28/08/2023
Disgust is a strong reaction. It’s extremely physical, and very decisively directed at something - or someone.
Disgust can have an element of fear, often of contamination - a food that once made us sick will trigger disgust in the future.
But more psychologically interesting is disgust that is a reaction to a moral violation. When disgust is elicited a strong moral judgement is likely.
Disgust, just like shame, can serve as a moral censor. Disgust is directed against others, shame against the self.
And just like shame and guilt, disgust is a sticky feeling, and very tricky to shift. Meant to be keeping us away from whatever we are disgusted of forever.
Eliciting disgust in others can be an extremely manipulative way to get a strong, lasting moral judgement that is extremely difficult to soften.
Let’s be aware of that, too.
Working with disgust in therapy is delicate and requires patience. It’s not always easy to detect, as it is sometimes entangled in s mix of feelings. But it’s always scary and powerful, approaching it requires a strong sense of safety in the room.
Feeling felt, seen and supported helps - as always.
IG is not therapy
