McLay Psychotherapy Counselling Service

29/01/2026

27/01/2026

🫧Not all grief is visible.
Some people carry it quietly — showing up, functioning, smiling — while holding deep loss inside.

🌼You may have learned to stay strong.
To avoid burdening others.
To keep moving because life expects it.

🌻But quiet grief still deserves space.
It still shapes your body, your sleep, your sense of safety and connection.

💚Therapy offers a place where you don’t have to explain or perform your pain.
A place where grief doesn’t need to be loud to be valid.

💚If you’ve been holding it alone, you don’t have to anymore.

💚If you relate to this, you’re not alone — even if it’s felt that way.

26/01/2026

🍃The death of a child disrupts the natural order of life.
It’s not just a loss — it’s a fracture in time, identity, and meaning.

🍃Many parents describe this grief as endless, because love does not stop when life does.
You may feel moments of numbness, overwhelming pain, guilt, anger, or quiet disbelief — sometimes all in the same day.

🍃There is no timeline for this kind of loss.
No expectation to “move on.”
No measure of strength that looks the same for everyone.

🌿In therapy, we don’t try to minimise this grief or rush healing.
We offer space — for love, for pain, for memory, and for the parts of you that have been forever changed.

🌼Your child mattered.
🌼Your grief reflects that love.
💚And you deserve care as you carry it.

24/01/2026

🌿Therapy isn’t something you “complete.”
It isn’t a checklist, a timeline, or a set of steps to move you on from pain.

💚At its heart, therapy is a relationship —
one built on safety, trust, and being met exactly where you are.

When grief enters your life — whether through the loss of a child, the quiet weight of unspoken sorrow, or the devastating impact of losing someone to su***de — what often hurts most is not just the loss itself, but the loneliness that follows.

In therapy, there is room for grief that doesn’t fit neat explanations.
🍃Room for silence.
🍃Room for anger, love, guilt, confusion, and longing — without judgement.

Healing doesn’t happen because something is “fixed.”
It happens when you are accompanied, understood, and no longer carrying the weight alone.

✅You don’t need to rush.
✅You don’t need to perform strength.
✅You only need a space where your story is held with care.

If this resonates, you’re welcome to sit with it — or share it with someone who might need this reminder today🌻.

22/01/2026

🌿Therapy isn’t only for breaking points.

🍃Many people come to therapy simply wanting clarity, understanding, or space to breathe.

💚Early support can prevent deeper distress later.

🌻If you’ve been considering therapy, this is permission.

20/01/2026

We’re often taught that happiness is the goal — something to chase, hold onto, or achieve.
But our emotional system wasn’t designed for constant happiness.

The human brain evolved for survival, not perpetual comfort.
That’s why joy can exist alongside anxiety, and why difficult emotions continue to show up even in meaningful lives.

Rather than trying to remove discomfort, therapy invites a different question:
What is this feeling trying to tell me?
When we develop emotional flexibility — the ability to experience emotions without judgement — we build resilience, clarity, and deeper contentment.

Not because life becomes easier, but because we become more able to meet it.

If this resonates, please share it.

19/01/2026

Many adults are still living from roles that once kept them safe — the carer, the achiever, the quiet one, the strong one.

Therapy offers a place to explore who you are beneath those roles, without judgement or pressure to change overnight.

Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting.
It means choosing yourself with compassion.

Reflect quietly, or share if this resonates.

17/01/2026

So many adults were taught — directly or indirectly — that rest must be earned and value must be proven.

Therapy gently challenges that belief.
You are worthy even when you’re tired.

Even when you pause.
Even when nothing is achieved today.

Feels free to share if this feels hard to accept.

13/01/2026

Many people arrive in therapy believing something inside them is broken.

But therapy — especially person-centred therapy — starts from a different place💚.

✨It assumes you already have worth.
✨That your responses made sense in the context of your experiences.
✨That symptoms are signals, not failures.

Therapy isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about reconnecting with who you were before survival took over🌿.

Curious about therapy? You’re welcome to ask questions😊.

12/01/2026

🍃Many people believe calm should be automatic — something you switch on.

But if your nervous system learned survival before safety, calm can feel unfamiliar… even uncomfortable.
Therapy doesn’t demand relaxation.

It creates the conditions where calm becomes possible.

🥀Save this if you’ve ever blamed yourself for struggling to relax.

08/01/2026

Grief shaming is something many people experience — often quietly.
It shows up in expectations, timelines, and pressure to “be strong” for others.

But grief isn’t something to fix or move past on demand.
It’s a natural response to love, loss, and connection.

Your pain reflects what mattered.
And no one has the right to tell you how long that love should last or what it should look like.

If you’ve ever felt the need to make your grief smaller so others feel more comfortable, this space sees you.

If you feel able, you’re welcome to share the name of the loved one you’ve lost in the comments.

This is a place of respect, remembrance, and care.