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I'm Amy, and I'm a private therapist working in SW London and online.

26/02/2026

I am not a ‘blank slate’.

I will not hide my reaction if you tell me something shocking from your childhood. If you are the child of an emotionally immature parent, you’ve had enough of someone under reacting to, invalidating, and gaslighting you about your experiences.

I will become an investigator alongside you, working together to unpick what’s going on, to get underneath the surface and find the source.

I will be your cheerleader; celebrating with you when you put a healthy boundary in place, supporting you when you hold that boundary or have that difficult conversation, and generally cheering you on weekly from the sidelines.

11/02/2026

Sometimes therapy helps stabilise.

Sometimes it helps us survive something.

Sometimes it helps us understand our patterns for the first time.

And sometimes… years later … life shifts.

You become a parent (or carer for your parents).
You outgrow relationships.
You realise you’re ready to go deeper.

Coming back to therapy doesn’t mean it “didn’t work” before.

It means you’re in a new chapter.

Healing isn’t a one-off event.
It’s layered.
Developmental.
Responsive to who you are now.

If you’ve been wondering whether it’s “reasonable” to come back… this is your sign that it is.

Different seasons. Different work. 🤍

19/01/2026

“I sacrificed so much for you and this is the thanks I get!” 🚩
“If you loved me, you wouldn’t do this” 🚩
“I know you better than you know yourself.” 🚩
“You’re overreacting. It wasn’t that bad.” 🚩
“You used to be such a good child.” 🚩🚩🚩

17/01/2026

“Death by a thousand cuts”
This is a very accurate description of being raised by an emotionally immature, absent, or manipulative parent.
And it truly kills me to hear adults question whether awful reactions from parents are normal or ‘worth’ complaining about, whether they are allowed to feel something, whether they are allowed to even have an opinion.
This audio is for anyone who has ever questioned the validity of hair own emotions because someone told them to stop being so sensitive or to “think how that makes me feel” by a parents, as a young child.

13/01/2026

A friend told me to watch this clip and it did not disappoint. It’s a brilliant (and somewhat subtle) depiction of the Karpman Drama Triangle - a model of how emotionally unhealthy people interact with others.
What I often see in my practice is clients who have a parent stuck in victim mode, which forces other family members (my clients included) into either rescuer or persecutor mode. And what often happens is that rescuers come to therapy, gradually stop rescuing the victim, and are then depicted as the persecutor (this ca also be seen in terms of a n adult child becoming a Black Sheep when they stop participating in unhealthy family dynamics)!

07/01/2026

“They’re fine” often means they learned to cope early, not that they felt emotionally understood or safe.

I work with many adults who were described as “fine” children. They grew up functional, capable, and outwardly successful, but disconnected from their own needs, emotions, and boundaries.

Emotional neglect doesn’t always look dramatic. Sometimes it looks like minimising feelings, discouraging emotional expression, or confusing emotional suppression with resilience.

Many adults raised by emotionally immature parents don’t realise anything was missing until later in life, when relationships, parenthood, or burnout begin to surface what was never supported.

Therapy offers a space to gently reconnect with emotions that were once dismissed, ignored, or labelled as “too much.”

If this resonates, you’re not broken - you adapted 🙌🏼

Address

73 Battersea Rise
London
SW111HN

Website

http://www.amylaunder.com/

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