13/04/2026
And here’s where it gets a bit uncomfortable…
So many of us are walking around placing that responsibility outside of ourselves, we’ve all done it. Waiting for someone else to get it right, say the right thing, show up in the right way so we can finally feel ok.
But it goes deeper than that, it’s not just that you’re handing over your happiness, you’re outsourcing yourself.
Your needs, your voice, your boundaries and your truth.
You start editing who you are to keep things ‘easier’. Maybe staying quiet when something doesn’t feel right, or look to someone else to validate what you already know deep down (Spoiler..you always know. Always)
And slowly, you forget how to trust yourself, subconsciously tell yourself that you can’t make decisions, and begin to abandon yourself.
When you place your happiness in someone else’s hands, you’re constantly sidelining yourself. No one can be responsible for your internal state and it’s not their job to.
Your happiness isn’t something to get to later. It’s not something you squeeze in once everything else is sorted, once life calms down, once other people behave how you want them to. It’s the priority.
Not in a fluffy, bypass and pretend it’s not happening way but in a real, honest, grounded way where you come back to yourself. Where you actually listen to what you feel instead of gaslighting yourself.
Where you stop abandoning yourself where you take responsibility for what you allow, what you tolerate, what you choose.
Life will always give you something, and at some point you’ve got to be honest with yourself.
Where am I still handing myself over?
Where am I waiting instead of choosing?
Where am I not backing myself?
You are the one responsible for your happiness.
You.
And that’s not a burden, it’s a bloody powerful thing. Because the moment you stop outsourcing yourself, stop waiting, stop handing over the responsibility for how you feel, you come back into your own life.
And from that place little by little, step by step. Well my love, everything changes 🙌🏻💫