25/03/2026
🌿 “It’s just girls being girls…” — or is it?
I hear this a lot when it comes to friendship issues.
And yes… ups and downs are part of growing up.
But often, what’s underneath isn’t drama or unkindness.
It’s difference.
A group of children — all trying to be friends —
but each bringing a different way of thinking, playing and relating.
Some need movement, change, new ideas, a chance to lead.
Others need familiarity, predictability and calm.
Neither is wrong.
But when those differences aren’t understood, they can clash.
Not because anyone is being mean —
but because they don’t yet understand each other’s needs.
This is where we see:
misunderstandings
fallouts
hurt feelings
…and children starting to take things personally.
So instead of asking
“why does this keep going wrong?”
We can ask:
🌿 what does each child need right now?
Because friendship isn’t about being the same.
It’s about learning to understand difference.
✨ different needs
✨ different ways of relating
✨ learning not to take everything personally
✨ knowing when to flex and when to step back
These are skills.
And like any skill, they often need to be taught and supported.
Because social understanding is just as important as academic learning.
And sometimes… when we look a little deeper,
what seems like “just friendship issues”
starts to make a lot more sense.
And it’s worth remembering —
these little girls grow up.
They become women, mums, teachers, friends…
And if we’ve never had the space to understand our own friendship patterns,
it can be even harder to guide a child through theirs.
🌿 If your child’s friendships — or even your own —
have you going round in circles,
and you just want to sit down and make sense of it all…
I offer a one-off Parent Clarity Session (online)
✨ calm, focused, practical
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Lena 🌿
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