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29/10/2025

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗗𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗯𝗹𝗲𝗺𝘀 — 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗡𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗦𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗯𝗹𝗲𝗺𝘀.

Most couples think they need better communication.
But that’s not true.

You don’t fight because you don’t understand each other —
You fight because your bodies don’t feel safe with each other.

When your nervous system detects threat, it shuts down logic.
Your brain stops listening and starts protecting.

So you talk louder. They shut down.
You withdraw. They chase.
Both of you think the other is the problem.

𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 — 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗽𝗵𝘆𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹.

If you learn to calm your body before you speak,
you’ll stop fighting to be right
and start fighting to feel safe — together.

❤️ Learn to deactivate the argument before it starts.
👉 https://godwantsyoumarried.com/the-conflict-deactivator

29/10/2025

𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗺𝘆. 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝘀𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺 𝗶𝘀 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘀𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗱.

That’s the secret most couples never learn.

When tension rises, you’re not fighting each other —
you’re fighting two dysregulated nervous systems trying to feel safe again.

The yelling, the withdrawal, the silence —
all of it is just the body’s way of saying, “I don’t feel safe.”

You can’t fix that with words.
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗶𝘅 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗺.
With tone. With pause. With presence.

Because whoever regulates first, heals both.

❤️ That’s what emotional leadership looks like.
That’s how peace begins.

✨ 𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 how to 𝗿𝗲𝗴𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲, reconnect, and rebuild — even in the 𝗺𝗶𝗱𝗱𝗹𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗺.
👉 https://godwantsyoumarried.com/the-conflict-deactivator

The Conflict Deactivator Guide gives you instant, word-for-word scripts to stop blow-ups, set boundaries, and protect your peace—without shutting down or losing your cool.No more spirals. Just calm, clarity, and control – on demand.

29/10/2025

Ever wonder why “t𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝘁" makes things worse?

Because your partner isn’t hearing your words —
They’re 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝘀𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺.

Tone sharper. Shoulders tighter.
Heart rate faster. Voice louder.

Their body copies yours automatically.
Now both of you are on defense,
fighting a battle your biology started before your words did.

This isn’t a communication issue — 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝗴𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗲.
Whoever calms first wins the connection.
Because a regulated partner is louder than any argument.

💡 The strongest person in the room isn’t the loudest —
It’s the one whose nervous system stays grounded when everything else is on fire.

🔥 Learn how to stay calm when everything’s burning.
👉 https://godwantsyoumarried.com/the-conflict-deactivator

20/09/2025

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