Be Kind To Yourself Therapy

23/03/2026

Maybe this week you want to move your body more, move your perspective a little or move your opinion on to something else.

What sort of move will you make this week towards what's important to you?

22/03/2026

The Sunday Journal - Week 12

When thinking about this entry think about what are you afraid to share and how might you be able to open a conversation about it.

You may ask someone's opinion on the topic?
Maybe you could share an experience?
Maybe you could do something outside your comfort zone?

Let me know how you get on.

20/03/2026

Holy moley!!!!! As of last weekend I am 9 runs away from 10km. I am both excited and terrified at he same time.

The reality is that our brains cannot tell the difference between something exciting or something scary. Because both excitement and nervousness trigger the sympathetic nervous system and the reactions in the body are the same: increased heart rate, faster breathing, dilated pupils, heightened muscle tension, and sharpened attention, our gut churns, our palms may sweat and blood moves to your limbs.

The biggest difference is the story we tell ourselves about the event. So in this example instead of me thinking:
"Oh no I'll never be able to run 10km" I can think "Yikes I'm nervous about running 10km however I'm certain I can do this after all the work I've been putting in."

Try giving this a go. Know that your body responds in the same way and change how you talk to yourself about the event.

18/03/2026

A few things you probably didn't need to know about me but I'm sharingvwith you anyway:
🌍 I've visited 20 countries which means I have absolutely no excuse for not being worldly. Yet here I am at this magnificent age and I still get freaked out by a mouse or a rat.
🐭 Yes. MICE (and rats)!! A small, barely-there creature that could fit in a teaspoon freaks me OUT. I help people face their fears for a living. The irony is not lost on me.
📚 I read/listen to at least 2 books a month, which I use to balance out my love/hate relationship with running. Mind you I often have to go to music when I run to keep me feeling upbeat. Some days I love running, some days I don't but I do it anyway because I always feel better AFTER the run is done.
🏋️ Late starter? Absolutely. I came to driving, motherhood, having my own business, and lifting weights nice and late in my life. Turns out the best chapters don't always start on time.
✈️ And in 2026, after a 27-year wait, I am FINALLY getting to holiday in Australia. Twenty-seven years. I've visited 20 countries and somehow kept missing an entire continent - the very place I left Ireland for.

Being a therapist is genuinely one of my favourite things to be because it means I get to sit with really wonderful humans doing really hard things, and occasionally remind them (and myself) that being a mess and being brilliant are not mutually exclusive.

I also love being a therapist mostly because I genuinely love the work and partly because it turns out I needed most of what I now teach.
Still working on the mouse thing though. Some battles are ongoing. 🐭

Save this if you need a reminder that you don't have to have it all figured out to be doing something meaningful. Late starters, work-in-progress humans, and fellow mouse-avoiders all are welcome.

16/03/2026

Monday Intention

15/03/2026

The Sunday Journal - Week 11
For me last week I was drained by my own inner critic. Thankfully as a therapist I was able to lean on the tools I have to help me.

This is what therapy does. It helps you become your own therapist.

What drained your energy last week?

15/03/2026

Mother's Day wishes and thinking of all the ladies out there.
On this day I wanted to acknowledge all women.

Today I'm thinking of my Mam, the woman who showed me what it looks like to keep going, to love, who raised me to be strong and independent, she handles everything life throws at her on her own terms, and always knows how to have a good time.

But Mother's Day can be a complicated one. ❤️
It's a day that holds joy and grief in the same breath. For those still longing to become mums, for those who've lost theirs, for those whose relationships with their mum are anything but simple.

So today I'm setting some time aside for all of it.
For the new mums running on no sleep and pure love. For those whose arms ache to hold a baby. For the single mums doing it on their own and making it look effortless (it isn't — we see you). For those who mother without the title. For those who've chosen a different path entirely. And for everyone quietly getting through today, I acknowledge you.

Whatever this day means to you I'm thinking of you. 🤍

18/02/2026

Keep the goal in mind.
If you haven't got a goal, the direction can feel unclear. You don’t need to have big goals necessarily (because We know that foe some goal setting can be a real challenge) but something to work towards is important.

My goal is to run 10km by the time I'm 50. I've had to adjust the way I get there because I can't always get 3 runs in a week on top of my strength and conditioning, pilates and our big Sunday walk so I adjust. The goal is still in my sights and to top it off I ran 5km in 30 minutes which hasn't happened in a LOOOONNNNNNGGGGGG time.

Set a goal for the week for yourself. Make it small to begin with.
It might be ....
* to just survive half term with the kids and know that you're all still OK by the end of the week.
* to drink 2 litres of water per day.
* to do that piece of admin you've been putting off for a week.
* to clear out the drawer with all the odd bits in.
* to get outside (even if its raining)

You will feel proud of yourself.
Set the goal and adjust as you go along.

16/02/2026

Christmas socks in February!!!!
Being different can often be quieter than people think. It’s often not about standing out and instead it’s about making choices that feel right for you, even when they don’t fit the norm (like wearing Christmas socks in February).

It’s saying no when others say yes.
Slowing down when the world keeps rushing.
Letting go of things that once worked but don’t really fit anymore.

Sometimes that means not drinking.
Sometimes it means wanting more space, more honesty, or a simpler life.
And yes, it can feel a bit awkward, like you "should" explain yourself.

But different doesn’t mean wrong.
You don’t owe anyone a justification for the choices that help you feel calmer, clearer, comfortable in Christmas socks in February, or more like yourself.

If it works for you and helps you feel at home in yourself, that really is enough.

Are there any other Christmas socks in February wearers out there?
Send me a picture of your socks

13/02/2026

Have you ever found yourself getting home, but your mind is still at work? Your body is home, but you’re tense, distracted, or already thinking about what still needs to be done.

Maybe you find yourself going through the motions in the evening, but feeling strangely disconnected? Life looks fine on the outside, yet something feels missing.

Or have you ever found yourself finishing the day exhausted, but unable to properly relax? You keep going, because that’s what you do, even when you’re running on empty.

The 15-Minute Reset Between Work and Home is a simple, doable daily pause to help you switch off, slow down, and arrive home feeling more present so you can reconnect with yourself and the people around you.

Click here if you think it might help.

A simple daily ritual to help you switch off from work and arrive home calmer, more present, and less depleted.

25/01/2026

The Sunday Journal - Week 4

There are some areas where I would benefit from communicating more honestly in the next week and some areas where I would not.

Sometimes when we are hurt we may want to say or do things in a way that doesn't align with who we are so its best to choose a different option. Sometimes communicating more honestly leaves us feeling vulnerable and with the right people or in the right spaces, this is ok.

Where do you need to communicate more honestly this week?

23/01/2026

Repetition is key to learning.
When I volunteer, one particular kid still loves to read this book. His reading has really come on and he is saying a lot of the words in this book without any prompting what so ever. The kids are year 2.

It reminds me how we all need repetition to learn. I hope through this with my clients all the time. Repeat and repeat and repeat until it becomes the natural way. We do this for thoughts and behaviours and over time change happens.

What thoughts or behaviours might you need to put on repeat that woukd be helpful for you?
Kids are great teachers to adults. They have a way of stripping things back and making life simple.