Jessica Goodchild Coaching & Hypnotherapy

04/12/2025

It’s not that you don’t know how to say no.
It’s that “no” hasn’t felt like an option in a very long time.

You don’t say yes because you want to.
You don’t say yes because you’re kind.
You don’t say yes because you’re confident or empowered.

You say yes because somewhere along the way, you learned that:
- disappointing someone = danger
- your worth is measured in usefulness
- peace depends on your compliance
- acceptance comes from obedience
- being “easy” keeps you safe
- being seen feels uncomfortable
- being misunderstood feels unbearable
- being called selfish feels catastrophic
- conflict feels like a threat
- the load is yours to carry
- and choosing differently feels… forbidden

For you, “no” doesn’t feel like a word.

It feels like:
⚠️ rude
⚠️ risky
⚠️ unsafe
⚠️ unkind
⚠️ unthinkable

And here’s the truth you’ve never been told:

You’re not choosing this pattern.
You inherited it — and then survived inside it.
Your body learned to keep you safe by saying yes.
Your nervous system learned that compliance = love.
Your identity learned that your needs don’t matter.

None of this is your fault.
But it is your work — if you want to break the cycle.

If this hits you in the chest… just know this:
There IS a softer, safer way to say no —
one your body can handle, and one that doesn’t cost you connection.

If you want it, I’m running a 60-minute session to help you find it.
DM NO for the link.

02/12/2025

26/11/2025

December Pressure + Energy Protection

As we head into December, the invitations start piling up…

Work socials.
Networking events.
Team drinks.
Festive get-togethers squeezed into already-full calendars.

Some people love this season.
But many quietly find it… a lot.

Not because they’re antisocial.
Not because they can’t cope.
But because this time of year brings a very specific kind of pressure:

✨ to be “on”
✨ to stay longer than you want
✨ to keep saying yes
✨ to match everyone else’s energy
✨ to override how your body actually feels

Most women don’t struggle with the events themselves —
they struggle with the expectation they put on themselves inside them.

So here’s your reminder before the month gets loud:

You don’t have to match the pace of the season.

You don’t have to attend everything.
You don’t have to stay until the end.
You don’t have to be the bubbly one, the reliable one, the “let’s make the effort” one.

You’re allowed to honour your energy — even in a busy room.

Small things make a difference:

✨ a moment of fresh air
✨ grounding your breath before you walk in
✨ leaving when it feels right for you
✨ saying “not this one” without guilt
✨ choosing the events that feel good, not obligatory

This isn’t about avoiding people.
It’s about not abandoning yourself.

So before December sweeps you up, ask yourself:

“What do I actually have capacity for?”

You’re allowed to move through this season at a pace that supports you —
not one that drains you.

Less pressure.
More self-awareness.
Start there. 💛

✨ What’s one thing that helps you protect your energy during the festive madness?
Tell me below — I’d love to hear.

20/11/2025

Have you ever walked away from a difficult conversation and felt completely depleted?

Not just mentally —
but emotionally, physically, and energetically…
like the life force had been drained right out of you.

And then the spiral begins:
“I wish I’d said…”
“Why did they think that about me?”
“I should’ve handled that better.”
“How did it turn into that?”
“What if they’re right?”

It’s the rollercoaster you enter when your mind is trying to make sense of something your body is still trying to process.

Because here’s the truth most people never learn:

Your body feels the impact first.
Your mind tries to catch up.

That “aftershock” you feel —
the tight chest, the clenched stomach, the buzzing nervous system —

is your body saying:

“I need a moment.”

So before you analyse, replay, or catastrophise…
stop.

Just for a moment.

Place a hand on your body and feel.

Not to judge.
Not to fix.
Just to notice:

Is my body open or closed?
Expansive or tight?
Grounded or bracing?

Because when you drop into the body and invite yourself to soften, something shifts.

Your awareness expands.
Your breath deepens.
Your truth becomes clearer.

You move from spiralling thoughts
→ to grounded wisdom.

From self-doubt
→ to self-connection.

From reaction
→ to response.

Your body always knows before your mind does.
It holds the data, the nuance, the truth.

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is simply pause…
and listen.

Have you ever felt that emotional “aftershock” after a difficult conversation?

19/11/2025

One thing I keep coming back to at the moment is connection.

Not just networking or “keeping in touch” for the sake of it… but those real, honest, slightly messy conversations where you can talk about everything – work, life, hormones, HRT, relationships and all the bits in between.

Last week I had a virtual catch up with the brilliant Michelle Townsend of Harmony Life Balance and it was exactly that.

Refreshing.
Grounding.
Honest.
And as always – so insightful.

It reminded me how important it is to:
make time for ourselves
connect with the people who get us
intentionally spend time with those who help keep our vibe high

If you haven’t already, Michelle’s book is an absolute must-read.
It’s funny, warm, and full of insights. Her story is both inspiring and a genuine joy to read.

💬 Little invitation for you today:
Who’s that one person you always feel better after speaking to – and when was the last time you actually reached out?

Maybe today’s the day to send the message, book the coffee (or the Zoom), and give yourself that pocket of connection you’ve been craving. 💛

17/11/2025

There’s something I see in a lot of capable, high-functioning women —
and most of them don’t realise it:

Their nervous system is running on overdrive.

Not because they’re weak.
Not because they’re “too emotional.”
But because the brain is wired for survival, not happiness.

It doesn’t distinguish between:

• a real physical threat
and
• a modern-day social threat (being judged, misunderstood, criticised, or letting someone down)

Both feel like danger.

So the same system that once protected us from sabre-toothed tigers now fires up when you:

• replay conversations
• overthink after a meeting
• worry how a message was received
• try to avoid disappointing anyone
• assume the worst
• constantly scan for what might go wrong

This isn’t “overreacting.”
It’s your nervous system doing its job — just a little too well.

The real issue?

Most women live so much in their heads that their body never gets the message that the threat has passed.

So the nervous system stays activated.
Quietly. Constantly.
Sometimes for years.

The shift doesn’t start with positive thinking.
It starts with your body — even a few seconds of connection can soften the whole system.

So I’m curious:
What’s your go-to nervous system reset?

I’d love to know.

16/11/2025

The doors to Reclaim & Rise are now closed for this round 🤍

Thank you to everyone who reached out, asked questions, shared a post, or quietly followed along. I appreciate every single message and every silent observer just as much.

When I started my business, I thought it would be simple — show up, help people, and everything else would fall into place.
�But what I’ve learned is that business grows through real conversations, connection, curiosity, and community.

And that’s exactly what the last couple of weeks have brought.

For anyone who’s been watching quietly or figuring out what you need in your own time — that’s perfectly okay.

There’s no pressure here.

Reclaim & Rise will reopen again in mid-January, so if now wasn’t your moment, another one is coming when the timing feels better for you.

For the rest of the year, I’ll be sharing some lighter, more reflective content to help you reconnect with yourself and ease a bit of the pressure you might be carrying.

Thanks for being here — truly.�Jess x

13/11/2025

That Moment You Know

When that quiet voice that says:

“I can’t keep doing life like this…”

Most of my clients heard it before they reached out.

They weren’t falling apart.

They were just… tired of pretending they were fine.

And they were ready to feel different — not someday, but now.

If you’ve been feeling that too…

✨ I have 1 space remaining open
✨ Doors close tomorrow at midnight

DM me the word RISE and I’ll send the details —
no pressure, just presence.

12/11/2025

✨ Real change doesn’t have to be dramatic.

You feel it - the subtle shift that allows your nervous system to relax.

You see it - in how you speak to yourself, move through your day, make decisions, hold boundaries, show up in your life.

And often?

The changes ripple out in ways you never expected…

Like the client who messaged me saying:

💬 “I’ve been to the gym more times than I have in years.”
We never even spoke about the gym.
But we did work on self-worth — and that changed everything.

Or the woman who:
💬 “Raised her prices — without needing to explain or justify it.”
Because we rewired the belief that her worth was tied to overgiving.

Or the man who:
💬 “Started taking better care of himself after a period of severe anxiety.”
He stopped spiralling and started feeling grounded.

Or the mum who:
💬 “Didn’t want to pass down her self-doubt to her kids — and now feels like she’s showing them a new way.”

This is the work of Reclaim & Rise.

It’s not about fixing you — because you’re not broken.

It’s about gently helping you reconnect to the part of you that’s been buried under survival mode…

…and teaching your nervous system that it’s safe to rise.

🌀 Final space remaining for 1:1 support
🗓 Doors close Friday 14th November
📩 DM me ‘RISE’ for the details — no pressure, just presence

10/11/2025

If something in your world has felt… off
But you’ve quietly told yourself:

"Maybe this is just how things are now…”
This is your invitation to choose something different.

🌀 Reclaim & Rise is now open
A 6-month 1:1 experience combining hypnotherapy + coaching
For women who are tired of holding it all together
…and ready to lead themselves with calm, clarity and confidence.

Inside, we go deep — gently — to shift the patterns that have been running your life behind the scenes:

→ Overthinking
→ People-pleasing
→ Self-doubt
→ Constant self-comparison
→ The never-ending feeling that you’re not “enough”

Most clients feel a powerful shift within the first 3 sessions
(That’s why doors close on Friday 14th November)
So we can get those sessions in before the Christmas overwhelm kicks in.

If something in you knows it’s time...
DM me RISE for all the details.

09/11/2025

Ever tried driving with a misted-up windscreen?

You’re squinting, wiping it with your sleeve, hoping the heater kicks in before you hit something.

You can move forward…
…but it doesn’t feel safe.�
You’re not really in control.
You definitely can’t drive with confidence or ease.�
☁️ That’s what life can feel like when you’re stuck in survival mode.�
You’re functioning.
You’re showing up.
You’re holding it together.

But inside?

You’re reacting instead of leading.
Coping instead of choosing.
Surviving instead of living.
And maybe, deep down, you’ve started to believe that’s just how life feels.

But doesn't have to.

✨ Inside Reclaim & Rise, we clear the fog.

Using clinical hypnotherapy + soulful coaching, we uncover the patterns clouding your self-trust — and gently rewire them at the source.

You stop white-knuckling your way through every day.
You start seeing yourself clearly again — and finally feel safe to move forward.

With calm.
With clarity.
With intention.

2 spaces are open now.
Doors close Friday 14th November.
🌀 6 months of deep, private 1:1 work
🌀 Designed for women ready to stop coping and start leading themselves

Message me RISE if you're done surviving — and ready to reclaim yourself.
No pressure. Just presence.