17/11/2025
How Early Conditioning Shapes Your Confidence as an Adult
Gia Jon | Soma Shakti Healing
I see this all the time in the women I work with.
Strong, capable, emotionally intelligent, yet the moment they step into certain spaces or speak to certain people, their whole system changes.
A woman shared with me recently that she grew up in a home where the men spoke and the women stayed quiet. Now she finds herself losing confidence around male colleagues, even though she knows she’s brilliant at what she does.
Patterns like these don’t disappear just because we grow up.
Your mind evolves.
Your nervous system holds the archive.
When you’re raised in environments where you had to:
• keep the peace
• stay small
• soften your voice
• avoid conflict
• earn worthiness through behaviour
…it’s natural to feel shaky in situations that mirror those old dynamics, even when you’re safe, even when you’re powerful.
This isn’t a lack of confidence.
This is conditioning.
Conditioning can be rewritten when you work on the mind, the body, and the emotional memory together.
The moment you start separating your true self from the version you had to become to survive, everything shifts.
Your voice steadies.
Your self-trust deepens.
Your presence becomes something you feel, not something you perform.
If this is landing for you and you want to explore what’s actually happening beneath the surface, you’re welcome to reach out. I’ll help you understand the pattern, soothe the nervous system behind it, and rebuild confidence from a place that feels safe, grounded, and real.
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