19/01/2026
Grief can come out of nowhere, even after a long time, and take us from 0-100 in emotional pain in seconds. But those moments are actually hidden gifts.
In the moment grief hits, you’re immersed if the feeling of missing that person, that connection, that relationship that expression, and it can feel so all-consuming.
But in a recent plunge into this, I had a huge reframe gifted to me from the universe.
I was able to sit and breathe with the intensity, and found myself in a kind of meditation, having a conversation with the creator. And what was revealed to me might seem obvious, but it is also revolutionary.
I was told that the reason I feel such deep grief, is because in those specific certain moments, I can feel their presence, connection, and love, and then I am am immediately twisting it into missing it, into the lack of the physical presence of their love, of them. In this case, that of my beautiful mum, who re-joined the light over 2.5 years ago.
That acknowledgement opened something up for me: I am feeling her! I am missing her, but there is no need, because I AM FEELING HER. She is genuinely all around me. She is with me now. We are hanging out! And perhaps she is intensely sending me energy in this moment, and I can feel it!
AND, it illuminated for me that I have a habit to immediately turn that abundance, that gift, into lack.
Yes there is no doubt it is different to being physically present with someone but, it is also very similar energetically. It is in fact the same feeling.
And so, instead of letting myself get lost in the pain of it, I can pause, catch what I’m doing and connect to “Aha! She is right here, sending me love, and I can feel it! She is with me!”. For me, there is no doubt about that.
When you find yourself in moments of grief, recognise this, give the part of you that misses them (whatever you are missing) love, and open to that unique and special connection - that exists throughout time and space and can never be erased. It lives inside you and all around.
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