Clare Irving NLP Practitioner

Clare Irving NLP Practitioner I am passionate and 100 % committed to helping people to achieve their goals and improve themselves.

13/06/2024

What does beautiful mean to you?

In a world where we are bombarded by filters etc it’s hard to not compare yourself to images that actually are not real but look -

Beautiful to me means someone’s heart and soul

Beautiful means someone is kind

Caring

Puts others before them

Will pick up litter

Will help someone in need

Are selfless

Do little things for others that mean the world

Beautiful is deep

Stop looking at it as an outside in

You do any of the above you are absolutely beautiful

Have a lovely week

X

04/06/2024

Sometimes in life things can happen to us that are beyond our control

A common way to deal with this is to take the blame , to feel you deserved it or you must have done something wrong to have that happen to you.

This is detrimental to our mental health and over all well being and self value and belief .

Often we carry these things with us for most of our lives thinking it’s just what we have been dealt and is normal to feel this way.

I am here to tell you it’s not and you do not have to go through your entire life carrying the weight of trauma or other people’s wrong doing on your shoulders .

It’s not an easy process to go through , it can be challenging and feelings of vulnerability can arise but a life time of feeling free, knowing you did no wrong , self acceptance and an increased sense of self belief awaits you when you do decide to speak to someone and learn to understand and to ultimately let go.

Nlp and life coaching can really help you to be able to process and get you to a life free from the burdens you may have been carrying .

So you can enjoy the rest of your life feeling so much lighter , confident and most importantly truly happy

30/05/2024

Your past does not determine your future

Read that again because it’s so true

Things that happen to us can be detrimental to our mental health and mind set, it’s completely normal to feel those emotions and to carry them with you for periods of time .

We are all human - remember that , we are not robots and some things in life happen that are beyond our control and these can really manifest inside our minds and can affect how we move forwards and can entirely affect our future and choices that we make to the point of actually missing out on positive things because we feel we cannot accept them or believe that people can treat us differently and positively

However it doesn’t have to be this way

You don’t have to be defined by past trauma or events which made you feel negative emotions

You can change your future , you can free yourself from carrying all that you do and you can find true and pure happiness whatever that may look like to you.

We can reframe and choose to move forwards in a different direction, one that’s much more positive , and it is absolutely 💯 possible.

Someone once said to me I don’t feel I have really had any trauma in my life so I don’t understand why I feel this way…. Trauma is different for everyone and words can be traumatic for someone to deal with, the way people act towards us can be traumatic if we don’t have the tools to be able to cope with it and also the self belief to stay in your own lane and move in the direction that you wish to.

Don’t ever compare your life in any way at all to someone else’s , what effects you may not someone else but if it does and you want to deal with things to be able to push forwards NLP has many great tools to help you to do so.

Have a lovely Thursday x

21/05/2024

Your priority list ~~~~

Where are you on it?

I ask this because for pretty much my whole life I have been at the bottom of it

I always thought well I am looking after everyone else right so I am doing good things so it doesn’t matter ….

But guess what …

And this is something I have really learnt recently

It absolutely does matter

You matter

Your happiness matters

Check in with yourself when you next have 5-10 minutes

Think where you are on your priority list

Do you need to shuffle it around to get yourself higher on that list?

I promise you it makes all the difference when you put yourself on that list

It doesn’t have to mean you put yourself first 24/7

But it does mean that you matter to you and this is super important

One life

One time on this earth

Time is the one thing we can never get back so as lovely as it is to look after others you also need to look after you too and do what makes you happy

15/05/2024

We are all born into this world a blank canvas

As we grow - our environment , people we are around , events in life good and bad, school, college , work , everything influences us and how we adapt to changes.

There is a cycle of repetitive behaviour which is common where we repeat the behaviour of those who have influenced us the most .

There is also a choice here - a choice to repeat and a choice to learn from and consciously decided to not follow in that same path especially if it is negative or even if it’s positive you do not have to follow the path of others.

The latter is the braver choice because it’s almost like you are going against the grain so to speak however if the first choice doesn’t serve you and make for a promising future isn’t it much better to be that bit braver?

Are you following your own true path?

The amazing thing is even if you have ventured down the repeated behaviour path and it’s not serving you and you feel stuck because many do, you absolutely can divert - in fact we can divert in life as many times as we like .

See life as a journey and it’s one that we only get one of .

Choose things that are fulfilling to you and be brave and don’t be influenced by others

Have a lovely wednesday

12/05/2024

Nothing lasts forever if you want to change you CAN

If you want to be happy you absolutely CAN be

Sometimes we have to go through some hard times to get to the other side

Sometimes we have to evaluate our lives and make some necessary changes to get to where we truly want to be

Sometimes we have to let go of some people or things that are no longer positive for us from our past

Sometimes we really need to work on ourselves and visualising what we truly want our lives to look like, to feel like, to be filled with

Sometimes we have to be brave and step into the unknown new territory in order to enable us to open ourselves up to the possibility of finding what we really want

What does your happy look like?

Are you ready to make some changes , be a bit brave and open yourself up to the possibility of finding true happiness?

I offer a free 30 minute consultation for all new clients , I am committed to working with you to help you find where you want your life to go and support you through NLP to get you there.

In 12 months time do you want to look back and still be in the same place?

Or do you want to look back and see how far you have come and in what you have envisaged your happy place to look like?

Have a lovely Sunday 😊

08/05/2024

Reframing food and the way we look at it

The eat well plate is a great tool for an overall balanced diet

It’s visual and it’s pretty accurate although it seems to have been forgotten in amongst all the diets we are bombarded with.

We eat for lots of different reasons -
Nutrients our bodies need
Pleasure (yes food is allowed to be pleasurable and so it should be it’s a fundamental factor in life and socially also)
Taste - we have our own individual taste of what we like and don’t like

We can also eat for emotional reasons and factors outside of all of the above -
Stress
Anxiety
Boredom
Punishment
Emotionally

Along with confusion over what we should and shouldn’t be eating due to the mixed messages and advertising we have been surrounded by probably since our teenage years when we first become aware of our bodies and the different shapes and aware of diets .

What happens after years of yo yo dieting is that we become disconnected with our true hunger cues and cravings for what we actually desire to eat.

We no longer have the mind and body connection to true cues that our body will actually naturally give us .

Emotions kick in also, winning when we are sticking to the diet and shame, failure and guilt when we eventually lose control which will inevitably happen - I personally don’t know many people that have managed to rigidly stick to a diet and the same weight for there entire life . I could be proven wrong and am open to that but it would be the minority of people.

So this cycle continues - which builds a war between us and our bodies - you know the thing that keeps us alive, enables us to move, have children , care for people and work .

By reframing the way we look at food , ridding our minds of all the diets we have tried over the years and concentrating solely on the fundamentals of nutrition, the hunger scale, ridding emotional eating and allowing ourselves to actually enjoy food and also honour our bodies with movement of whatever feels good for you. We can find peace and freedom with food , make friends with the one thing that keeps us alive , gain confidence and self belief and learn to love the skin that we are in quite literally .

It’s a skill - one we are actually born with that is bashed out of us over the years whether that’s due to continuous dieting or a trauma that’s happened so we use food to control you can undo all of it and go on to live a life free from the stress and anxiety around food and body image so that you can actually give more focus to things you truly want to do .

Have a lovely Wednesday

07/05/2024

Does your own mind prevent you from doing things that you want to?

Do you worry and become anxious over others judging you?

Just stop for a moment

Let’s switch this around and reframe ….

Do you judge others ?

If the answer is no then why logically would people be judging you and if they do why does that affect you?

What’s your reasons for wanting to do the things your mind is preventing you from doing?

How are you going to feel after doing these things? Will it have a positive outcome?

Build your why, your belief , let go of overthinking and creating fear inside of you.

Because when we work through these things I can promise you the anxiety will go and things will become more clear and you will gain clarity about your why .

Have a lovely Tuesday

Clare

06/05/2024

Be kind to yourself

Take some pressure off

Think about positive attributes you have inside you

Think how you care for others

Do you show yourself the same level of care?

How do you talk to yourself?

Are you self critical when you look in the mirror?

Do you talk down to yourself?

Nobody on this planet is perfect … absolutely nobody so I am not going to say that I can take you to this perfect place

But what we can work on is you becoming your own friend , being kind to yourself , forgiving yourself for mistakes, making peace with who you to move forwards in life as your authentic self. To focus on the goals and what you want your life to look like in 5 years - 12 months - the next month (chunking things down so we get there in small steps forwards )

We can reframe the way you speak to yourself , we can quieten that negative voice right down.

We can focus on your future and what that looks like and leave the past in the past but take the learns from it- it’s all experience at the end of the day the good and the bad .

I was terrible for negative self talk and I use reframing a lot in my life.

To book a free 30 minute consultation drop me a message - let’s see where you want your life to go and let’s get you there

04/05/2024

‘I don’t have time for me’

Have a look through your diary, block out some time , I bet you can find it 😉

Another tool that’s great is 24 hour recall

I use it for lots of things with clients

If your goal is to move more

Let’s go back through the last 24 hours and see where we can make some changes to include some more movement

If your goal is to change some eating habits

We go back through the past 24 hours and see where some habits are creeping in without you realising.

It’s a great tool that we can work together on and habit by habit become more aware and make some changes which will result in awareness increasing .

A lot of what we do is purely by habit , but a lot of habits we are not at all aware of .

It’s an interesting process that you have to be cool with not happening over night but with increasing awareness and becoming in tune with behaviours and habits before you know it , we have changed them to a positive habit that will remain unconsciously .

Would you like to make some changes to your lifestyle and habits?

Book a free 30 minute consultation and let’s start the process to the best version of you

30/04/2024

3 things your most grateful for today ?

I’ll start you off

1. My daughter - I could not be more proud of her as a little human and eternally grateful for our beautiful bond that we have .

2. My strength and resilience

3. Some really amazingly supportive people that I have in my life .

Starting your day with 3 things you are grateful for is a great way to get into a positive mind set.

I also like writing down my values of what’s most important to me and my daughter and I wrote a list of what we want to do/ see and achieve in the next 12 months together and independently .

I love a list!

What are you grateful for?

And what do you want from the next 12 months… don’t need to share just something to think about because sometimes things can get muddled and side tracked so it’s a good tool to have a check in with yourself every now and again

28/04/2024

If things are no longer positive for you

If you need to let go of some things or even people to open doors for you to be happy

Then although it can be a hard decision - you will know deep down in your gut if it’s the right one

Sometimes we have to do bold and brave things and walk into the unknown to have that chance of real happiness.

Be brave , be bold , be you 🫶

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