopamine ❤️

Now your happier

16/02/2026

16/02/2026

16/02/2026

16/02/2026

Moving mums rose bush whilst budding. To make a rose garden/ archway. My mum loved red roses. She didn't want a funeral so I asked family and friends to fill her bedroom with roses, not to simulate a funeral which I've only just realised it looked like or must have come across as! Flip sake. Anyhoo, they all delivered literally. They filled her room with beautiful long stems of the deepest red roses and she felt so loved and so cared for she smiled for a long time those days. Sadly it gave my sister more work moving them to and from her bedroom at night and in the morning because it's no bueno to have all that green in your room at night so I'm told. So I'm sorry for that sister but it made mum happy so I know you didn't mind. Anyhoo moving her rose bush, if it does I'll be sad but not as sad as when mum died and it'll just be mum taking it to wherever she is and minding it until I see her again. Looks pretty stable, fingers crossed it flourishes but in the immortal words of Doris Day, what will be will be !

28/03/2022

Dear all, as of the 1st April my business is closing. It’s been so much fun working with everyone over the last 8 years and I’ve loved every minute of it. I’m still available for advice and the odd weekend session but for now the door are closing and I’m moving on to new adventures. Thank you so so much to all my loyal clients that have become friends and to everyone that’s ever written a lovely review of my work. You’ve helped me achieve my life long dream of being a full time working mum and earn enough money along the way as a single mum to make memories that will last a lifetime for my daughter. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart ♥️

I’m so grateful to have been able to help people and to have made a few laugh along the way. Please get in touch if you need the odd treatment on the weekends but I’m heading back into the business world Monday- Fridays.

It’s been such a beautiful experience to be welcomed into countless homes and spend my time getting people back doing what they love through massage. My passion and joy since I was a child massaging my mothers feet and shoulders bringing a smile to her face. Thank you all so so much. Lots of love Stef xx