Rebecca Thomson

27/04/2026

There’s a kind of grief we don’t talk about enough.

Not loss in the obvious sense…
but the quieter kind.

The life you thought you’d have.
A version of you that’s changed.
A relationship that doesn’t feel the same anymore.

In this guest episode of The Wine O’clock Woman, I’m joined by the fabulous Dipti Tait and we explore these often unrecognised forms of loss.

Because when something feels off… heavy… unresolved…

It’s very easy to pour a drink rather than sit with it.

This conversation is about changing that.

Naming it.
Understanding it.
And finding a way through it without needing to numb it.

🎧 Episode 32: Drinking Through Grief You Haven’t Named Yet with Dipti Taite

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0CegqDLuj8aYKjyB6LU7XP?si=R3sXxDJDT9GIPc4LFR4boQ

The Wine O'Clock Woman · Episode

19/04/2026

If you keep saying “not tonight”…
but still end up pouring a drink, this is why.

It’s not really about the drink.
It’s about wanting the back-and-forth in your head to stop.

That constant back and forth in your head…
“should I, shouldn’t I…”

The drink ends that.

That’s where the relief comes from.

Most women think it’s about willpower.
It’s not.

I’m running a free live workshop.
Next Wednesday, 22nd April at 7pm — live.

Women often say it’s the first time they’ve properly seen the cycle they’re stuck in.

This is only one part of it.

If you want to understand this properly, you’ll want to be there.

Click on the link save your place:

https://rebeccathomson.co.uk/workshop

15/04/2026

Some women don’t drink because they’re stressed.

They drink because the house is quiet.

Because the day is done…
and there’s nothing to move on to.

No noise.
No distraction.
Just that feeling you can’t quite put your finger on.

A bit flat or restless.
A bit lonely, if you’re honest.

That’s where the habit builds.

The drink becomes:
– the switch-off
– the marker that the day is over
– the thing that fills the space

Here, in those moments alcohol has a different job to do.

That’s the part we don’t talk about enough.

In this episode, I walk through the questions that help you see what’s really going on in those moments.

🎧 Listen to Episode 31 of The Wine O’Clock Woman here:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6jThHIVRt8VFjx4Qc9bhm1?si=iSaE7J-FRMe6gGeQPVP8hw&ct=91&t=101

13/04/2026

Most women don’t have a drinking problem.

They have a pattern.

You say “not tonight.”
You still pour the glass.

It happens quickly.
It feels automatic.

Inside this free live workshop, you’ll see exactly what’s happening in real time.

Women often tell me this is where it finally clicks.

“I’ve never seen it like that before… It makes so much sense.”

Once you can see it, you can interrupt it.

If you’ve been stuck in this pattern longer than you’d like, it’s time to look at it differently.

Wednesday 22nd April | 7pm | Live on Zoom
Save your place here👇

https://rebeccathomson.co.uk/workshop

12/04/2026

You thought things would get easier when the kids left.
So why are you drinking more than ever?

There’s a stage of life no one prepares you for.

The house is quieter.
Your role shifts.
Something feels off.

It doesn’t happen overnight.
The drinking creeps in.

Not dramatically.
More often than you’d like.

In this episode, I speak with Anita McKenna about why this happens. What’s really going on beneath it.

If you’ve found yourself thinking,
“How did this become my normal?”

Episode 30 | The Wine O’clock Woman
🎧 Listen here:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mrN2Q1oF0hu0sK4S2955G?si=iC4HOCToRKS-9xIzTdhXFg

08/04/2026

Most women trying to change their drinking are focused on the wrong part of the cycle.

They focus on the drink.

They try to control it.
Cut it down.
Prove they can handle it.

That is not where the problem sits.
So nothing changes.

You wake up thinking, “not tonight.”
By the evening, you’re pouring a drink anyway.

This is not about willpower.
It is about where your attention is going.

You don’t have a drinking problem.
You have a decision you haven’t made.

Until that decision is clear, the pattern continues.

This is something I see consistently with the women I work with.
If you recognise yourself in this, start there.

🎧 The Wine O’Clock Woman Episode 29: You Don’t Have a Drinking Problem (Why You Keep Binge Drinking)

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5kn3QxP9zLZ15ej4SxsAiQ?si=LBQE3FhRSKicFZCbSGUmUg&ct=183&t=183

04/04/2026

Choosing sobriety when everyone around you still drinks?

That’s where most people struggle.

Because it’s not just about alcohol.
It’s about fitting in, keeping the peace, being the “easy one.”

In this episode with Elizabeth Davies, we talk about what it really takes to choose differently when nothing around you has changed.

This isn’t about willpower.
It’s about who you’re becoming.

🎧 Episode 28 is live:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3a4egGJIwgD33DhMkrC871?si=bjPw19w9T5y2unAsTjxPgA&ct=448&t=448

02/04/2026

It’s not about whether you want the drink.
It’s not even about whether you need it.

It’s about needing the decision to be over.

That constant back and forth in your head…
“should I, shouldn’t I…”

The drink ends that.

That’s where the relief comes from.

Most women think it’s about willpower.
It’s not.

Women start to see why this keeps happening, and what’s actually going on for them while they’re in the workshop.

That’s where things start to change quickly.

If you recognise this pattern, come and be in the room for this.

The next workshop is on Wednesday 22nd April at 7pm.

Save your place here:

https://rebeccathomson.co.uk/workshop

01/04/2026

Most women don’t realise this is happening.

Daytime you holds it all together.
Evening you can finally breathe.

And somewhere in between… there’s a drink.

Episode 27 of The Wine O’Clock Woman is out now.
🎧 Listen here:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/53eCYshg6zycSnvPKnjGQp?si=QHV1JZZwRgSY86l0Pb7rLg&t=695&ct=695

28/03/2026

Alcohol can feel like a friend.
Like a buffer against the grief.
Until it starts making things worse.

In this episode, Jayne shares how alcohol became part of how she coped with loss, how it felt supportive in the moment.
Over time it began to exacerbate what she was feeling, not ease it.

We talk about:
• how patterns form without you fully realising
• why alcohol can feel like it’s helping, but quietly make things heavier
• what begins to change when you step away from it

What life can look like on the other side.
It isn’t about giving something up, it’s about what becomes possible when you’re no longer relying on it in the same way.

If you’ve ever wondered:

👉 “Is this helping… or making things harder?”

This will resonate.

🎧 Episode 26 — listen now
On The Wine O’clock Woman podcast

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0LN9N45uGsZOUm62OPYpBZ?si=bim9yEaDRYiPLey4PpkazA&ct=144&t=194

25/03/2026

You’re not deciding to drink in the moment.

By the time you’re in the kitchen…

👉 it’s already been decided.

It just feels like a choice.

It starts earlier.

That first thought…
“I could have one later.”

Then the back and forth.
“I won’t.”
“Maybe I will.”

And somewhere in there… it quietly turns into a yes.

If you’ve ever said
“not tonight”… and then done it anyway, this will make sense of it.

🎧 Listen to The Wine O’Clock Woman:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0iCHMphk4j1eQFDwigyLMk?si=bCldISOvTvWug44to1YuGA&ct=597&t=644

22/03/2026

If you keep saying you won’t drink tonight and then do, this is for women who are exhausted by the cycle.

I’m Rebecca Thomson, Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist and host of The Wine O’Clock Woman podcast.

This Wednesday at 7pm UK time I’m running a free live online workshop to show you why that keeps happening.

I’ll walk you through the cycle so you can stop wondering why you haven’t been able to sort this out.

Most women say it’s the first time they’ve understood why they keep drinking even though they don’t want to.

One hour.
No need to share.
Just come and listen.

Register for your place here:

https://rebeccathomson.co.uk/workshop