The Therapy Lounge

24/12/2025

We wish you a very Happy, Peaceful and Love-filled Christmas, and a truly Magical 2026.

Warmest regards,
Steve and Kirsten

16/10/2025

For many of us, people-pleasing started as a protection pattern.�When we sensed disapproval, distance, or tension growing up, our body learnt that being “good” or keeping others happy kept us safe and connected.

But as adults, that same pattern can leave us feeling anxious, resentful, and disconnected from ourselves.

The good news?�Our body always knows when something isn’t right - a tight chest, a knot in the stomach, that quiet feeling of “off.”�That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.

In the full vlog post on our website (link in bio) I share:�🌿 Why people-pleasing is a nervous system response�🌿 How to recognise when you’re in “pleaser mode”�🌿 Small, gentle ways to start setting boundaries that feel safe

It’s not about pushing people away - it’s about coming home to yourself. 💓

Kirsten x

How to say no without guilt explained by Kirsten Dahlerup hypnotherapist

21/09/2025

NEW VLOG POST link in bio.

“Yep, 57 years later, I’ve finally got some ink on my body – the permanent kind!

As I explain in the video, this wasn’t some mid-life crisis, a box-ticking exercise, or a desperate attempt to look edgy and cool. It’s part of my ongoing commitment to emotional health and wellbeing.

The words Acceptance and Gratitude are now permanently etched into my arm as a constant reminder of two of the most valuable resources I have for living something close to my best life..”

Click the link in our bio to learn more about what acceptance and gratitude mean to Steve - and why bringing awareness to these values can help you in your everyday life.
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10/09/2025

In Support Of my Emotional Health -
I just Got My First Ever Tattoo!

Yep, 57 years later, I’ve finally got some ink on my body – the permanent kind!

As I explain in the video, this wasn’t some mid-life crisis, a box-ticking exercise, or a desperate attempt to look edgy and cool. It’s part of my ongoing commitment to emotional health and wellbeing.

The words Acceptance and Gratitude are now permanently etched into my arm as a constant reminder of two of the most valuable resources I have for living something close to my best life!
Steve Burns Very First Tattoo
Read blogpost or watch video

So there you have it - an old man with a new Tattoo!

If I can help you better understand the value of Acceptance and Gratitude and how you might choose to integrate these resources into your mind (without a tattoo!) and therefore your life, please do let me know - it will be a pleasure to help.

My very best wishes,

Steve

Steve Burns

Emotional Coach, Therapist & Clinical Hypnotherapist

Acceptance & Gratitude Explained by Steve Burns, Emotional Coach

20/08/2025

Inside each of us lives a part that’s curious, playful, present, brave, and full of joy - our inner child.
But over time, life experiences, trauma, and the pressure to 'fit in' can cause that light to dim. We may hide it, silence it, or numb it away… and in doing so, lose touch with one of the most vital parts of who we are.

Your inner child isn’t just a memory - it’s the source of creativity, spontaneity, and emotional truth. When we reconnect with it, healing and transformation become possible.

That’s exactly what I help clients to do through hypnotherapy.
- Heal old emotional wounds
- Restore joy and creativity
- Feel whole, present, and truly alive

In my latest video, I share more about how we lose touch with our inner child - and how you can begin to reconnect with yours.

If you feel that spark calling to you, I’d love to support you. You don’t have to do it alone.

Get in touch to hear more about how I can help.

Warmest wishes

Kirsten

inner child healing, reconnect with inner child, hypnotherapy for trauma, emotional healing, healing inner child hypnotherapy, inner child work, personal growth

21/05/2025

Healthy boundaries are the foundation of respectful, connected relationships.

Setting boundaries is how you teach others to love and respect the real you. Without them, you risk losing yourself trying to meet everyone else's expectations, needs, or moods. Boundaries protect your mental and emotional resources — and in doing so, they allow your relationships to thrive in a space of mutual respect.

You are not an all-you-can-eat buffet. You’re a curated menu — you choose what’s on offer and when.

If you’d like to know more, click on the link for our newest blog/vlog post.
- Steve

Improve realtionships by setting healthy boundaires

21/05/2025

Ever wondered what hypnosis actually is? And yes, I finally answer the age-old question: “Can you make me cluck like a chicken?”(Hint: only if you really want to.)

Hypnosis isn’t mind control. Despite the stage-show myths, hypnosis isn’t about losing control or clucking like a chicken. It’s a natural, focused state of awareness.

If you’d like to know more, than then this video is a good place to start. 💜Kirsten

13/05/2025

Are you in love - or caught in a trauma bond?

If relationship drama feels exciting and stability feels boring, then this is for you.

Sometimes what feels like intense love is actually something deeper - and more painful. Feeling hooked on someone, yet anxious, perhaps even walking on eggshells or losing one’s sense of self is not love..
In our latest blog/vlog I explore how unresolved childhood wounds can shape the relationships we’re drawn to - and how to break free from confusing chaos for real connection.

💔 Learn the signs of trauma bonding
💡 Discover what healthy love actually feels like
🛠️ Explore how hypnotherapy can help shift deep emotional patterns.

Because love shouldn’t feel like losing yourself — it should feel like coming home to who you truly are.

If you’d like to know more, then click the link below for the blog/vlog
💜Kirsten

Discover the difference between true love and trauma bonding. Learn how your childhood patterns may be shaping your relationships - and how to begin healing.

28/03/2025

We Are Excited To Share Something New!

We are creating a new series of blogs and vlogs where we explore all sorts of topics around emotional health and wellbeing.

Our hope? That these little nuggets help you think better, feel better, and be better. Or to put it another way —to smile more and frown less!

Introducing Beauty & The Beast : Two Very Different Personalities With Very Different Styles.

Even though we have run The Therapy Lounge for over twenty years, it occurred to us that most of our clients have only ever met and worked with one of us.

So in this first video, we wanted to briefly introduce ourselves in a fun way and give you a sense of the differences that make us a great therapeutic team.

You might notice that one of us looks like, acts and sounds like a therapist whereas the other..... not so much!

We thoroughly enjoyed making this video and hope you enjoy watching.

If you have any requests for any future subjects you'd like us to cover, please do let us know and it will be our pleasure to respond accordingly.

Warm wishes
Steve & Kirsten

Meet Steve Burns & Kirsten Dahlerup At The Therapy Lounge

18/09/2021

This is a quick tip for you, if you find that Automatic Negative Thoughts are high jacking you.
Wishing you a calm mind and a beautiful weekend💜

13/07/2021

Start creating that thing you’ve been dreaming of or postponing - and don’t let the Inner Critic stop you! if he/she is being loud, then get in touch, so we can help you re-wire -and you can move forwards doing the things that make you smile!💜
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03/07/2021

There is nothing wrong with you, however your ‘Inner Roadmap’ may need an update.
If you find that you are struggling generally or in a specific area of your life, then it’s probably because your powerful subconscious mind is behaving according to certain limiting beliefs that you created in your formative years.
These beliefs may have served you back then, but now that you are an adult, it’s highly likely that they are outdated and holding you back.
Advanced hypnotherapy is a very effective tool to help you rewire your brain and update your ‘inner roadmap’ so that you can live your best life. Get in touch via our website, link in bio💜
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