The Pain Coach

27/02/2026

Healing doesn’t move in a straight line.

And when you live with chronic pain, that truth can feel cruel.

One good day.
Two bad ones.
A flare when you thought you were “finally getting better.”

It’s exhausting.

You start measuring progress by one thing only:
“Is the pain gone yet?”

If the answer is no…
You feel like you’re failing.

But you’re not.

Pain recovery isn’t a straight road.
It’s waves.

And progress isn’t the absence of pain —
It’s how you respond when it shows up.

I’ve seen it over and over.

The moment you stop fighting where you are…
And start taking one small step from here…
Everything shifts.

Less pressure.
Less comparison.
Less self-blame.

More self-trust.

You are not behind.
You are not broken.
You are doing your best.

And that is enough for today.

If you’re tired of doing this alone,
I offer a free 30-minute Discovery Call.

A gentle space.
A starting point.
A next small step.

You don’t have to wait until you feel better to begin.

You can begin from exactly where you are 🤍.

Warmest,
Richmond 🕊️

26/02/2026

26/02/2026

Welcome to my Instagram—

regular posts to help you understand the true causes of your persistent or chronic pain.

And how to transform your pain.

If you have specific questions, send me a message or ask in the comments ⬇️.

Warmest,
Richmond 🕊️
The Pain Coach

26/02/2026

Pain Coaching—

We clarify your best imagined future.

What does that look like?

How does it feel?

Now we create your strategy to get from where you are now to where you want to go.

The skills you learn bring it alive in your world.

Pure possibility exists because the future is unknown.

Freedom exists when you realise limiting beliefs holding you back, and you convert them to truths.

This is our work together.

Start today— book your free 30 minute Discovery call.

Check my link in the bio.

Warmest,
Richmond 🕊️

25/02/2026

What if a “bad day”
is just a day that challenged you?

Notice how quickly the mind decides.

This is good.
This is bad.

But before the label —
there is simply experience.

A tightness.
A heaviness.
A wave passing through.

Can you stay with it
for just a moment
before turning it into a story?

So much suffering begins
with wishing this moment
were different.

“When I’m present with what is, not thinking that happiness will arrive only when things are different, then I’m filled with gratitude.”
~ Brother Phap Hai

What if nothing has gone wrong?

What if today is simply asking you
to feel a little more
than you expected?

When you allow the moment to be as it is,
something softens.

Attention gently moves
from what’s missing
to what’s here.

Take a slow breath.

Look around you.

What quiet supports are present right now?

What causes — even the ones you once called painful — helped shape this very moment?

Good.
Bad.
Who knows?

There is an old Zen saying:

“Every day is a good day.”

Hold that gently today.

And if this speaks to you, follow along.
I share reflections each day to help you meet life — and pain — with a little more ease.

Warmly,
Richmond 🕊️

24/02/2026

Your pain feels solid.
But it isn’t.

Persistent pain can feel fixed.
Like it’s set in stone.

It isn’t.

It changes — moment to moment, condition to condition.

Cultivating a still mind to meet your pain means you can sit calmly with it and begin to see what you’ve been missing.

Because pain is not a block of concrete.
It’s a process.

Most people only experience pain through resistance:
bracing,
fearing,
fighting,
wanting it gone.

That fight keeps your body systems in protect mode.

But when you become still — even briefly — something powerful happens.

You start to observe:

• The intensity rises and falls
• The sensation shifts location or texture
• The edges soften
• The meaning changes

Pain is more like the tide than a rock.

Waves respond to conditions.
Change the conditions — the tide changes.

This is not passivity.
It is intelligent engagement.

When you meet pain with steadiness instead of struggle, it begins to reveal its patterns:

– needs that are unmet
– old wounds that require acknowledgement
– beliefs that keep the system on alert
– behaviours that reinforce protection

In stillness, pain reveals its pattern.
When you see the pattern, you can change it.

And when the pattern changes, pain changes.

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Pain Coach Reflections

1️⃣ What happens to your pain when you stop fighting it for 60 seconds and simply observe?

2️⃣ What shifts — even slightly — in intensity, location, or quality?

3️⃣ If your pain is protective, what might it be protecting you from?

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For 25 years, I’ve guided people to understand their pain this way — not as something permanent, but as something responsive.

There is possibility here.
There is freedom available.

If you want to ease your pain and improve your life, start by deepening your understanding.

Read my previous posts.
Sign up to Pain Talking via the link in my bio.

And if you’re ready to explore your story properly, book a free 30-minute Discovery Call.

Meet it calmly.
Understand it deeply.
Change the conditions.

Warmest,
Richmond 🕊️

23/02/2026

The human mind searches outside itself — and never feels fulfilled.

You want your pain to be different.

Less intense.
Less frequent.
Gone.

You want your body to cooperate.
You want certainty.
You want relief.

And when reality doesn’t comply…
you suffer.

Not just from the pain —
but from the argument with what is.

This is the trap.

The mind is wired to look outward:

Another scan.
Another specialist.
Another intervention.

And sometimes those help.

But they rarely transform.

Because persistent pain is not just a physical event.
It is a nervous system experience.
A learned pattern.
A story reinforced over time.

Transformation doesn’t begin with fixing.

It begins with understanding.

When you understand the true drivers of your pain,
fear reduces.
Tension softens.
The body stops bracing.

And when the body stops bracing —
change becomes possible.

There are no hacks here.
No miracle cures.

Just inner work.
Done safely.
Done properly.

If you are living with chronic or persistent pain:

You are not broken.
And you are not stuck.

The way forward exists.

If you’re ready to stop searching outward
and start understanding inward,

Book your free 30-minute Discovery Call.

Let’s begin.

Warmest,
Richmond 🕊️

22/02/2026

This week in Pain to Peace, I explore how mindfulness and Right View help us meet pain with clarity instead of resistance.

Pain is not something to fight or deny.

It is a need state.
An invitation.
A doorway to understanding.

When we learn to gently question our perceptions…
when we return to the present moment…
when we turn towards discomfort with compassion…

Freedom becomes possible.

Not because pain disappears —
but because we relate to it differently.

If you’d like the full reflection, including a simple practice you can begin today, visit the link in my bio and sign up for Pain Talking.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️

21/02/2026

What got you here won’t get you better.

If you’re living with persistent or chronic pain… pause here.

Because this matters.

What do you believe about your pain?
That it’s damage?
That it’s permanent?
That you just have to endure it?

Those beliefs quietly shape everything.

Your thoughts.
Your emotions.
Your choices.
Your life.

And if nothing changes… nothing changes.

It’s not because you’re broken.
It’s because patterns repeat.

Same beliefs.
Same reactions.
Same results.

Persistent pain often follows the same loop.

I see this every day.

When we gently explore someone’s story — their fears, their habits, the meaning they’ve given their pain — something shifts.

New understanding.
New actions.
New outcomes.

Not overnight.

But steadily.

Your body isn’t betraying you.
It’s responding to patterns.

And patterns can change.

If you’ve been feeling stuck… maybe it’s not about trying harder.

Maybe it’s about thinking differently.

And being supported while you do.

Are you ready to create new patterns?

Start with a free Discovery Call.
Link in bio.

Warmest,
Richmond 🕊️

19/02/2026

99% of shoulders show “abnormalities” on MRI.

Large imaging data in adults aged 41–76 found:

• 96% of people without pain had rotator cuff abnormalities
• 98% of people with pain had them
• 99% had at least one structural finding

So structural change is common.
Pain is not.

This tells us something important:

An MRI shows anatomy.
It does not measure pain.

Pain is an experience created by multiple body systems — nervous, immune, endocrine.

Not by the anatomy.

That’s why two people can have similar scans and very different experiences.

Imaging can inform decisions.
But it cannot explain pain on its own.

To understand persistent pain, we need more than images of structures.

We need to understand you, the person and your life.

Through caring conversations.

Then we can guide you with skills and a clear strategy.

To achieve relief and success.

Transform your pain and your life.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️






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if you want to take the first step, contact me and book a free 30 minute discovery call.

19/02/2026

99% of shoulders show “abnormalities” on MRI.

Large imaging data in adults aged 41–76 found:

• 96% of people without pain had rotator cuff abnormalities
• 98% of people with pain had them
• 99% had at least one structural finding

So structural change is common.
Pain is not.

This tells us something important:

An MRI shows anatomy.
It does not measure pain.

Pain is an experience created by multiple body systems — nervous, immune, endocrine.

Not by the anatomy.

That’s why two people can have similar scans and very different experiences.

Imaging can inform decisions.
But it cannot explain pain on its own.

To understand persistent pain, we need more than images of structures.

We need to understand you, the person and your life.

Through caring conversations.

Then we can guide you with skills and a clear strategy.

To achieve relief and success.

Transform your pain and your life.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️

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if you want to take the first step, contact me and book a free 30 minute discovery call.

18/02/2026

You are not your pain. And change is possible.

In this week’s Pain Talking, I share three gentle shifts that help you change your relationship with persistent pain — and begin moving toward healing and freedom again.

So many people I meet feel stuck, exhausted, or worried this is just how life will be now. But pain can change. And when you learn how to relate to it differently, new possibilities begin to open.

In this new post, you’ll discover how to:

✨ Create space between you and the pain
✨ Notice how pain changes moment to moment
✨ Loosen pain’s hold on your identity
✨ Reduce fear and frustration around symptoms
✨ Start moving forward again with hope

If you’re not yet part of Pain Talking, you’re warmly welcome to join us — free — via the link in my bio. Each week I share practical guidance to help you understand and transform persistent pain.

Pain Coaching helps you:

✔ Understand why pain has persisted
✔ Change your relationship with pain
✔ Develop daily skills for sustained recovery
✔ Reconnect with what matters in your life
✔ Create a supported path back to living fully

And if you’d like personal guidance, you’re welcome to book a free 30-minute Discovery Call, where you can tell me about your situation and we’ll explore how we might work together.

You don’t have to figure this out alone.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️