Dr Melita Ash - Percuro Psychology

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Consultant Clinical Psychologist

đź’« Specialist in anxiety & school avoidance in teens | Parenting support | Assessments | Therapy | Workshops
👤 Derbyshire & online
👇 Parent webinars

Email admin@percuropsychology.co.uk
Tel 07754 439891

Avoidance is often a result of your teen’s alarm system trying to protect them. Anxiety wants to seek out safety. But av...
04/12/2025

Avoidance is often a result of your teen’s alarm system trying to protect them. Anxiety wants to seek out safety. But avoidance means losing opportunities for your teen’s brain goes to learn that they can cope, even when there are challenges.

Calming their nervous system is the first very important step in breaking the anxiety cycle.

Save this for when you need it đź’š

When your teen faces a fear and the thing they were scared of actually happens, it doesn’t mean they’ve failed, it means...
03/12/2025

When your teen faces a fear and the thing they were scared of actually happens, it doesn’t mean they’ve failed, it means they’re learning they can cope.

That belief is what breaks the anxiety cycle.

One brave step at a time. 🤍

So many parents tell me, “I feel like we’re stuck in the same anxiety patterns every day.”There’s a reason.Anxiety runs ...
30/11/2025

So many parents tell me, “I feel like we’re stuck in the same anxiety patterns every day.”

There’s a reason.
Anxiety runs in cycles and certain habits (reassurance, avoidance, emotional storms) quietly keep it going.

None of this is your fault. Anxiety is powerful and make us as parents want to jump in and fix to protect.

But small, compassionate shifts can help your teen feel safer, braver, and more independent over time.

If you want more grounded, practical support, follow along. You’re not alone 💚

Maybe anxiety is a good thing.Hear me out…Anxiety’s job is to protect your teen.It alerts them to danger, helps them pau...
27/11/2025

Maybe anxiety is a good thing.
Hear me out…

Anxiety’s job is to protect your teen.

It alerts them to danger, helps them pause, and keeps them aware of risks.

It’s the same system that’s helped humans survive for thousands of years.

The problem isn’t that your teen feels anxious.

The problem is when that protective system gets stuck on high alert, even when they’re safe.

And that’s where the work begins, not in “getting rid” of anxiety, but in helping their brain learn new signals:

🟢 I can handle this.
🟢 I’m not in danger.
🟢 I’m allowed to take small steps.
🟢 I’m allowed to rest.

When you respond with calm, compassion, and steadiness, you’re not just soothing anxiety,
you’re helping your teen’s nervous system relearn what safety feels like.

So no, anxiety isn’t the enemy.

It’s an important safety system that needs guidance and keeping in check!

💚 Save this for the days you need a reminder that nothing is “wrong” with your teen - their brain is doing its best, and you’re helping it settle.

Ever had that thought you’d never say out loud…“Why can’t my child just be normal?”And then felt the shame hit instantly...
25/11/2025

Ever had that thought you’d never say out loud…

“Why can’t my child just be normal?”

And then felt the shame hit instantly?

You’re not a bad parent.
You’re not failing.
You’re not ungrateful.

You’re overwhelmed.

You’re tired of watching your child struggle.
You’re grieving the ease you imagined parenting might bring.

Every parent of a child who is struggling has had a version of this thought, because this is hard.

It means you’re human.

Take a breath today and tell yourself:

“I’m allowed to be human. And I’m doing my best.”

Save this for a day when the guilt creeps in. đź’š




Are you sitting there blaming yourself because your teen is struggling?Before you spiral, pause.Step outside, feel the c...
20/11/2025

Are you sitting there blaming yourself because your teen is struggling?

Before you spiral, pause.
Step outside, feel the cold air on your face, hand on heart, and remind yourself:

“I am doing my best… and that is always enough.”
Your teen’s anxiety is not a verdict on your parenting.
It’s a sign they’re overwhelmed and you are still their safest person, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

When you come back inside, write down ONE thing you managed today.

Just one.
Small counts.
Small is strength.

You’re doing better than you think, and your steadiness matters more than you realise. 💚








A rainy weekend doesn’t have to be heavy or stressful.Sometimes the best thing you can do for both of you is slow right ...
15/11/2025

A rainy weekend doesn’t have to be heavy or stressful.
Sometimes the best thing you can do for both of you is slow right down, laugh at the chaos, and make peace with the “teen emerging only to forage for food” stage.

You’re doing brilliantly, even on the soggy days. 💚

When your teen isn’t in school, it’s easy to feel like you’re failing or that they are. But this isn’t a moment for puni...
11/11/2025

When your teen isn’t in school, it’s easy to feel like you’re failing or that they are. But this isn’t a moment for punishment or panic. It’s a moment for healing. 🕊️

Start with safety. Always. The learning will come later. đź’š

When your teen feels anxious, their nervous system is in survival mode, and yours often follows.That’s why the real work...
06/11/2025

When your teen feels anxious, their nervous system is in survival mode, and yours often follows.

That’s why the real work of helping an anxious teen begins with co-regulation.

Your calm body helps their body remember safety.
Your steady tone helps their heart slow down.

Your presence helps their brain believe, “I’m not alone in this.”

You don’t have to get every response right.

You just have to stay connected enough to help their system borrow your calm. đź’š

Save this post for the days when everything feels too much.

And follow for gentle, evidence-based support on co-regulation, connection, and parenting anxious teens. 🌿

Anxiety tricks the brain into believing that comfort = safety.But every time we avoid a fear, we teach the brain to fear...
30/10/2025

Anxiety tricks the brain into believing that comfort = safety.

But every time we avoid a fear, we teach the brain to fear it more.

Breaking that pattern takes courage, compassion, and practice. For both you and your teen.

Start with small steps, celebrate every win, and remember: calm is contagious. đź’š

👉 Save this post to come back to when anxiety feels stuck in a loop.

That ache when your teen shuts their bedroom door instead of asking to watch a film with you?It’s real.You miss the clos...
28/10/2025

That ache when your teen shuts their bedroom door instead of asking to watch a film with you?

It’s real.

You miss the closeness. The little hand in yours. The easy laughter.

But this distance isn’t rejection, it’s development.

They’re learning who they are, and that sometimes means pulling away from you to find their footing.
You don’t need to chase them to stay connected.
You just need to stay available, steady, and safe, so they know you’re there when they turn back.

Because they will. đź’š

👉 Save this for the days when you’re standing outside that closed door, wondering if you’ve lost them.

What about the child with a chronic health condition?Or the bereaved young person needing some healing time?Or the child...
23/10/2025

What about the child with a chronic health condition?
Or the bereaved young person needing some healing time?
Or the child for whom school feels scary because of unmet needs?
The child who tries to hard but is struggling seeing their peers get certificates and trips and other rewards?

Don’t get me wrong, I think encouraging attendance is a good thing. But rewarding it like this is not.

Because it doesn’t look at the “why”. The hidden unmet needs. And it makes an already struggling child feel even worse!

I would really welcome your thoughts and experiences đź‘Ť

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