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Fertility Support is the only psychotherapy practice focused on fertility and gynaecological issues.

Our team includes specialised psychotherapists who have ample experience working on issues such as: assessing fertility options (including IVF, surrogacy, donors or adoption), pregnancy-related issues (including high risk-pregnancies or birth trauma), exploring a “child-free” or ”child-less” lifestyle, considering a termination, coping with medical issues such as endometriosis, PCOS or adenomyosis, and dealing with erectile dysfunction, among other issues. Fertility Support offers individual therapy and couples therapy as well as group therapy and one-day retreats. Our aim is to offer individuals a space where they can find compassionate care, understanding and a new way forward.

25/03/2026

A lovely surprise to be featured in last week ✨

A difficult fertility experience often asks a great deal of people. It involves making repeated decisions under uncertainty, tolerating outcomes that cannot be controlled, and continuing to engage with treatment in the presence of disappointment or loss. Over time, this can shift how the future is imagined, affect one's sense of agency, and shape how people relate to their body, their partner, and their loved ones.

Without space to process these experiences, emotional responses such as anxiety or low mood can become more prominent. People may find themselves relying on control, avoidance, or emotional suppression to manage what is happening.

Grateful to be recognised for providing emotional support within fertility care, and to be included alongside

Thank you and for including me, and for recognising the complexity of fertility beyond its more visible aspects.

– Alejandra Lozada Andrade

24/03/2026

Gabriela Mistral, the Chilean poet and Nobel laureate, longed for motherhood and carried the sorrow of not being able to conceive. Her poetry speaks of love, loss, and the ache of nurturing without a child to receive it. When she wrote that silence does not protect but separates, she was speaking from that experience of isolation, where grief has no language and longing has no witness.

During a fertility journey, silence can feel like self-preservation. You may stay quiet to avoid awkward sympathy, unwanted advice, or the pain of others’ pregnancies. At first, silence seems protective, a way to maintain dignity and control. Yet over time, what feels like safety can become distance. The more you hold inside, the further you drift from the people who might help you feel less alone.

Silence separates us because it conceals the emotions that most need to be seen and understood. Pain that is not shared remains unacknowledged, and what is unacknowledged begins to harden into loneliness. Speaking, even to one compassionate listener, interrupts that isolation. It brings your experience into relationship, where it can be met with understanding rather than pity or correction.

Connection does not erase grief, but it allows it to breathe. To speak your truth is not to seek solutions; it is to seek resonance. When someone else hears what you have carried in silence, the burden changes shape. It becomes something held between two people instead of one.

Where might you begin to give words to what silence has been holding for you?

19/03/2026

Fertility Support includes 15 experienced psychotherapists, all accredited by the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) and/or the British Psychoanalytic Council (BPC). This reflects rigorous training, ongoing supervision, and adherence to established professional and ethical standards.

The group is composed of psychotherapists who have worked across private practice, NHS settings, and specialist fertility services. It includes published authors, clinical supervisors, lecturers, and contributors to academic and professional literature on fertility, reproductive psychology, and relational work.

Collectively, their expertise spans IVF and assisted conception, pregnancy loss, donor conception, endocrine-related mood changes, and the psychological impact of prolonged uncertainty and treatment cycles. Their work reflects both depth of training and sustained engagement with the evolving evidence base. Many do not simply apply existing models of care; they contribute to shaping how fertility-related psychological work is understood and delivered.

The team works in close collaboration, maintaining an ongoing dialogue. There is a strong emphasis on shared thinking, with practitioners learning from one another’s clinical work, perspectives, and areas of specialism.

The work is characterised by careful listening, emotional attunement, and the capacity to engage with difficult material without simplification. Clients are met with thoughtfulness, steadiness, and respect for the psychological realities of fertility journeys, allowing for work that is both precise and genuinely containing.

Get to know the team through the link in bio.

16/03/2026

During a difficult fertility experience, imagining the future is understandably hard. The uncertainty of each stage teaches the mind to live in short intervals, to plan only up to the next appointment or result. Over time, the future stops feeling like a place you can step into with any confidence. It becomes something held at arm’s length because allowing yourself to picture it has, in the past, come at an emotional cost.

When this has gone on for some time, it can create a sense of suspension. Decisions that once felt straightforward begin to feel conditional, as if they can only be made once treatment gives you permission. Parts of life that depend on a stable sense of “what comes next” can feel paused because you have been living in a state where plans repeatedly need to be adjusted, delayed or undone.

Reconnecting with the future becomes important because living in suspension can quietly narrow your sense of direction. Having even a small point to look toward helps counter the feeling of being entirely defined by the next stage of treatment.

Research shows that this reconnection does not need to begin with large visions or long-term plans. It can begin with small, safe forms of future thinking, the kinds that do not expose you to emotional risk but remind the mind that possibility still exists. This might be picturing something only a few days ahead, or allowing yourself to imagine one moment you would like to experience. These small steps widen the psychological space that prolonged uncertainty has narrowed.

When you think about the future, what feels reachable, and what still feels out of view?

12/03/2026

began experiencing symptoms of endometriosis when she was 13 years old. Each month brought severe bleeding, cramps, nausea, back pain and digestive problems that left her confined to bed for days. One week of every month disappeared from her life. She had to miss school events, exams, auditions and family milestones. The pattern continued for more than 2 decades before she was diagnosed at 36.

Padma's words draw attention to a particular feature of chronic illness: the repeated interruption of ordinary participation in life. When pain regularly removes someone from school, work, social events and daily routines, absence becomes woven into the structure of their life.

Over time, the relationship with one’s own body can also change. When symptoms arrive with such regular intensity, the body can begin to feel unreliable and difficult to trust. Many people living with endometriosis describe the experience of planning their lives around the anticipation of pain rather than around their own intentions or possibilities.

After finally receiving surgical treatment in 2009, co-founded with surgeon . Through advocacy, physician education and public awareness, she has helped bring sustained attention to a condition that for many years remained largely invisible in both medicine and public conversation.

March is Endometriosis Awareness Month. Endometriosis affects an estimated 1 in 10 women of reproductive age, yet diagnosis often takes many years. For many people living with endometriosis, the difficulty is not only the condition itself but the long period during which their experience is questioned or minimised. Greater awareness helps ensure that symptoms that have long been dismissed are recognised earlier and taken seriously.

07/03/2026

One of the most painful shifts during a difficult fertility experience happens when a medical challenge begins to feel like a personal failure. Over time, what is biological can start to feel like a verdict on who you are. This International Women’s Day is a moment to resist allowing fertility struggles to collapse identity into shame. It is an opportunity to feel unstoppable.

Feeling unstoppable, in this context, is not about controlling outcomes but about protecting a stable sense of self in the presence of the unknown. Fertility journeys rarely unfold predictably. Appointments, treatments, and long periods of waiting leave the future suspended, asking people to live without knowing how the story will unfold while still holding onto who they are.

Living with that kind of uncertainty requires an important psychological capacity: continuing to live meaningfully while holding questions that have no timetable and no guarantee of resolution. Much of life still unfolds while important questions remain unanswered. Feeling unstoppable, in this context, means recognising that meaning and possibility can still exist even when the future takes an unexpected shape.

Alongside the uncertainty about what will happen, many can also question whether they will be able to handle whatever lies ahead. As the lyrics of Voices by suggest, there are moments when internal voices ask whether the unknown can be handled or the unusual faced. Feeling unstoppable is not the absence of those questions, but the capacity to hold them while trusting that you can find ways to cope with what comes.

Feeling unstoppable does not mean doubt disappears. It means doubt is no longer mistaken for a verdict about who you are. The unknown may remain, but it does not get to define who you are. Being unstoppable means refusing to let this journey shrink who you are.

Music: Voices by (shared with permission).

18/02/2026

Lao Tzu, the Chinese philosopher, spoke of self-knowledge as the deepest form of understanding. In a fertility journey, it is easy to become absorbed in external information such as test results, treatment plans, and medical statistics, while losing sight of the internal landscape where emotion and meaning reside. Yet this inner awareness often determines how the journey is lived and how pain is carried.

Knowing yourself means noticing how you respond when uncertainty stretches on, when hope rises and collapses again, or when others’ news of pregnancy stirs something sharp inside you. It means observing your patterns with honesty: the impulse to withdraw, to over-research, to keep busy, to numb, to hope excessively or to stop hoping altogether. Each of these is a way of managing fear and protecting yourself from pain.

Self-knowledge allows these reactions to be seen rather than judged. Once recognised, they can be held with compassion instead of shame. You begin to understand not only what you feel but why you feel it. This awareness softens the grip of self-blame and creates the possibility of choice, the space to respond differently rather than repeat old patterns.

In this sense, enlightenment is not transcendence but intimacy with your own inner world. It is the quiet clarity that comes when you can name what is happening within you without turning away.

What might you come to understand about yourself if you began to observe your reactions with curiosity rather than criticism?

13/02/2026

This Valentine’s Day, for couples:

A difficult fertility journey places couples under sustained pressure & that pressure can unintentionally change how intimacy & connection feel. Closeness can become harder to access in ordinary ways, even when love remains steady.

The pressure is cumulative, & cyclical: decisions, waiting, procedures, & moments where hope has to be managed. It arrives in stages, so the body keeps returning to anticipation, then recalibrating after each result. Over time, this can leave couples less resourced for each other.

When couples have less emotional room for each other, connection becomes easier to miss. Misattunement becomes more likely. It is harder to stay open, curious, & emotionally available when both people are already stretched. Intimacy shifts too. Fertility treatment can make s&x feel less like desire & more like something loaded with consequence.

Valentine’s Day can intensify this because it foregrounds romance, spontaneity, & uncomplicated closeness. For many couples, the day sharpens the sense that the relationship has had to become more functional to survive.

The “5 love languages” can reduce how we think about love but its beauty lies in articulating how care has to be expressed in forms that can be felt, especially when connection feels challenged during fertility treatment. This Valentine’s Day, the 5 languages might look like this:

🍃Acts of service: Because fertility treatment creates an ongoing workload. Sharing it prevents one partner becoming the default organiser/researcher/emotional container.
🍃Words of affirmation: Because fertility can erode self-worth & desirability.
🍃Physical touch: Because when s*x becomes purposeful, touch can become complicated.
🍃Quality time: Because treatment can narrow a relationship into logistics. Time that is not about fertility protects the couple’s sense of “us”.
🍃Gifts: Because small gestures can communicate care when both partners are depleted.

Romance is optional. Connection isn’t. Connection is something you return to, deliberately, when the process is pulling you away from each other.

13/02/2026

For many people, trying to conceive alone does not feel like an empowered choice. It can feel like a decision made inside constraint: shaped by the absence of a partner, the ending of a relationship, or time slipping away.

When trying to conceive alone feels “not as it should be”, the mind often starts searching for an explanation and, lacking a compelling one, it can turn to the self. Self-blame can feel perversely stabilising: “If it is my fault, I could change my story” can feel easier to hold than a wider explanation.

Valentine’s Day can act as an amplifier of any feelings of inadequacy one might carry about becoming a solo parent. It turns couplehood into a public reference point and, when you are trying to conceive on your own, it can sharpen the sense of being outside the norm.

This is where self-compassion becomes essential, not as softness, but as psychological discipline. It means refusing the slide into “this is my fault”. It means noticing when shame is rewriting the facts, and choosing not to collaborate with it.

The “5 love languages” is a familiar framework and it can reduce how we think about love. But its beauty lies in articulating how care has to be expressed in forms that can actually be felt. On Valentine’s Day, the 5 languages of self-love might look like this:

🍃Ease in the everyday: Emotional endurance is harder when baseline stress is high. Small reductions in strain change how much you can carry.
🍃Supportive self-talk: Shame is not only painful, it is distorting. It turns a difficult chapter into a conclusion about who you are.
🍃Body care: Fertility journeys are lived physically. The body holds the stress, hormones, appointments, waiting.
🍃Meaningful time: Waiting narrows life. Meaningful time widens it again, reminding you you’re still a person, not a process.
🍃Intentional investments: Steadiness doesn’t arrive by accident. It’s created through small choices that increase psychological safety.

Valentine’s Day is not only a celebration of couples. It can also be a moment to choose how you treat yourself in the very moments you’re most tempted to turn against yourself.

09/02/2026

is an American comedian, writer and actress, best known for her Netflix stand-up specials "Baby Cobra" and "Hard Knock Wife," and for co-writing and starring in the romantic comedy film "Always Be My Maybe." Her work is often praised for its bluntness about the realities of women’s bodies, motherhood, and the emotional costs that sit underneath coping.

Ali has spoken about having a miscarriage, and about the particular kind of psychological aftermath that can follow. She describes how quickly loss can become interpreted as fault. Not because a person is irrational, but because miscarriage often arrives without a clear reason. When medicine cannot give a satisfying explanation, the mind tends to fill the gap by interrogating behaviour, choices, and the body itself.

One of the most effective disruptors of self-blame is contact with other people’s lived experience. Statistics can confirm that miscarriage is common, but they do not show what people actually think in the aftermath, or how quickly shame can take hold. Hearing other women describe the same fear and the same self-questioning can loosen the belief that blame is the correct conclusion.

Even so, miscarriage remains largely unspoken. Ali explains that part of what kept her silent was the fear that her in-laws would see the miscarriage as her responsibility. This points to the social dimension of reproductive loss: the fear of being judged not only as someone who is grieving, but as a woman who has failed at a role. For many, miscarriage can feel like a test of adequacy as a partner, a future mother, and, in some families, as a daughter-in-law whose value is quietly linked to producing children.

Ali Wong’s words show how miscarriage can accumulate psychological costs beyond the loss itself: self-scrutiny, shame, and the pressure to manage other people’s perceptions. What would it do to women’s experiences if the toll of miscarriage was better understood, held, and helped, rather than minimised or carried in silence?

02/02/2026

During a fertility journey, the present moment can sometimes feel too charged to stay with. Sitting with a coffee or taking a brief pause might look simple from the outside, but internally the mind is already leaning toward the next result.

This is why many people find themselves scrolling, watching something familiar or keeping occupied. They want to create distance from their present thoughts because those thoughts often lead straight into fear or catastrophic expectation. When the inner world feels flooded with uncertainty, distraction creates a buffer, a way to soften contact with thoughts that might otherwise feel too unsettling or painful. It is the mind giving you a break from an experience that feels too demanding to face directly.

But distraction can also distance you from your own needs, making it harder to recognise when you are overwhelmed, exhausted or in need of care. Over time, it can dull your ability to sense what is happening inside you, which is the very information that helps guide emotional survival during treatment.

You can give your mind a pause without cutting yourself off from what you need through grounding practices such as focusing on one sensory detail, naming what feels hard in the moment, or taking a slow breath long enough for your thoughts to settle rather than be pushed away. These small pauses allow you to remain in contact with yourself while reducing the immediate emotional load.

Where do you notice yourself turning to distraction, and what might those moments be helping you manage?

29/01/2026

Ignacio Martín-Baró, the Salvadoran social and liberation psychologist, believed that personal suffering cannot be understood without considering the social and cultural context in which it arises. Awareness of this context is not simply intellectual; it is a form of psychological liberation. It allows people to see how their inner experiences are influenced by the systems and expectations that surround them.

In fertility journeys, many of the painful emotions that surface, such as shame, inadequacy, or failure, are not only personal reactions but reflections of the world we live in. We are taught, often without noticing, that to live a full life means to have biological children, that fertility equals success, and that not conceiving represents deficiency. When these ideas go unquestioned, they quietly shape identity. The distress then becomes not only about the difficulty of conceiving but about what that struggle appears to say about who you are.

Understanding these external influences helps to separate personal worth from cultural expectation. You may still wish for a child, but you begin to see that the shame surrounding infertility is not inherent to you. It has been learned through the values and narratives of your environment. This awareness widens perspective. It makes space for self-compassion and allows identity to expand beyond reproductive outcomes.

To become conscious of what has shaped your pain is to begin reclaiming authorship of your story. Awareness does not erase suffering, but it restores your right to define what your life means beyond it.

What might shift if you viewed your fertility experience within the wider social and cultural conditions that have shaped it?

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