The Infinite Recovery Project

The Infinite Recovery Project Trauma-Healed, Non-Pathologising Transformation For a long time, I thought real change had to be hard. Most of us are taught this. That change is tough.

That it meant pushing, forcing, and struggling to break old habits. That it takes willpower and discipline. But what if it isn’t that way at all? What if the complexity we live in is a byproduct of the human condition, and real transformation is much simpler than we’ve been led to believe? This is what Infinite Recovery is about. Not managing symptoms. Not fixing what’s “broken.”
But uncovering the wholeness that’s already here - mind, body and spirit together. After three decades of walking this path myself and with others, I’ve seen people discover possibilities they never thought were available. And every time, it begins in the same place: with simplicity.

10/12/2025

Misunderstandings About Addiction have shaped how people see themselves, their healing, and their worth. In this video, we explore why addiction is not a flaw, defect, or disease but an intelligent response to early life adversity.

Most traditional recovery models label, pathologize, or shame people without understanding the deeper truth:
Your body and mind were protecting you the best way they knew how.

Stopping drugs is only the beginning of the healing journey. Real transformation comes from understanding yourself, your trauma, your coping patterns, and the intelligent ways your nervous system tried to keep you alive.

If you’ve ever felt like you were “broken,” or if someone told you your addiction was simply about the substances this video will help you see the truth with compassion, clarity, and empowerment.

Visit My Website: https://infiniterecoveryproject.com
Get My Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1068323302

𝗗𝗮𝘆 𝟯/𝟱 - 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗕𝗲𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗕𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗼𝘂𝘁: 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝘀We need to stop talking about burnout as if it’s just tired...
10/12/2025

𝗗𝗮𝘆 𝟯/𝟱 - 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗕𝗲𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗕𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗼𝘂𝘁: 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝘀
We need to stop talking about burnout as if it’s just tiredness

It’s not, burnout is the slow collapse of a false identity, one built to survive, perform, and protect in environments that demanded over functioning and invisibility

𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗮 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲

A role, inherited or constructed, often before we even had language for it, that says
- Be useful, or be nothing
- Be competent, or be abandoned
- Take care of everyone else, or be unsafe

And when that role starts to fail, because no role can carry the whole system forever, what rises is not just fatigue. It’s rage, grief, and a sense of abandonment that goes all the way back to where it started

𝗕𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴

It’s not just about long hours or heavy caseloads (though those matter). It’s what Gabor Maté calls the loss of self in the service of others, a sacrifice made so often, so early, it became who we think we are【Maté, 2019】.

What makes it harder is that, for many therapists, this trauma built role is exactly what got them praise, in school, in training, and even now in clinical spaces. The very behaviours that once kept us safe are rewarded as professionalism

- So we keep performing
- We get certified in burnout prevention
- We learn self-care strategies
- We go on retreats
And yet, something still feels off

Why? Because you can’t self-care your way out of a role that’s rooted in a false sense of self. The very I that’s doing the caring is the one collapsing

This is where the absolute and relative truths diverge, and where deeper healing begins

Relatively, yes, boundaries, support, rest, and structure matter

Absolutely, the question becomes, who is the one burning out?

Is it the aware presence behind all roles… or is it the identity built to survive?

In my work, I’ve seen again and again, when awareness starts to emerge, when we begin to sense what I call in my book innate health, the collapse of identity no longer feels like failure, it feels like truth coming to reclaim the self

We may still feel the grief
We may still notice the rage
But we’re not afraid of it anymore
Because we’re not trying to keep the performance alive

That’s the difference between managing burnout and awakening through it

𝗦𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘁𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆’𝘀 𝗶𝗻𝘃𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻

What parts of your professional identity feel tight, strained, like they might shatter if you stop holding them up?

What are you protecting… and what are you protecting it from?

And underneath all of that, what remains, if nothing needs to be done?

𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂, 𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺?

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Tomorrow Day 4 - Fight Mode in the Field, Comment below if you want to be tagged or share to be part of this investigation

𝗗𝗮𝘆 𝟮/𝟱 - 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝘀: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗮𝘄𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘁Beneath professional warmth, clinical precision, and evidence-ba...
09/12/2025

𝗗𝗮𝘆 𝟮/𝟱 - 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝘀: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗮𝘄𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘁
Beneath professional warmth, clinical precision, and evidence-based fluency, another trauma response thrives, always agreeable, always nodding, always learning, always serving

𝗙𝗮𝘄𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴

Not the freeze of shutdown, not the fight for reform, but the hyper-attunement that says something like..

If I stay valuable, likeable, needed… I’ll stay safe

In many therapy rooms, this looks like the expert therapist. Constantly upgrading their credentials, sitting in supervision like it’s a performance, speaking fluently in theories, but unable to hold boundaries or inhabit true presence.

𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲𝘀 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲

For many of us, especially those raised in unpredictable or emotionally unsafe homes, fawning became a survival strategy. Hypervigilance masked as empathy, over delivering masked as care, people-pleasing dressed in professionalism (𝗪𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗲𝗿, 𝟮𝟬𝟭𝟯)

Also, this pattern is rewarded by the system, clients like you, colleagues validate your dedication, certifications applaud your lifelong learning, but under the surface?

Collapse
Dysregulation
A complete disconnection from your own nervous system

From the relative lens, we might say
This is burnout, codependency, enmeshment

But from the absolute, it’s simply a misunderstanding of identity, a self constructed to survive relational rupture. When identity is built on being needed, there’s no space for being yourself. Focus becomes narrowed to service and safety, its biological survival

This pattern doesn’t just happen to clients, it plays out within the therapist, too

Healing here isn’t another training, it’s the quiet work of returning to awareness, of noticing the collapse behind the smile. Of inhabiting the discomfort of not being the expert, the helper, the solution

And noticing...Am I here, or am I performing safety for someone else’s benefit?

In my own work, I’ve seen this show up in sneaky ways, nodding too much, rushing to give insight, feeling the urge to rescue a client from silence. Each time, I had to notice the urge behind the action, and take it into my own inquiry, not the next intervention.

The paradox is that, we can be both deeply skilled, and still unravelling survival roles we thought were professionalism. We can hold a powerful therapeutic container, while also being human beings re-learning how to belong to ourselves

𝗦𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳?
That the very role of being a therapist or professional was, at times, a trauma response itself?

And if so… how do we unlearn the role, while still offering something meaningful?

I’m here for the honest conversations with those willing

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𝗧𝗼𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗿𝗼𝘄 𝗗𝗮𝘆 𝟯 - 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗕𝗲𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗕𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗼𝘂𝘁, comment below if you want to be tagged.

08/12/2025

You didn’t fail at recovery recovery failed to meet you.
If you've been in and out of programs and nothing has worked, it’s not because you're broken. It’s because the traditional recovery model never met your real human experience.

You weren’t just trying to stop a behavior.
You were carrying trauma, disconnection, and a nervous system stuck in survival mode.

Real healing begins when someone finally understands that you weren’t failing you were adapting the best way you knew how.

In this video, we explore why recovery often misses the deeper layers of your experience and how true transformation begins with presence, compassion, and nervous system healing.

Visit My Website: https://infiniterecoveryproject.com
Get My Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1068323302

08/12/2025

If you’ve ever struggled with addiction or love someone who has this message is for you.

Addiction is not weakness, failure, or a lack of discipline. Addiction is an adaptive intelligence-your system protecting you from overwhelming emotional pain, unmet needs, stress, trauma, and dysregulation.

In Infinite Recovery, we don’t start with shame. We start with understanding.

Because when people see the intelligence behind their coping, the nervous system softens, shame dissolves, and real recovery becomes possible.

In this video, I explain why addiction isn’t the problem it was the best solution your system had at the time. And when the body finally feels safe, compulsions lose their purpose.

If this resonates, stay close. You don’t have to walk this alone.

Visit My Website: https://infiniterecoveryproject.com
Get My Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1068323302

𝗗𝗮𝘆 𝟭/𝟱 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆 – 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁’𝘀 𝗙𝗿𝗲𝗲𝘇𝗲Why emotional flatness in therapy is often a trauma response...
08/12/2025

𝗗𝗮𝘆 𝟭/𝟱 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆 – 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁’𝘀 𝗙𝗿𝗲𝗲𝘇𝗲
Why emotional flatness in therapy is often a trauma response, not a sign of professionalism

We’ve often been taught in therapy training to stay regulated in the therapy room, to be neutral, measured and grounded

What if what we’re calling regulated is actually shut down?

What if the flat, robotic professionalism we see in many rooms…
is not presence, but protection?

When fight and flight aren’t safe, the nervous system collapses into dorsal vagal freeze (𝗣𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗲𝘀, 𝟮𝟬𝟭𝟭). It numbs, disconnects and learns to survive by not feeling.

And for many therapists, this didn’t start with training....
because It started in childhood

The emotional withdrawal that looks like professionalism… is often the frozen self that learned connection was dangerous.

𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗣𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗲𝘀 showed how nervous systems move into collapse under threat

𝗪𝗶𝗻𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗼𝘁𝘁 wrote about the False Self, the mask we wear to survive unsafe environments

𝗚𝗮𝗯𝗼𝗿 𝗠𝗮𝘁é pointed to trauma-driven helping roles, where performance replaces contact

𝗔𝗹𝗹𝗮𝗻 𝗦𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗿𝗲 identified right-brain disconnection as a barrier to relational depth, not a skill

Much of what’s taught in therapy training doesn’t help this, in fact, It reinforces the disconnection

It pathologises humanness and rewards performance

We learn to be safe by removing ourselves, by turning presence into performance

But deeper than trauma, deeper than nervous system patterning, there is something untouched....

There is a part of you that is not your regulation
Not your training
Not your identity as a therapist
It is awareness, the ever-present, undamaged field in which all of this appears

In relative terms, yes, the freeze response needs care, thawing, co-regulation, embodied repair

But in absolute truth, you were never broken to start with...

The freeze doesn’t define you, it appeared in you, as you, convincing...
but It came and went....
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗶𝗱𝗻’𝘁....

𝗕𝗼𝘁𝗵 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗲
The healing journey demands we hold the paradox
There is trauma, and there is wholeness
There is adaptation, and there is awareness
There is work to do, and nothing to fix

And that tension, between what seems real and what is true, is the real ground of transformation....

If that sounds like a contradiction…
it’s because 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗵 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗶𝘀!

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𝗧𝗼𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗿𝗼𝘄 𝗗𝗮𝘆 𝟮 -𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗮𝘄𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘁

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗛𝗶𝗱𝗱𝗲𝗻 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗛𝗲𝗹𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗳𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀Weeklong Series Outline (last one before 2026)These posts have bee...
07/12/2025

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗛𝗶𝗱𝗱𝗲𝗻 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗛𝗲𝗹𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗳𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀
Weeklong Series Outline (last one before 2026)

These posts have been doing really well on LinkedIn so thought I'd share this series here as people tend to think they are more awake on Facebook.

In the work of therapy, coaching, healing, or service professions, we often assume that trauma responses are something our clients bring with them. But what if the roles we take on to help others are also shaped by our own unresolved adaptations?

What if our professionalism is partly performance? What if our expertise sometimes conceals our deepest protections?

This series explores the trauma responses hidden within the roles of helpers, these aren't just concepts, they're embodied habits, nervous system adaptations, and identity level survival strategies that were once intelligent, necessary, even brilliant. But now, unexamined, they limit our presence, connection, and effectiveness

Each day, we’ll focus on one trauma response as it shows up in the helping professions, not just in the obvious ways, but in the subtle performance of being..the expert or the strong one or the regulated one or the spiritually awakened one who is beyond this!

Each post will draw from

Polyvagal Theory (Stephen Porges) for nervous system patterns like freeze, fawn, fight, and shutdown

Attachment and Developmental Trauma (Schore, Van der Kolk, Cozolino)

Gabor Maté on the caregiver identity and trauma-driven helping

Winnicott on the False Self as an adaptation to early conditions

IFS (Richard Schwartz) on protectors and the loss of Self-energy in roles

The Infinite Recovery framework, pointing to the reality that all this is happening inside a deeper space of awareness - what I call innate health in my current book

My aim is not to pathologise the therapist or healer, it’s to illuminate, to help us see what’s driving us beneath our skillsets. And to point to the quiet, ever-present space of awareness, our innate health, where real connection and presence exist always

Series Schedule:
Day 1 The Therapist’s Freeze
Why hyper-control, rigidity, or emotional numbing in therapy rooms often signal dorsal vagal shutdown, not professionalism

Day 2 The Fawning Expert
How constant need to prove value, credentials, and perfection is often a fawn response to systemic threat

Day 3 The Rage Behind Burnout
Why burnout is not just fatigue, it’s the collapse of a trauma-built role, and often has anger, grief, and abandonment beneath it

Day 4 Fight Mode in the Field
When therapists, educators, or advocates attack others in the name of safety, revealing unprocessed fight responses from earlier powerlessness

Day 5 The Flight to Mastery and Conclusion
Why endless training, certifications, and professional development disguise a flight from not enoughness

This isn’t an attack on the field. It’s a compassionate inquiry into how helpers survive, and how we can begin to thrive beyond role and response, by reconnecting to the innate health that was never damaged by trauma

Comment if you want to be tagged, share if you want to invite others, this won’t be easy, it will be important. Specially true for you if you think you're beyond it because of your spiritual awareness.

05/12/2025

The opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety it’s presence.
You can be sober and still lost in escaping, controlling, fixing, or chasing… all without substances. Addiction is what happens when presence becomes unbearable.

This video explores a deeper truth: true recovery isn’t just stopping the behavior it’s learning to stay present with what you once ran from, and discovering it was never too much.

If you’re on your healing journey, this message will help you reconnect with yourself, build emotional resilience, and return home to your own presence.

Visit My Website: https://infiniterecoveryproject.com
Get My Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1068323302

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵 𝗼𝗳 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮-𝗜𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗲𝗱 | 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝟮 - 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗔𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗔𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲Somewhere along the way, awareness became th...
04/12/2025

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵 𝗼𝗳 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮-𝗜𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗲𝗱 | 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝟮 - 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗔𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗔𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲

Somewhere along the way, awareness became the new avoidance, the more trauma we studied, the less we seemed to feel.

This isn’t a criticism of good practitioners - it’s a reflection on how intelligently the human system adapts. We are intelligent biological beings, the whole system works intelligently, so we are never finding fault here.

When our bodies don’t yet feel safe enough to meet pain directly, we analyse it, to avoid it, intelligence.

We collect frameworks, language, and acronyms so we can stand close to suffering without being burned by it, to keep it distant, intelligence.

That’s physiology working as it should, not failure, it's always working this way, but you can only know it from inside it.

𝗦𝘁𝗲𝗽𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗣𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗲𝘀 (𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟭) says that hyper-vigilance is the nervous system’s first line of protection, not pathology.

𝗚𝗮𝗯𝗼𝗿 𝗠𝗮𝘁é (𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟮) described how 'compassionate detachment' can look like empathy but is often a form of self-defence - an elegant way to stay near pain without entering it.

Awareness organises chaos, embodiment dissolves it.

Over time, knowledge itself becomes another wall.

𝗗𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗲𝗹 𝗦𝗶𝗲𝗴𝗲𝗹 (𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟬) showed that genuine connection arises not from technique but from integration - when both hemispheres, and both people, can tolerate uncertainty.

𝗕𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗹 𝘃𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗞𝗼𝗹𝗸 (𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟭) demonstrated that trauma is held in the body’s unfinished actions, not in the mind’s explanations.

𝗥𝗼𝗯𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗿𝗼𝘄 (𝟮𝟬𝟭𝟱) called this the 'philosophical solitude' of trauma: the more we theorise it, the further we drift from human contact.

So we start performing safety instead of creating it.

Policies expand, language softens, forms multiply, and the pulse of relationship fades beneath procedure.

𝗦𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗿𝗮 𝗕𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗺 (𝟮𝟬𝟭𝟲) saw it coming when she wrote of trauma-informed bureaucracy, empathy reduced to paperwork.

Meanwhile, 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗔𝗣𝗔 (𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟯) reports record clinician burnout, most of it isn’t caused by over-caring but by unprocessed pain masked as professionalism.

𝗣𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗟𝗲𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗲 (𝟮𝟬𝟭𝟱) called sensation the body’s forgotten language.

When therapy remains purely cognitive, that language stays untranslated - the body waiting for someone to listen instead of interpret

Real integration happens the moment the professional stops trying to know safety and begins to be it. That is where we start at IRP

In the Infinite Recovery Process, we call this the movement from being trauma-informed to being trauma integrated the shift from theory to nervous-system truth

No more frameworks, no more performance, just the willingness to stay open long enough for another human being to find safety there.

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This is post 2/5 deconstructing the Myth of Trauma Informed care. Tomorrow we will be posting about - The Politics of Safety

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵 𝗼𝗳 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮-𝗜𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗲𝗱 | 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝟭 - 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗚𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗴𝘆“Trauma-informed” began as ...
03/12/2025

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵 𝗼𝗳 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮-𝗜𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗲𝗱 | 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝟭 - 𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗚𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗦𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗴𝘆

“Trauma-informed” began as a moral correction, we know everyone in this field is doing their best. But our best from an unregulated system still recreates the very dynamics we’re trying to heal.

In 2014 SAMHSA introduced its framework - Realise, Recognise, Respond, and Resist re-traumatisation

The goal was humane, to stop treating trauma survivors as problems to fix and start creating environments that feel safe

But something happened on the way to compassion, it became about policy instead of a presence

In my research I found that this wasn’t the first time the field discovered and then forgot this truth

From Pierre Janet’s 19th-century writings on psychological disintegration, to Judith Herman’s Trauma and Recovery (1992), we’ve known for more than a century that safety heals

Each generation rediscovers it, then turns it into protocol

Clinicians were trained to know about trauma, not to meet it inside themselves

The result was a wave of professionals fluent in trauma theory yet disconnected from the living experience of safety in their own bodies.

The movement promises transformation but delivers terminology

Sandra Bloom (2016) warned early that “trauma-informed” risked becoming trauma-aware bureaucracy - a language of empathy that protects institutions from accountability!

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗲?

Knowledge was substituted for embodiment

Knowing that trauma shapes behaviour doesn’t mean your system can hold someone else’s

Bessel van der Kolk (2021 The Body Keeps the Score) showed that trauma is stored as sensory fragments, not intellectual facts

You can’t educate your way into safety, you have to regulate your way there

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝘇𝘇𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗱 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻.

After The Wisdom of Trauma (2021) and the rise of “trauma-informed” trainings, trauma became fashionable, hashtags, certificates, and branded empathy everywhere

Awareness became another identity

Gabor Maté (2022) said it plainly, “We teach what we most need to learn.”
And in this case, the industry is still teaching trauma because it hasn’t resolved its own

The tragedy isn’t that “trauma-informed” failed

It’s that it settled for being informed when what was needed was integration

The next evolution isn’t another framework, it’s the willingness to feel what all the frameworks have been protecting us from

The question "how do we be more of ourselves" is paramount to healing


For the next few days I am 𝘂𝗻𝗽𝗮𝗰𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵 𝗼𝗳 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮-𝗜𝗻𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺𝗲𝗱 - five deep dives with a long-form, fully-cited analysis of why the model failed and what really happened.

comment if you are curious.

03/12/2025

So many people feel stuck even while constantly “working on themselves.”
But here’s the truth most of the world forgets:

You are not broken.
Healing isn’t about fixing what’s wrong with you… because nothing was wrong with you to begin with.

Most people chase healing as an escape:
“If I fix this part of me… then I’ll finally feel free.”
But real healing is not about adding more. It’s about undoing the belief that you’re broken and returning to the wholeness that’s always been within you.

When we stop trying to “fix” ourselves…
When we turn inward instead of outward…
When we face ourselves instead of running from ourselves…

Coping mechanisms begin to fall away.
Self connection deepens.
Joy, presence, contentment, and freedom naturally rise.

You’re not here to be fixed.

Learn more at: https://infiniterecoveryproject.com
Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1068323302

01/12/2025

The Difference Between Mental Health and Mental Illness is often misunderstood. Most people talk about “mental health problems,” when what they actually mean is mental illness.

In this video, we explore the truth:

Mental health is your natural state of well being
Mental illness is a man-made description, not your identity
Labels are not definitions
Healing begins when you look toward your inherent mental health, not pathology

When you return to yourself, you return to your natural mental health. At Infinite Recovery, we guide people to access the well being that already exists within them beyond labels, beyond stories, beyond the belief that something is “wrong” with them.

Learn more at: https://infiniterecoveryproject.com
Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1068323302

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