16/08/2021
When speaking to my clients about pregnancy, we talk about their fears and anxieties about their bodies changing. Many feel they can accept this change because they are growing and nourishing their baby, but with the expectation that once their baby is born, their body will return to how it was.
BUT what I see time after time is the real struggle post birth. We are all told we should be âlosing the baby weightâ and that itâs achievable if we just work hard enough. We see this all the time with celebrities in the media, so when our experience is different, we might feel like weâre failing.
The reality is that your body post-pregnancy wonât ever be the same as it was pre-pregnancy. You might return to your pre-pregnancy weight after a month, a year, 3 years or 5 years, or you might not, and none is unusual. But even if you do return to your pre-pregnancy weight, your body WILL be different. You may find that you have loose skin, stretch marks or scars, that the shape of your hips, thighs or abdomen is different, that your abdominal muscles have separated and there is a gap in the middle, that your pelvic floor is weaker, or that your va**na (come on letâs call it by itâs name rather than a âcutesyâ alternative!) looks different, feels different and has battle scars. Your body may feel like itâs not yours and that can feel really upsetting - probably because we are conditioned to believe that nothing changes, or that if it does, it wonât be permanent.
But I believe this is all about expectation and perspective. Youâve created a life from nothing and nourished it for 9 months AND youâve brought this new life into the world through your va**na or abdomen - like OMG, how amazing is that?! You warrior! And instead of recovering for weeks from this physically and emotionally draining event, youâre feeding, carrying, nurturing and protecting this little life who is 100% dependent on you. Of course your body will change! How could it not?! These changes are a badge of honour we should wear for being so freaking amazing, rather than something we are ashamed and fearful of. Itâs time to change expectations and perspective because we are f*% queens! đžđ»