Be Kind To Yourself Therapy

18/02/2026

Keep the goal in mind.
If you haven't got a goal, the direction can feel unclear. You don’t need to have big goals necessarily (because We know that foe some goal setting can be a real challenge) but something to work towards is important.

My goal is to run 10km by the time I'm 50. I've had to adjust the way I get there because I can't always get 3 runs in a week on top of my strength and conditioning, pilates and our big Sunday walk so I adjust. The goal is still in my sights and to top it off I ran 5km in 30 minutes which hasn't happened in a LOOOONNNNNNGGGGGG time.

Set a goal for the week for yourself. Make it small to begin with.
It might be ....
* to just survive half term with the kids and know that you're all still OK by the end of the week.
* to drink 2 litres of water per day.
* to do that piece of admin you've been putting off for a week.
* to clear out the drawer with all the odd bits in.
* to get outside (even if its raining)

You will feel proud of yourself.
Set the goal and adjust as you go along.

16/02/2026

Christmas socks in February!!!!
Being different can often be quieter than people think. It’s often not about standing out and instead it’s about making choices that feel right for you, even when they don’t fit the norm (like wearing Christmas socks in February).

It’s saying no when others say yes.
Slowing down when the world keeps rushing.
Letting go of things that once worked but don’t really fit anymore.

Sometimes that means not drinking.
Sometimes it means wanting more space, more honesty, or a simpler life.
And yes, it can feel a bit awkward, like you "should" explain yourself.

But different doesn’t mean wrong.
You don’t owe anyone a justification for the choices that help you feel calmer, clearer, comfortable in Christmas socks in February, or more like yourself.

If it works for you and helps you feel at home in yourself, that really is enough.

Are there any other Christmas socks in February wearers out there?
Send me a picture of your socks

13/02/2026

Have you ever found yourself getting home, but your mind is still at work? Your body is home, but you’re tense, distracted, or already thinking about what still needs to be done.

Maybe you find yourself going through the motions in the evening, but feeling strangely disconnected? Life looks fine on the outside, yet something feels missing.

Or have you ever found yourself finishing the day exhausted, but unable to properly relax? You keep going, because that’s what you do, even when you’re running on empty.

The 15-Minute Reset Between Work and Home is a simple, doable daily pause to help you switch off, slow down, and arrive home feeling more present so you can reconnect with yourself and the people around you.

Click here if you think it might help.

A simple daily ritual to help you switch off from work and arrive home calmer, more present, and less depleted.

25/01/2026

The Sunday Journal - Week 4

There are some areas where I would benefit from communicating more honestly in the next week and some areas where I would not.

Sometimes when we are hurt we may want to say or do things in a way that doesn't align with who we are so its best to choose a different option. Sometimes communicating more honestly leaves us feeling vulnerable and with the right people or in the right spaces, this is ok.

Where do you need to communicate more honestly this week?

23/01/2026

Repetition is key to learning.
When I volunteer, one particular kid still loves to read this book. His reading has really come on and he is saying a lot of the words in this book without any prompting what so ever. The kids are year 2.

It reminds me how we all need repetition to learn. I hope through this with my clients all the time. Repeat and repeat and repeat until it becomes the natural way. We do this for thoughts and behaviours and over time change happens.

What thoughts or behaviours might you need to put on repeat that woukd be helpful for you?
Kids are great teachers to adults. They have a way of stripping things back and making life simple.

18/01/2026

Sunday Journal - Week 3

14/01/2026

Sometimes couples don’t need to have a big dramatic moment in their relationship to know something’s off. It often comes quieter than that.

It’s the feeling of talking at each other instead of with each other.
It might be the same argument looping… with no resolution again and again.
The distance that creeps in even though you still care deeply about each other.

And often, it’s not about love being gone.
It’s about feeling unheard, misunderstood, or not quite knowing how to get back to each other.

Creating a little space, with the right support, can be a really kind thing to do for your relationship.

Not space to pull away… but space to slow things down, soften the edges, and learn how to communicate differently.

Couples work isn’t about deciding who’s right or wrong. It’s about understanding what’s happening underneath the arguments, the silence, or the tension and finding a new way forward together.

If you’re both willing to be curious, to listen, and to try something different, there is so much possibility for reconnection.

You don’t have to be at breaking point to reach out. Sometimes it’s enough to say, “We care about this, and we’d like a bit of help finding our way back.”

And that’s a really hopeful place to start 💛
If you would like to find out if couples therapy would be helpful, download this guide to work through with your partner.

A guide to help you decide if you would benefit from Couples Therapy.

11/01/2026

Sunday Journal Week 2

10/01/2026

Four years ago, I made one of the best decisions ever and one that quietly changed my life. At the time, I was asking a lot of myself. I was working hard, seeing lots of clients and carrying a full mental and emotional load. I knew I wanted to do this with the best possible head on my shoulders.

I started to notice something simple but super important to me. On the nights I had a drink, you know the nice glass of red wine because “I’ve worked hard today”, or because “I deserved a drink at the end of the day” or because “I wanted to relax”, well I started to not feel like myself the next day. My energy was lower, my focus was off, my patience was thinner and my cravings for rubbish food was greater.

So I decided to try a 90-day challenge. No alcohol. Just curiosity. Those 90 days passed and I kept going. In the coming months, what followed was interesting. Some people found my decision a bit uncomfortable. Some relationships changed a little and that wasn’t always easy. I went from being the one always up for a drink to wanting something different. At times I was referred to as ‘boring’ and that didn’t feel great. This did not put me off.

What became really clear to me, and still is 4 years later is this: My life is so much better without alcohol. I feel clearer, more grounded, more present and more myself. I continue to be alcohol free, not from restriction but from a place of deep respect for myself.

I would love to hear any other similar stories out there, drop me a note or a comment.

09/01/2026

Do you plan your week or month out?
I do.
In my diary is scheduled time for exercise, meeting friends, runs, school stuff for the little fella, things for us to do as a family, dog grooms. You name it, it's in there. It helps me stay on track each week.

What do you do to help yourself stay on track?

I really like this new planner I got from
thank you.

04/01/2026

Sunday Journal Week 1
Today is the first of the weekly Sunday Journal prompts for 2026. I hope you enjoy the journey.

27/12/2025

As the year begins to slow, many of us often start asking,
“Did I do enough?”
“Should I be further along?”
"Should I have tried harder?"

With this in mind I’ve created an End of Year Reflection should you wish to have a look. Here's the link: https://bekindtoyourselftherapy.com/end-of-year-reflection-2025/26-guide

This is an invitation to pause, take a breath, and gently notice what this year has been like for you. It's about helping you notice not just what you achieved in the last year, but also what you carried, learned, and where you grew.

It’s not about goals or resolutions.
It’s about listening in to yourself and closing the year with intention.

You can take it slowly, come back to it, or just notice what comes up during the reflection. Most important to remember is that and you don’t need to do it perfectly.

Save it, come back to it, or share it with someone who might need a softer way to end the year.