11/12/2025
These are the small, science-backed habits most people never think about -
but make a big difference when you try them consistently.
Save this so you can test 1-2 this week
1ď¸âŁ A quick relaxation reset
A short grounding or breathing practice before socializing helps your body release that automatic tension. Even a short practice of PMR, or 1â2 minutes of slow exhaling can shift you into a calmer, more open state.
2ď¸âŁ Stop over-prepping
Introverts naturally think before they speak, thatâs a huge strength.
Prep a few light talking points if it helps⌠but donât script the whole interaction.
Over-preparing puts more pressure on you and increases anxiety.
3ď¸âŁ Focus on the person, not your performance
You donât need to be âinteresting.â
Aim to be interested.
Your natural listening and observation skills already make others feel seen, and shifting your attention outward reduces self-consciousness.
4ď¸âŁ Catch the mind-reading habit
You canât know what someone is thinking.
Most of the assumptions spinning in your head arenât facts.
Theyâre just anxious guesses. Let them be guesses, not truth.
5ď¸âŁ Choose the right goal
Socializing isnât a test.
The win is showing up, trying, and connecting, not performing or proving anything.
Once you redefine the goal, the pressure drops fast.
6ď¸âŁ Drop the post-event self-criticism
If a conversation didnât go well as expected, itâs okay.
Give yourself a 10â15 minute window to process, pull out one lesson if there is one, and move on. Staying stuck in rumination only amplifies self-doubt.
7ď¸âŁ Practice self-kindness on purpose
Not everything is your responsibility.
Life is full of variables outside your control. What is in your control is the way you speak to yourself. Choose the version that supports you, not the one that tears you down.
When you learn to embrace who you are,
social interactions start feeling lighter, calmer, and more human.
If you want to learn simple steps to make this shift, without pretending to be outgoing:
đ Comment QUIET and Iâll send you the link to The Quiet Edge: 5 Easy Steps to Social Calm training.