Birth Song Midwifery

15/02/2026

13/02/2026

I always forget how much I love postnatal care until I’m in it 💛

Yesterday I was reflecting on how tender those first few days are. I was reminding myself how crazy it is that with NHS care usually you only receive 1 home visit and then you’re invited into clinic on D5 for a follow up, no WhatsApp or text support in between, no phone calls, nobody to just check in with, share your night, tell how huge your b***s are on D3. Just a void!

We deserve so much more 💛





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12/02/2026

Safety. Abundance.
Two words that were circling me today.

Not in the way of “once I have abundance, I’ll feel safe.”
And not in the way of “I must feel safe before I allow abundance.”

But as two truths that can exist side by side.
Separate. And together.

As women — especially in pregnancy, birth, and motherhood — we are so often taught to push through. To wait until something is wrong before we tend to ourselves. To put everyone else first. To question whether we’re “worth” the care, the time, the investment… while wholeheartedly encouraging our friends to do exactly that.

Safety isn’t something we earn.
Abundance isn’t something we have to prove ourselves worthy of.

Sometimes safety looks like listening to your body before it starts shouting.
Sometimes abundance looks like choosing support while you’re still well.
Sometimes it’s allowing your nervous system to be held, nourished, reset.

I see again and again how powerful it is when women choose themselves — not from crisis, but from reverence. When care becomes proactive, not reactive. When wellbeing becomes a priority, not a luxury.

For me, this is at the heart of birth work.
Creating spaces where women feel safe in their bodies.
Where abundance shows up as time, continuity, trust, and personalised care.
Where you don’t have to justify needing support — especially during one of the most transformative seasons of your life.

May we learn to offer ourselves the same compassion we offer everyone else.
May safety and abundance become part of our everyday language.
Not someday. Now.

💛

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Birth Song Midwifery
Independent midwife care for pregnancy, birth & beyond

08/02/2026

Learning (again and again) to trust yourself.

This morning a client was messaging me from hospital.
She knows her baby is well. She feels it in her body.
But she’s being met with confusing language, outdated information, and professionals who aren’t really listening and who are not providing her with evidence or even guidelines.

And it reminded me of something so important:

Seeking advice is important.
But discernment is everything.

There will always be opinions.
There will always be protocols.
There will always be someone questioning your choices as a parent.

And still — your body knows.
Your intuition knows.
That quiet voice in your gut knows.

We’re allowed to ask for support.
We’re allowed to gather information.
And then we’re allowed to come back home to ourselves and decide.

You will make mistakes. We all do.
That’s part of being human. That’s part of parenting.
It doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

What matters is staying connected to your inner compass.

Trust yourself.
Trust your baby.
Trust the wisdom that lives inside you.

You don’t need to outsource your knowing.
You already carry it 💛





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05/02/2026

Can Anti-D be made from unvaccinated blood?

I currently have 7 clients who are due or have just given birth. Four are Rh negative — and every single one has questioned this.
When I worked in the NHS, I had just one client who questioned Anti-D. None of my colleagues had seen this before. It’s usually presented as automatic:

👉 Rh negative = Anti-D.

Dr Sara Wickham shared a post this morning explaining why Anti-D made only from “unvaccinated blood” isn’t possible — and honestly, seeing her speak out gave me the courage to share this too. I’m not immune to the fear of judgement or backlash, but these conversations are already happening quietly in birth spaces.
I’m not here to tell anyone what to choose — only to make space for informed, conscious decisions and honest questions.

If you’re Rh negative and navigating this right now, you’re not alone 💛




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01/02/2026

This is for the women who had a difficult birth last time and find themselves pregnant again. It’s ok to not be feeling as excited and instead to have anxiety and depression rations coming up.

You might have been told everything was fine, that you and the baby were healthy — but inside you felt rushed, unheard, or alone.

If you’re pregnant again and carrying fear because of that, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your body remembers. There is another way.

Stop. Breathe. End.




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01/02/2026

Imbolc feels like a listening season.
Winter isn’t finished, but it’s no longer silent.

This is the time of Brigid — hearth keeper, midwife, healer.
The one who tends what’s growing quietly and protects it until it’s strong enough to meet the world.

Pregnancy holds this same rhythm.
Most of the work happens out of sight — placenta forming, cord strengthening, bodies learning how to respond to one another. Nothing flashy. Everything essential.

Independent midwifery is rooted in this kind of attentiveness.
In trusting physiology, honouring timing, and understanding birth as a rite of passage held within community, care, and relationship.

Imbolc reminds us that renewal doesn’t arrive all at once.
It’s built slowly, through steady hands, small rituals, shared knowledge, and hope that’s strong enough to last the season.





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29/01/2026

Research shows that when you set an intention to birth at home, your chances of intervention are lower — even if your baby is ultimately born elsewhere. The mindset matters. The environment you prepare for matters. The belief that your body knows how to birth matters.

Homebirth intention often invites more patience, fewer disruptions, and a deeper sense of trust in the physiological process. And when that intention is held within continuity of care — especially with an independent midwife who knows you, your history, and your hopes — the benefits are even greater.

This isn’t about rigid plans or “success” defined by location.
It’s about shaping the way you meet birth — supported, informed, and held.
If you’re preparing for birth, let this be your reminder:
you are allowed to imagine it being gentle, powerful, and deeply your own.





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27/01/2026

I want to share something that happened recently, because it perfectly illustrates this carousel.

I was in triage with a client, having what should have been a straightforward conversation about her choices.

Instead, we were met with language designed to unsettle.

Things like:
“That’s fine now, but what about in six weeks’ time when a letter from your lawyer lands on my desk and I’m answering to the criminal courts?”

Or:
“If you were my sister / my mum, I’d strongly recommend you do X.”

And:
“Your decision affects all my other patients today.”

None of this was shouted.
None of it was overt.
And that’s exactly the point.

This is the kind of pressure women are up against in maternity spaces — subtle, emotionally loaded, and incredibly hard to fend off, especially when you’re pregnant or in labour.

This isn’t about women not advocating “well enough”.
It’s about what happens when they do.

As an independent midwife, offering continuity of care, I see how different things feel when women are properly informed, supported, and not left to manage these dynamics alone.

Birth choices should be met with respect — not fear, guilt, or implied consequences.

There is no space for the good girl in the birth room.
There should only be space for informed choice, autonomy, and care that actually feels safe.

If this resonates, save it. Share it. Talk about it.

And if you’re looking for midwifery care that centres you — not the system — you know where to find me.

24/01/2026

Anyone in East Sussex, needing breastfeeding support, here is a list of help.