Annetta Apol Therapies

13/11/2025

What feeds our negative thoughts loop?

30/10/2025

“The depth and beauty of the world continue undistracted.”

I was struck recently by this this quote from Pico Iyer.

I feel so easily distracted these days - especially by social media. Even if I look for specific things, my attention is quickly pulled elsewhere. It’s a real test of staying focussed, which I often don’t.

When I’m travelling around I see so many just endlessly scrolling, whilst the ever changing landscapes and seasons pass them by.

It makes me sad to see this.

Even if I am distracted, the beauty of the world still continues. It’s up to me where I put my attention.

Do you get distracted easily? How do you deal with it?

17/10/2025

One thing makes the difference between over-reacting and be8ng able to pause and consider.

14/10/2025

I love these sounds, so soothing.

What sounds do you love?

10/10/2025

Do you feel like a different person when you're triggered?

02/10/2025

Exciting news!

This introduction weekend into the NARM way of working with trauma is happening in London.

It will be a very hands-on, experiential 2 days.

I'm super excited and can't wait to see you there.

I've reposted the slides from the .

01/10/2025

Ever find yourself reacting way bigger than the situation calls for?

It's often not about this moment.

04/09/2025

27/08/2025

When strategies become obstacles.

19/08/2025

Five signs you are getting triggered in your relationship.

These often stem from early life experiences and can lead to intense, out of proportion reactions in the present.

I'm sure most of us have over-reacted with our partner.

But when this happens often, it's helpful to start noticing what sets it off.

When you start to recognise the signs, it helps you better understand your emotional responses. And it becomes easier to do something about it.



# triggers

13/08/2025

How low self esteem shows up in your relationship.

These are all ways you have been shamed, judged, put down.

And you've started to believe it's true.

But it isn't who you really are.

And it is possible to change this script.

07/08/2025

“I’m not afraid of losing my family anymore when I don’t agree with them.”

That's what Eva said to me recently.

She can now clearly see the old dynamic for what it is - and it doesn’t have a hold over her anymore.

But this wasn't always like this.
All her life she was afraid to speak up to her siblings, for fear that they would push her out.

Instead, she pleased them. She did what they wanted. She ignored her own wishes and needs. Then felt frustrated with herself.

“Yesterday, I told my sister that I didn’t want to do it her way” eva said.

“I surprised myself - and it felt good.”

This change didn’t come overnight for Eva - it was a process. She had some great breakthroughs, some setbacks and more breakthroughs.

But she kept going and now she can set clear boundaries with her siblings, calmly and clearly.

And she noticed the positive impact in other areas of her life too.

What dynamics do you feel stuck in?