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Welcome! I'm self-development coach, speaker, writer and founder of The Priorities Method.

Lily Silverton is a self-development coach, speaker, writer and founder of The Priorities Method. Her commitment to helping individuals and organisations realign their priorities and transform their lives has made her a leading figure in the wellness world.

07/12/2025

If you feel like December comes with a second full-time job, you’re not imagining it. The invisible load gets heavier this month, and most of it lands squarely on women’s plates.

Here are the things you’re probably keeping track of without even realising:

1. Coordinating everyone’s Christmas schedules, school events, work socials, festive jumper days, class parties and general end-of-term chaos.

2. Being the designated problem-solver when the tree lights stop working, someone forgets Secret Santa or plans change last minute.

3. Keeping mental stock of wrapping paper, tape, gift bags, batteries, stocking fillers and the twenty tiny but essential bits of crap that disappear every year.

4. Planning meals, food shops, nativities, “just bring a dish” and what on earth everyone is eating between Christmas and New Year.

5. Managing life admin before everything shuts down: bills, renewals, prescriptions, appointments, school forms, childcare logistics.

6. Holding space for everyone else’s moods, tiredness, overstimulation, excitement and meltdowns (big or small). (As well as your own…)

7. Organising social life on all sides: family visits, drinks with friends, kids’ playdates, travel plans, who’s staying where and who’s bringing what.

8. Keeping track of gifts for teachers, doctors, neighbours, colleagues… and the cards that annoyingly never write themselves.

9. Making Christmas “magical” while quietly holding the emotional temperature of the whole house.

Have I missed anything?

If December already feels like a lot, you’re not failing - you’re carrying more than most people can see.

I’m Lily, mindset coach, wellness myth-debunker and mother of two, helping you feel less stressed and actually prioritise your priorities. Follow for more.

04/12/2025

A bubble bath is fine and all that, but have you tried a fork!?

Honestly, and I say this as a mindset coach… sometimes, when your mind is in complete chaos, the best way to find a bit of peace is through your body instead.

Let’s go:

Grab a (clean!) fork and add a little oil or lotion to your neck (I use coconut oil).

Gently glide the back and sides of the fork along the sides of your neck and around the base of your skull.

Move slowly, applying light pressure.

That’s it.

It might look weird, but it helps release layers of tight fascia in your neck – easing stiffness, reducing tension and even relieving headaches and stress. You’ll also find that just by doing it for a few mins you’ll start to breathe deeper and soften.

Save for later and share with someone who needs more fork action in their life🍴

20/11/2025

F**k it’s cold out there 🥶 Here’s a few ideas to keep your mind warm…

1. Get outside in daylight hours
Even on grey days, natural light helps. Get off the tube/bus a stop earlier, do a lunchtime walk w a pal, morning coffee outside – just make sure you’re getting out, your brain will thank you.

2. Make plans you’ll look forward to
The brain loves nothing more than anticipation – plan something + it’ll reward you with dopamine. Just ensure it’s the kind of thing that supports rather than drains. Think: dinner, excercise class, weekend away if you can.

3. Embrace the season
Easier said than done, but try not to fight the darker months. They’re gonna happen whether you stress about them or not! Resistence makes everything harder, and the more you think about how much you hate winter, the more your brain will believe it should hate it. Try to shift your routines instead – earlier nights, slower mornings, more warmth, rest etc.

4. Lean into comfort
Speaking of which! Comfort is your friend. Hot baths, soft clothes, blankets, fire - coocoon as much as possible. It’ll all help signal to your brain that you are safe, which’ll help settle your nervous system.

5. Use a SAD lamp daily
Ten to twenty minutes of light exposure in the morning has been shown to lift mood + help regulate your body clock. If it’s within your means, the evidence around their effectiveness is fairly robust.

6. Eat with the season
This isn’t rocket science – nourishing, hot food when you are cold + it’s dark helps regulate both energy + mood. Think soups, stews, one pot or pan stuff, meals that physically (+ psychosomatically) warm you up.

7. Try small daily rituals
Light a candle when you wake up, pop on a fave playlist while you cook, create a bedtime routine that signals rest. These obvious routines serve as comforting anchors that remind your brain life can feel good, even in the darker months.

~ You don’t have to love winter to get through it well. Prioritise consistent, small routines that support your system + brain. None of these habits reinvent the wheel, but taken together, they work!

Save this for the next grey morning when everything feels heavier than usual 🤍

18/11/2025

1. Understanding when self-help is unhelpful:
In retrospect, 10 years ago my self-help stuff was a bit more performative and aesthetic, now I’m more attuned to what actually works for me (as well as when it stops working and starts stressing me instead!)

2. Daily movement:
Boring yet true. I do it a bit for aesthetics, but more for sanity, health and longevity. Mostly yoga and Pilates, sometimes just a minute of bouncing. All I know is I never regret moving.

3. Boundaries with technology:
I do have my phone in the bedroom overnight, but it’s on do not disturb and stays that way in the morning until I feel ready for the world. We all deserve a moment of our own lives before diving into other people’s! (It also goes back on DND when I’m working.)

4. Morning meditation + red light mask:
Meditation is not for everyone, but it’s worked magic for me. It’s time just for me before the day hits (combining it w/ my red light mask ticks some skin self-care off too)

5. No coffee:
I’ve accepted that caffeine just doesn’t suit me. I still love the taste though, so am committed to decaf. (FYI: this is a very personal one, you might thrive after an espresso!)

6. Early wake-up:
I aim for 6am, or at least before the kids get up. It sets me up to be a better person for the day. (I can really feel/notice the difference when I miss it.)

7. Prioritising rest:
At 31 I equated business with self-worth. Now I’m much better at knowing when I’m nearing my breaking point and getting some rest in before I hit zero.

8. Not stressing the small stuff:
Life is too demanding and too short to be worrying about the things that don’t really matter. And the amazing thing is that the more you do this, the more your brain recognises that they don’t actually matter and does it for you automatically.

9. Weekly reflection:
Either journaling, a short walk without headphones or just talking to myself - basically a moment to run through my thoughts/feelings/random comments I made in 2005 that my brain won’t let me forget, and so on.

None of these are glamorous, most are free and what works for me might not be right for you. Find what is, do it consistently, see how you feel…

15/11/2025

1. What actually matters to me between now and New Year’s Eve - and what doesn’t?

2. What would “good enough” look like for the rest of this year?

3. Where am I pushing for more when maintenance would be enough?

4. What do I need to feel grounded and well-supported through the next six weeks?

5. Which habits, boundaries or routines help me feel most like myself - and which have I drifted from?

6. If I started 2026 feeling proud and peaceful, what would I have done differently right now?

You don’t have to end the year on a “high” – just with a bit of purpose. The final stretch isn’t about one last sprint; it’s about recalibrating. Pausing to notice what still matters, what can wait, and how you actually want to feel by the time the clock strikes midnight on NYE. A gentle reset now will do far more for 2026 you than another round of pressure ever could.

If this resonates, my upcoming book ‘Prioritise This: a practical guide for thriving in a world that won’t slow down’ might too. Link in bio to pre-order, or join my Substack for an exclusive 20% discount off your copy 👆🏻♥️

14/11/2025

1. Is this thought about something happening now, or is it hypothetical about something in the future or reflective about something that has already happened?
2. Is my logical? i.e. does it make sense?
3. Is this thought reasonable? i.e. it proportional to the event or circumstance to which it relates
4. Finally, even if it’s all those things (which is may possibly be)… Is this thought helpful? Because if it’s not aiding you in solving a problem or situation or helping you move through it with compassion (for yourself and others) then maybe… it’s harming you

That final question for me is the most important question you can ask yourself to crawl your way out of a stress spiral…

Save for when you need this reminder (I still need it and I do this for a living!) ♥️

12/11/2025

⭐️SOME NEWS⭐️

I’ve written a book!

Prioritise This: A Practical Guide For Thriving In A World That Won’t Slow Down comes out in hardback + audio on the 26th of March 2026.

I’ve been working on the idea for this book for almost four years and I’m so excited to share it.

In a world that constantly demands more, Prioritise This invites you to press pause and consider what truly matters to you. Offering both the daily steps and big-picture thinking to help put insight into practice, it provides a system to support you through life’s inevitable ups and downs and a framework to build a life you love.

I wrote it to help you better navigate the demands of modern living, while also ensuring that you don’t feel overwhelmed by having to read yet another self-help book!

I’m hoping I’ve achieved just that, but you can judge for yourself by pre-ordering it NOW.

Your early support makes a huge difference; it lets booksellers and publishers know that you’re keen, which means more support for the book from the powers-that-be.

Huge thank you to the team esp my editor Jonathan Shipley and my incredible agent Morwenna Loughman

Pre-order links in my bio 📣♥️

Oh and the cover colour in this video is wrong – this is a mock-up and they accidentally printed it with an old design, but we had no time to create a new one. The actual cover has the most perfect butter-yellow background, and since, for many years I’ve had a Pinterest board dedicated solely to butter (don’t ask) I figured the best use of my time this morning would be to make a butter collage to showcase and celebrate it… Swipe for that!

11/11/2025

Life is not easy. Hard days/weeks/months happen.

But you’ve gotta make space for the parts that feel good, even (or especially!?) on the days that don’t. Don’t wait for the chaos to calm (because often, as we all know, it doesn’t!)

Seek out and prioritise out the moments and people that help you feel like you. More of them, bit less of the rest 🪩♥️

09/11/2025

From: “I’ll start when I feel ready.” → To: “I’ll start, and that’s how I’ll get ready.”
We’re never bloody ready! Don’t wait to take action.

From: “I don’t have time.” → To: “I choose how I spend my time.”
We’re all busy and time isn’t magically found, it’s made. Make your calendar reflects your priorities.

From: “This is just who I am.” → To: “I’m becoming the kind of person who…”
Identity isn’t fixed, forget what you’ve told yourself (or been told) - rewrite your story.

From: “I need motivation.” → To: “I need systems.”
Motivation is a fickle mistress, systems are what creates change.

From: “I’ll do it perfectly, or not at all.” → To: “Imperfect action is better than no action.”
Momentum creates progress, f*ck perfection.

From: “I failed, so I should give up.” → To: “I slipped, so I’ll keep going.”
One off-day doesn’t cancel out everything you’ve done. Think: resilience.

From: “I’ll focus on results.” → To: “I’ll focus on the process.”
Forget the outcome for a minute, just show up daily and see the results.

Despite what the algorithm might promise, sustainable change doesn’t come from overhauling your life overnight. It comes from tiny but consistent mindset shifts that add up over time. And while it may be more boring than the big, showy promises, it’s also more lasting.

Which one of these would change your life the most if you committed to it today?

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I am a mindset coach, speaker, wellbeing teacher and journalist, with over 23 years of yoga, meditation and mindfulness experience (I started young, at 12) and strive to bring my personal experience of the transformative and healing effects of these practices to others. My aim is to better enable you to navigate this challenging modern world. My yoga approach is body positive; I want students to feel empowered to find what works best for them and strive for function over aesthetics. I hold a core belief that yoga is for everyone, and much of my work involves communities and charities, including The Refugee Council and Crisis. (FYI, if you're a charity I would love to hear from you!) More than anything I believe the real yoga happens off the mat - who really gives a sh*t if you can put your foot behind your head!? In coaching my aim is to enable clients to better connect with themselves (and those around them), access their core priorities, let go of negative patterns and motivate themselves for any changes, or difficulties, that may lie ahead. As a journalist, I frequently write and comment on yoga, body image, social media, mental health, and wellbeing, and have been featured in Women's Health, Vogue, The Guardian, iD, and Dazed Beauty. I am also Head of Yoga & Wellbeing at Raw Press, run regular panel talks for Soho House and host a monthly self-help book club, Books To Change Your Life. Before all this I spent 10 years working as a fashion and arts journalist, and still enjoy a high heel now and then.