The Pain Coach

22/03/2026

I designed Pain Coaching to be personalised, holistic and to focus on one thing:

Your transformation.

From suffering to freedom.

And to reach you wherever you are in the world—
I can work with you.

See my bio link to:
read Pain Talking,
listen to my podcast appearances,

and to get in touch to start your transformation.

Book your free Discovery call today.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️
The Pain Coach

22/03/2026

This week’s Pain to Peace Programme.

8 skills and how to put them into practice to cross from the shore of suffering to the shore of freedom.

See my bio link to read and subscribe.

Warmest,
Richmond 🕊️

22/03/2026

Trying to get rid of pain is like shooting the messenger.

And then wondering…
why it keeps coming back.

Or why it shows up somewhere new.

Pain can feel relentless.

Confusing.
Exhausting.
At times… frightening.

Especially when nothing seems to fix it.

But pain is not asking to be killed, fixed,
or gotten rid of.

It’s asking to be understood.

Because pain is not random.

It is created by body systems
that have learned how to:

protect
keep you alive
heal
and support your growth

over your lifetime.

So when pain begins after:
an injury
an illness
a stressful time

It can feel like that was the cause.

But it wasn’t.

It was the trigger.

For something your body systems already knew
how to do.

Your body systems didn’t suddenly get it wrong.

They responded
in the only way they had learned:
to keep you safe.

Understanding pain is not about
chemicals or receptors
or signals.

It’s about understanding
yourself:

Your life.
Your experiences.
What yours system have adapted to carry.

That’s where the true cause lives.

And when that is seen—

something changes.

The fight softens.
You feel the ease.
The body doesn’t need to push as hard.

And new possibilities open.

Killing symptoms is not transformation.

It’s a temporary change…
until the pain finds another way
to be heard.

25 years ago I had the idea for Pain Coaching.

It has evolved and is spreading.

It’s about one thing.

Your transformation.
Your freedom.

—

If you live with chronic pain:
there is nothing wrong with you.
Your body makes sense.

If you support people with pain:
there is more here than symptoms.

And when you begin to understand that…
everything about how you work changes.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️

21/03/2026

New post on Pain Talking.

This is such an important insight.

This is the kind of shift we explore each week—real insights from real people learning to understand their pain.

I share these reflections each week for people living with persistent pain—and those supporting them.

See my bio link to read and subscribe.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️

21/03/2026

A quote from The Fourteen Mindfulness Trainings of the order of Interbeing.

This is one of the main differences between the traditional approach to treating pain and Pain Coaching that guides to you to transform your pain.

In Pain Coaching we examine your experiences closely so you can learn from them.

Your experiences are the raw materials of life.

Your experiences include thoughts, feelings, perceptions, sensations.

Knowledge is always based on the past.

It will be updated in time.

So we can’t just use knowledge as a way of helping you move forward.

Your lived experience is what we are working with and shaping for the better.

Pain Coaching has one focus, and that’s to help you improve your life.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️

20/03/2026

19/03/2026

Your pain is transformed—

by meeting your needs,
healing wounds (trauma),
shifting from limiting beliefs to truths,
personal growth.

This happens in your day to day, moment to moment living.

It’s not separate.

You can’t step out of your life.

Instead, you live your life watering wholesome seeds.

The Buddhist Eightfold Path is a guide.
As relevant now as 2600 years ago when it was written.

The Pain to Peace Programme is based on the Path.

Sign up to Pain Talking to start following.

Link in bio ⬆️.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️

19/03/2026

Medication.
Injections.
Treatments done to you.

They may help temporarily—
but they don’t sustainably change persistent pain.

Why?

Because pain is not asking to be fixed, numbed, or eliminated.

It’s asking to be understood.

If you’ve been living with persistent pain, you’ll know this:

You’ve tried everything.
You’ve done what you were told.
And yet… it’s still there.

Not because you’re failing—
but because the real causes haven’t been addressed.

Pain is not your enemy.
It’s a guide.

When we take the time to understand the message within your pain—
through the story of your life—
everything begins to change.

We identify the root causes,
and address them directly.

That’s how you transform your experience of pain.
That’s how you move forward again.

I’ve spent over 25 years helping people do exactly this.

Not just to reduce pain—
but to reclaim their life.

If this resonates…
you don’t have to keep figuring it out alone.

Book your free Discovery call via the link in my bio.

Let’s begin.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️

19/03/2026

Here’s your final, tightened, ready-to-post version with that sharper line integrated and everything flowing clean, warm, and authoritative:

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Pain is not just in your brain.

And if you’ve been living with it for months… or years…
you already know that.

Because it doesn’t stay in one place.

Some days it’s louder.
Some days it moves.
Some days you wonder…

“Why is this still here?”

You’ve tried to fix it.
Treat it.
Push through it.

Maybe you’ve even been told:
“Nothing more can be done.”

And yet…
it’s still there.

Here’s what most people aren’t told:

Pain isn’t created by one system alone.

It’s your brain, your body, your immune system, your nervous system—
working together like an orchestra.

And the music they create…
is your lived experience.

Including pain.

For years, the focus has been on controlling symptoms.
Getting rid of pain.

But pain doesn’t persist because your body is broken.

It persists because something hasn’t been heard.

I see this every day.

People who have tried everything…
done everything “right”…
and still feel stuck.

Not because they’re failing—
but because their pain has a deeper story.

When we begin to understand that story…
something changes.

You stop fighting your body.
You start working with it.

And that’s when things begin to shift.

Pain is not your enemy.
It’s trying to get your attention.

And when you understand what it’s trying to show you—
a different path opens up.

If this resonates…
you don’t have to figure it out on your own.

I offer a free Discovery call to explore what’s really going on for you.

No pressure. Just a conversation.

Message me “START”
or reach out directly.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️

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17/03/2026

The way you’re relating to your pain…
might be why it keeps coming back.

Not because you’re doing anything wrong—
but because no one showed you another way.

So what conversation are you having with it?

Do you fight it?
Ignore it?
Push through it?

And when you do…
what happens next?

For many people, it becomes a cycle.
Manage it.
Get on with life.
And then… it returns.

Frustrating.
Confusing.
Exhausting.

Here’s the shift:

It’s not just what’s happening—
it’s how you relate to it that matters.

Your body isn’t working against you.
It’s trying to protect you.

But sometimes, the patterns that once helped
are the same ones keeping the pain in place.

And when you begin to understand that…

Something changes.

You stop fighting your body.
And start working with it.

Now there is a way forward.

Not quick fixes—
but real, lasting change.

If this feels like you…
there is another way to meet your pain.

Save this if you want to come back to it.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️

17/03/2026

Got it—your voice is strong. We’re keeping your meaning, language, and structure, just making it flow, feel, and land harder.

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Persistent pain has a purpose.

It’s not just something to get rid of.
It’s a guide.

Traditional treatments often focus on controlling or easing symptoms.
And that’s okay…
as long as the true causes are being addressed.

But when pain is numbed, ignored, or pushed away—
it’s like shooting the messenger…
and wondering why another one keeps appearing.

Persistent pain isn’t asking to be fought.
It’s asking to be understood.

To be listened to.
And acted upon.

Because pain isn’t happening to you.
It’s happening for you.

Pointing you towards something that needs care, attention, and change.

Pain coaching is about long-term, meaningful transformation—
not quick fixes.

Because quick fixes don’t last.

Instead, we begin to understand the real causes of your pain,
uncover the patterns that keep it going,
and gently build new patterns and skills that support lasting change.

A different way forward.

If you’re reading this and thinking,
this feels like me…

You’re not alone.

And there is a way through.

Start today by booking your free discovery call with me. Link in bio ⬆️.

With care,
Richmond 🕊️

17/03/2026

New podcast, Conversations that Matter, episode 1–

The Conversations Inside Are Shaping Your Life—
The Voice Within

Every conversation we have with others begins with the conversation we have with ourselves.

In this first episode of Conversations That Matter, integrative trauma specialist psychotherapist Sarah Davies and The Pain Coach Richmond Stace explore the inner conversations that quietly shape our lives.

From the beliefs we form early in childhood to the stories we carry about who we are, these inner dialogues influence how we see ourselves, how we relate to others, and how we move through the world.

They shape our relationships, our emotions, and even our health — often in ways we’re not consciously aware of.

Drawing on their work in trauma therapy, pain science, and human development, Sarah and Richmond explore how the beliefs and patterns we develop early in life can continue to influence our biology, behaviour, and wellbeing many years later.

But this conversation is not about blame or fixing ourselves.

It’s about understanding.

Because when we begin to notice the conversations we’re having with ourselves, something important happens:
we create the possibility for change.

This episode lays the foundation for the Conversations That Matter series — exploring the conversations that shape our lives, both with ourselves and with the people around us.

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In this episode we explore:

• Why the conversation you have with yourself shapes every relationship in your life
• How childhood experiences influence the beliefs we carry about ourselves and the world
• Why our beliefs influence our biology and body systems
• How inner dialogue shapes our emotions, behaviour, and health
• How awareness of these inner conversations can begin to change the way we live and relate to others

This episode lays the foundation for the Conversations That Matter series, where we explore the conversations that shape our lives — both with ourselves and with others.

Follow or subscribe to the podcast to continue the conversation—
see my bio link

With care,
Sarah & Richmond 🕊️