The Mindful Counsellor

14/11/2025

News: House Move Possibility
I’m pleased to share that I’m in the process of moving home, with the expected move taking place in January/February (if the sale progresses smoothly).

Because of the relocation, I’m currently unable to accept new face to face clients (unless they are happy to travel to Knowbury, near Ludlow, or work with me online after the move).

I can still take online clients of course. My retreat March 1st is another chance to access therapeutic support and have some fun with other local women. Please inquire.

I’ll continue to update here if there are any changes. But in the meantime, a sneak preview of the new therapy space I will be adapting as a cosy healing space to see clients - again from home.

Ludlow is a great town to mooch, cafe stop or shop. I’m sad I can’t stay in malvern but Ludlow property is cheaper for the whole family space I need. I will miss Malvern very much! It’s been healing for me and I’ve loved helping to contribute to women’s happiness and well being too over the years I’ve been here.

12/11/2025

Too close to the truth. When we feel down, we don’t do the simple things. Me included. We need a friend who calls us to dance in the woods (with a 2 litre bottle of water and a lettuce)🥬… if you’re down reach out to a friend or go for a walk.. 1% in the right direction each day soon adds up in terms of well being.

09/11/2025

“Becoming yourself is the longest, most sacred act of rebellion.” Unknown

Sometimes we are in a phase of ‘Autumn’ and letting go of the things that aren’t helpful to us anymore (like the 6 cars of decluttering I’ve been ready, willing and able to do this past few weeks after 10 years of needing to).

Or sometimes we find we are in a season of ‘spring’ and in a time where we are nurturing or allowing the fullness of our true nature and character to be seen more fully and more authentically, without feeling the fears or the bindings that result in us shrinking ourselves as a woman for others’ comfort.

I recognise I am in transformation myself (Autumn) both as a season of shedding and one of transition as an older woman… Ohhh the beautiful life-long process of unlayering and connecting back to who I might be without hurt and harm! I feel like a child discovering snow as I make these changes… Excited, energised, and making space for the version of me that is best now! Yet exhausted, but anxious, quite sad and apprehensive too!

So I am with you if this post resonates..

If you need support in any season of your life, please do reach out. I support women particularly with these two shifts and work holistically as a qualified therapist, adding in body based ‘movement medicine’ for our bodies to help reset and ground (like intuitive movement and yin yoga, breathwork, mindfulness based approaches etc if welcomed by the client) and a sprinkle of coaching to help you work out your way forward during these exciting but often challenging shifts.

Dee
Mymindfulcounsellor@gmail.com

06/11/2025

Well besides fact the house is my cup of tea, these words resonate for my women’s circle ⭕️’tribe’ - our people we were meant to meet.

05/11/2025

Yes so many of us have had a life quake… It is most scary thing ever but it rocks the s*** out and on the other side we may even thank those who were part of causing it.

So if this resonates, we who have had one, breathe with you!

If you’re not coping, please get in touch. Therapy can be exceptionally supportive during these times: reassurances, sounding boards, kindness, calm, acceptance….

One thing I regret was finding a therapist who could educate me on how to breathe to feel safe through it all and to be with me as I rebuilt. It became the main reason I offer accessible concessions and support others in the way I do.

Feel free to connect if you feel I can support you and I hope your quake rebirth is gentle.

02/11/2025

My women’s circle starting Wednesday 5.11.25 for six weeks is an ideal place to explore burn out and reset before Christmas!

Burn out is linked to cortisol messing with our female hormones too, not just the resources being insufficient for demand. Please get in touch if your wisdom is saying ‘I can’t keep doing this.’

I work holistically, using therapy, coaching, mindfulness, tapping, breathwork and yin yoga practices to firstly help reduce demand on the nervous system and then address the need to push… And then there’s my Curcle where you get connection with other women to help too..

Sometimes we need to yield to our own bodies, not in collapse but in power of pushing back with a ‘no’…

01/11/2025

What sort of therapist am I?
You know those calm, endlessly polite therapists who speak slowly, in very hushed tones, never spill their tea, and always say, “And how does that make you feel?” in a voice so soft you want to scream: ‘Sh***!’?
Yeah… that’s not me. 😄

I’m not your typical therapist — and I am proud to offer ‘something alternative’ to person centred therapy to the mix.

As a woman, I find that most other women (who at least come to me) want real conversations — the kind where you can bring your whole messy, wonderful self, heart, body, mind, soul, tears, dog hair and all.

Sometimes they laugh maybe as life is sometimes absurd, sometimes we’ll swear as sometimes it’s the only fitting word, sometimes we’ll sit in silence and breathe until our nervous systems can feel it’s safe again.

I mix science and traditional therapeutic knowledge with soul — grounding nervous system work, trauma-informed therapy, mindfulness, and a bit of old-fashioned wisdom that usually involves nature, compassion, and occasionally, a dog snoring next to me. 🐾

I’m not ever going to nod politely and watch you spiral through anxiety.

I’m here to help you shift what’s stuck — with honesty, humour, warmth, and practical tools that actually work in real life (not just in therapy textbooks).

Why have I developed my own style so confidently? Because real healing isn’t beige and clinical in my experience for women. It’s human. It’s based in connection and in our bodies. And sometimes, laughing together is medicine.

Underneath it all, I believe that compassion, connection and human to human communication is the foundation for women to feel safe enough to find their wisdom to heal in the therapy space.

So no, I’m not your average therapist. But if you’re ready for grounded conversation, proper tea (the best in Worcestershire, probably), and the occasional F-bomb wrapped in compassionate, genuine kindness… I think we’ll get on just fine. 😉

Here are some reviews / Feedback gracefully provided by clients which give a good indicator of what it’s like to work with me. You can also read more at
👉 www.mymindfulcounsellor.com
Soace available: Tuesdays currently but please get in touch if you have a narrow window of availability. I may be able to help.

01/11/2025

About to start a serious and major project of decluttering. This makes me feel worried, sad, anxious and resistant. Any tips?

I’m starting with sheds today! Not emotionally attached. I still need a head shift from ‘I might need this and then I will have to pay for it’ so 36 paint brushes later, they all seem helpful! lol An example of what I need to release. Also where do old paint brushes go perfectly good when I can’t do car boots as too draining to grapple with 10 p pieces!

Then I saw this today. I know my inspiration is inside but not reaching it quite yet…

If anyone needs spanner’s or paint brushes seriously I have half a shed as can never remember which shed they’re in! I have 3 strimmers I have collected over the years!

I’m going to put stuff on my drive today. If you’d like to make a donation please donate to Stacey and Alex’s crowd finder link below for their hope to get treatment for a baby.

30/10/2025

Already looking forward to this debate at How The Light Gets in.. https://howthelightgetsin.org/festivals/hay/big-ideas-2/debates-2/debates

Can we have it all as women? Or is having it all a male wish that we try to compete with? I’m learning about our hormones don’t do well mixed with cortisol whereas testosterone and dopamine do.. Are we so burnt out and anxious because we think equality is ‘push and drive’ but that’s not aligned with our physiology, hormones or needs? I’m more yin as I get more liberated! My most ambitious , high performing years were the most depressing and harmful… can’t wait to hear the best brains in the world discuss this..

Any thoughts on their hook? I’d say Yes!

We believed that freedom would do the work of equality, that once women could make their own choices, the rest would take care of itself. But studies show that the greater the gender-equality in a country, the more likely women are to choose traditionally gendered paths — prioritising family, part-time work, or careers in care and education.

Nordic countries, for example, celebrated for gender equality, have some of the lowest proportions of women in leadership.

At the same time, freedom has come with a cost. Women pursuing traditional roles are shamed for betraying feminist ideals.

And when women pursue work success, 87% report being penalised and undermined.

Should we recognise that freedom isn't enough to ensure equality and further intervention is required? Are women's choices revealing their true preferences? Or is the core issue that we don't give sufficient status and financial reward to traditionally female gendered roles?

“Look deep into nature, and you will understand everything better,” claimed Albert Einstein. And we naturally expect scientific investigation into nature to reveal a comprehensible universe. Yet the more modern physics develops, the less it seems to make sense. Relativity tells us that the passi...

29/10/2025

Feeling anxious or wired? Try this gentle reset for your body and mind.

Legs up the wall (with a small cushion under the hips) is one of the simplest and most effective ways to calm the nervous system. Just ten minutes in this pose helps your body shift from fight or flight into rest and restore — the parasympathetic state where healing, digestion and deep relaxation become possible.

Scientifically, this posture supports lymphatic flow, reduces inflammation, and enhances blood circulation to the brain — all of which signal safety to the body. From a more mindful or spiritual perspective, it’s a quiet invitation to surrender — to let gravity hold you for a while and remind your system that you’re safe to soften.

It’s a beautiful place to begin if anxiety, overthinking, or exhaustion have been running the show.

In therapy, I teach clients how to combine practices like this with grounded, evidence-based approaches to ease anxiety at its root — helping your body and mind work together rather than against each other.

If you’d like to learn how to calm your nervous system, sleep better, and feel more at peace in your own skin, this is the kind of work we can do together as an ‘extra’ in the therapy sessions, where that is needed. No ordinary therapist = My Mindful Counsellor (holistic qualified counsellor and pyschotherapist) 🌿

www.mymindfulcounsellor.com