Clare Cogan - Creating Calm

11/02/2026

As parents, we are never prepared for the milestones, not really.

We are told which ones are the most significant, 16, 18, 21, but that’s curated, not felt which means emotions can turn up unexpectedly when our young person reaches another transition.

At 20, it is the end of the stereotypical teenage years, but not the end of our love, care and guidance as we support them to navigate the world as it is now.

Being a steady guide in the background rather than existing in the foreground.

Allowing this changing relationship to evolve and experiencing all that it brings.

And if you can take the step back without being consumed by the fears and anxieties….what you see will truly amaze you from your incredible young person.

Join my musings through the link in my bio as I walk alongside you during the teen years into young adulthood.

Love Clare 💜

10/02/2026

Drumming can pique curiosity, an inner knowing and a desire to learn more.

My intention is to create a safely held space for women to come, and experience it for themselves.

Setting aside the demands on their time, and expectations of their presence.

Time to be with other like minded women and experience how the drum can support you without words, in a caring, compassionate space.

Link to find out more in my bio or DM me with any questions.

Love Clare 💜

12/10/2025

I wore the jumper

I birthed my second drum this year with

And I allowed a photo to be taken (I hate photos of me and selfies have and always will be a struggle)

And this moment is about me, just me

Four days immersing myself in the most beautiful space, after being held myself in such wonderful women’s circles (thank you for continuing to be such a support and guide)

I am learning how to facilitate that magic myself, in my way

Through the power of bringing women together to drum 🥁

Those of you who know me, know I am passionate about supporting people, especially teens to feel heard, validated and celebrated

And the creation of this new space in my business was unexpected, emotional and confronting in so many ways

I have a difficult story to share about this past year, but I’m not ready yet

What I am ready to do is to extend my knowledge, my passion and my ability to hold space for people of all ages into drumming together

I am so excited, I am scared but also, I know that I am treading my true path, as it looks right now

Excited about what’s to come. 💜

23/09/2025

No such thing as coincidence!

I have been anticipating the arrival of this book for a while, and am celebrating at its completion, cannot wait to read it!

It was waiting for me on arrival back from the most beautiful four days learning the art of holding and facilitating drum circles with the amazing and a wonderful group of women.

We laughed, we cried, we listened to each other and felt the power of seeing, hearing and validating each other’s experiences in the way we all wish to take forward into our own lives and businesses.

More and more my work is leaning into holding mothers as they navigate lives with their young people, and this is a space to be seen for all those challenges as well as the celebrations.

Watch this space for more information and the evolution of these spaces, to say I am excited is an understatement! 💜

And, if you want to know more now, DM me

12/09/2025

Social media shows the highlights — smiling holiday photos, exam celebrations, big milestones.
But what it doesn’t show is the quiet heartbreak of letting go, the grief of change, and the complex emotions we carry as parents.
If this is your reality, you are not alone 💙. Clare’s free Telegram group offers daily reflections and gentle support for parents walking this same path.

08/09/2025

When my son left for university, I thought I was ready. I wasn’t.
The depth of grief, the self-reflection, and the work it took to let him step into his new life freely — without carrying my emotions — surprised me.
If you’re walking through this, you don’t have to do it alone 💙. Clare’s Telegram space is here to hold you as you hold space for your child.

06/09/2025

What a difference a year makes 💙
This time last year, I was navigating the raw grief of my son leaving for university. The emotions felt overwhelming, and I often wondered if I’d ever feel steady again.

A year on, I can see the growth, the space that’s opened up, and the lessons I’ve learned about letting go with love.

If you’re right in the middle of this season now — please know it won’t always feel this heavy. And you don’t have to go through it alone. My free Telegram space is here to walk alongside you.

05/09/2025

There’s a part of parenting we don’t often talk about:
💙 The grief of watching our children grow.
💙 The ache of letting them step forward without us.
💙 The inner work it takes to set them free.
These feelings are real. And they deserve to be acknowledged.
Clare’s free Telegram space is a safe corner for parents to be seen and supported through these transitions.

03/09/2025

September brings fresh starts for our teens, new schools, sixth form, college, or even university. But while we celebrate their milestones, no one really talks about the emotional journey we go on as parents.

I’ve written a blog about what this looks like, and I’m offering a free two-week Telegram space starting Monday 8th September, with daily audio reflections, so you know you’re not alone in parenting teens through change. 💛

A guide to parenting teens through change. Support your child through school, college or uni transitions while embracing your own growth as a parent.

01/09/2025

Every milestone is a mix of pride… and a quiet letting go 💙
September isn’t just about pencil cases, uniforms or new shoes — it’s about watching our children step into the next phase of their lives. And with every step forward for them, it can feel like a step away from us.
If this resonates, you don’t have to walk it alone. Clare’s free Telegram space offers support, reflection, and understanding for parents navigating change.