27/01/2026
🌀What happens when we start setting boundaries with people around us?
🤔 Before we start, setting boundaries does not mean being agressive. It also doesn't mean imposing our opinion or dominating all spaces.
It means saying 'no' when we don't agree, being assertive with behaviours we don't feel comfortable with, and not saying 'yes' to everyone and everything.
When people are used to us being constantly compliant and agreeable, they might at first struggle to understand our new way of presenting to them.
🖐🏽 Silent treatment, passive-agressiveness, withdrawal or emotional blackmail do not mean we should stop being assertive (again, NOT AGRESSIVE).
It might take some time to adjust or it might even mean that we need to make a decision of whether that relationship is helping us or not.
👀 I see this in therapy so frequently. Clients/patients start setting boundaries and consequently, their systemic relationships change.
I keep talking about the importance of the context, and this means, again, that it's not only us, our 'problem' and our goals, it's also our whole context that is involved in our life/therapy processes.