La Vie de Clauds

La Vie de Clauds Award-winning Culture & Engagement Specialist based in Middlesbrough, using lived experience to drive meaningful social change. Home of Inspirational Voices.

The System-Mind Method™️ Consultant

Neurodiversity | Disability | Trauma | Social Mobility

Make today a day to be proud of 🩷
02/05/2026

Make today a day to be proud of 🩷

Day onehundred&twentyone - it's my birthday 🥳 (part B)After a lovely morning , this afternoon has consisted of embracing...
01/05/2026

Day onehundred&twentyone - it's my birthday 🥳 (part B)

After a lovely morning , this afternoon has consisted of embracing my inner lizard and basking in the sun ☀️ what more does a girl need?

I have done absolutely nothing. It's been so nice to chill in the garden, feeling the sun on my skin, and just taking a few hours to intentionally do absolutely nothing.

I've been feeling really behind recently: behind in life, behind in my career, behind financially. I'm living in survival mode, so everything feels like a chase. But, like I said this morning, I'm a big believer in birthdays.

If you can't have a guilt-free day on your birthday, when can you? It's been exactly what I needed. Nicely finished off with a chippy tea and milkshake 😋

Here's to chapter 28 🥳

Pic of: lounging in the sun this afternoon. What a glorious day!☀️

Day onehundred&twentyone - it's my birthdayyy🥳 (part a)A busy morning, heading over to The Glowsticks Project in town to...
01/05/2026

Day onehundred&twentyone - it's my birthdayyy🥳 (part a)

A busy morning, heading over to The Glowsticks Project in town to meet their team! What an incredible service! It was great hearing about their mission from Rebecca and team!

I'm super excited to look at some ways our paths could cross - it's always a pleasure spending time with anyone on the same mission!

Even better, I got back home to a freshly mowed front lawn! Thanks dad 😃

Pic of: Me, Rebecca, and Pete in front of their fabulous mural today 🩷

Today's my 28th birthday. I'm not particularly enthused about it, if I'm totally honest. It’s a strange feeling, knowing...
01/05/2026

Today's my 28th birthday. I'm not particularly enthused about it, if I'm totally honest.

It’s a strange feeling, knowing that at 20 I’d already ticked off things most people spend their thirties chasing. I’d bought a house. I was married. I thought I was ahead of the curve. Yet now, eight years later, it feels like I’ve somehow looped back and ended up behind it.

I'm no where near where I should be at 28; not a single version of any of my life plans catered for this.

The funny thing is though, I'm not disappointed with where I am.

Life's s**t right now, there's no denying that. But, for the first time, I feel like I actually know myself now. Like, properly know myself. I understand what I’m here to do. I'm happy with who I am. I’m clearer, more congruent, more me than I’ve ever been; I’m just dealing with life-sh*t that would knock anyone sideways.

I'm normally a big birthday person. Everybody deserves to have one day a year where they're the star of the show; I love celebrating anybodies birthday - that annoying yaaasssss queen, this day is all about youuuu🥳 kinda energy that some people really hate lol, I'm that person. But this year, idk. I just feel a bit flat about it all.

I’m not really in a “birthday mood”. I’m not in a balloons-and-confetti chapter. But I am in a clarity chapter. A purpose chapter. A “this next bit might actually be the one that changes everything” chapter.

And I’m curious - genuinely curious - about what 28 is going to bring.

Screenshot of a post that came up on my memories last night, reflecting on the eve of my 21st.

Every sunrise is a daily reminder of your unlimited possibilities 🩷
01/05/2026

Every sunrise is a daily reminder of your unlimited possibilities 🩷

Day onehundred&twenty - my birthday eve🎊Today has been a very uneventful end to an incredibly chaotic year. Ngl, I'm gla...
30/04/2026

Day onehundred&twenty - my birthday eve🎊

Today has been a very uneventful end to an incredibly chaotic year. Ngl, I'm glad to see the back of chapter 27 😂

Very little to report today: all my daily bits have been done, and I've spent a few hours this afternoon making good progress on my current big project - The System Mind Method. I've got two thirds of the videos done for the first mini-series (9 in total), meaning it's ready to launch on Monday😃

Pic of: Belle staring up at the herd after I turned her out tonight, with nothing but glorious blue skies for miles ☀️

A quick follow‑on, because apparently even the most obvious things still need spelling out.I got a message following yes...
30/04/2026

A quick follow‑on, because apparently even the most obvious things still need spelling out.

I got a message following yesterday's post:
“glad you felt the need to do a write up 🤣”.

When someone sends an unsolicited explicit image of their ge****ls and then tries to laugh off the fact I addressed it, what they’re really doing is avoiding accountability. It’s textbook humour-as-deflection.

We’ve had years of awareness around consent and boundaries. Years of conversations, campaigns, education, and social norms shifting. Nobody gets to pretend they “didn’t know” that sending an explicit image without consent is inappropriate.

Yes, you did. We all do by now.

The bar is literally so low it’s embarrassing. An unsolicited explicit image is no different to a flasher in the street - it's just the method of delivery that is different.

We are only ever responsible for our own behaviour. Not how someone responds to it. Not whether they call it out. Not whether they make a big deal out of it. We're responsible for our own actions. If you don't want somebody to speak negatively about your actions, don't make choices that you know are unacceptable.

I’m a very values‑driven person. I don’t do anything without a reason. The reason might not always make sense to anyone else, but it exists. I don’t act without intention, and I don’t behave in ways I can’t defend. Even when I get something wrong, I can explain how I got there. I take ownership. I take accountability. I trust my moral compass, because I actually use it to guide me daily.

So that means I don’t worry about someone making a post about my behaviour. Even my "grey area" moments have a rationale behind them; I can stand in them and I can answer for them.

And for the record: I’m not sensitive (well, I mean I am, but only with specific things😂). I’m not easily shaken. I could receive a hundred unsolicited d*ck pics a day and, beyond being irritated at the admin of it all, I wouldn’t really care.

I can handle incredibly problematic behaviour. My tolerance is extremely high. I’ve got my eyes fully open to the absolute worst horrors imaginable, and they don’t bother me in the way they probably should. I am a genuinely safe space for people to get things wrong.

But that doesn’t erase accountability. It doesn’t mean I offer blanket acceptance of inappropriate behaviour. Just because I can handle something, it doesn’t mean I should have to. Bad behaviour is still bad behaviour.

I’m vocal about this stuff because I understand that very few people are as unbothered or as resilient as I am. Most people would be shaken. Most people would feel unsafe. Most people would be impacted.

So if I’m speaking on something, it’s because it crossed a line that everyone understands. Not because I’m fragile. Not because I’m dramatic. Because the behaviour was inappropriate, full stop.

If you don’t want your behaviour written about, examined, or held up as an example…
don’t behave in ways that require a write‑up🤷‍♀️

End the month proud of your progress 🩷
30/04/2026

End the month proud of your progress 🩷

Day onehundred&nineteen - today has been a good day ☀️Today's been about dealing with life admin. In order to get suppor...
29/04/2026

Day onehundred&nineteen - today has been a good day ☀️

Today's been about dealing with life admin. In order to get support from the charity I reached out to, there's been a few boxes to tick. Today, I've spent hours on the phone talking to different council teams and energy organisations. It's very frustrating hitting the same wall over and over again: "sorry, we can't help you". I'm gonna do a full review of the systemic failings against normal, hardworking people going on in our country atm, it's been an eye opener for sure!

Then it was over to The Grangefield Academy for our combined academy council meeting. I absolutely adore being a governor, it's one of my favourite things I do!

Jonny's come round tonight for a catch up. After this week, it's so nice to be able to just chill with one of my safe people. So, I'm cooking some good food and looking forward to a night of chilling 😴

Pics of: two today!

1) Baby Belle this morning with her friend Millie, having a good mutual groom. A gorgeous reminder that there's always time to stop and appreciate a good scritchy-scratch!🩷

2) a selfie in front of school this afternoon - what a glorious day today's been!☀️

A quick PSA, because apparently this needs saying.A woman confidently acknowledging and taking ownership of her s*xualit...
29/04/2026

A quick PSA, because apparently this needs saying.

A woman confidently acknowledging and taking ownership of her s*xuality is not an invitation for men to s*xualise her existence.

Since posting about being hypers*xual on Monday - shared, as everything I share is, to start a needed conversation - a handful of men have decided that must mean I’m hypers*xual towards anybody with a p***s.

It doesn’t. It never did.

In the last 48 hours I’ve had:

1️⃣ An unsolicited, unexpected d*ck pic sent to me

2️⃣ A man tell me he’s "disappointed" that I set a friends‑only boundary, because "you know exactly what you’re doing with that cleavage"

3️⃣ Another man -- after setting explicit non‑s*xual boundaries for a conversation in a professional context -- tell me he saved and can't stop looking at my picture, and has been "hard AF" because we “have a connection”.

Let me be very clear:
My s*xuality is mine. It does not belong to the general public. It does not override my boundaries. It does not entitle anyone to access, attention, or to bring me into their fantasies.

Women are allowed to talk about s*x without being treated like a communal resource. Women are allowed to want good s*x without it meaning we want to be s*xualised by anybody in general.

Honestly… this is why we choose the bears.

You will never make everybody happy, so focus on your own happiness first 🩷
29/04/2026

You will never make everybody happy, so focus on your own happiness first 🩷

Day onehundred&eighteen - my main man's special day, Alfie bear's 8th birthday 🥳 Today's been a very high-anxiety kinda ...
28/04/2026

Day onehundred&eighteen - my main man's special day, Alfie bear's 8th birthday 🥳

Today's been a very high-anxiety kinda day.

Side note: I've lived with anxiety for as long as I remember. Some of my earliest core memories are centred in feeling anxious; I'm waaaaay more anxious that anyone realises 😂 but, there comes a point where you've gotta just man the f*ck up, right? Do you get what I mean by that? After 25+ years, I treat my BAU stuff - anxiety, depression, OCD; the OG's - as friends now. As crazy as it sounds, doing that keeps me sane. But, they're the kinda friends you need to be able to tell to p**s off. Today's been one of those days. Like, yes. I see you. I understand you. I know why you're there. But, could you just *not* right now? Let's deal with you later, thanks 🙃

I took things a bit slower this morning, but still got all my daily bits done ahead of time.

This afternoon started with an hour of work, before my ex-husband and his new fiancé came round to wish Alf a happy birthday (ft his birthday cake and annual cake pic🥹).

Since then, I've been trying to navigate the UK support system, trying to get a crumb of anything available from anywhere. By jeez, they don't make it easy. If you haven't recently been through a system, thank your lucky stars! It's been an overwhelming afternoon, but needs must🤷‍♀️

I've taken the edge off the anxiety with a slightly earlier-than-normal meds switch, so now I'm gonna chill with a few hours of editing content. I'm wanting to start sharing stuff about TSMM next week, as I've noticed I've started unintentionally using the framework when doing my own self-reflection and therapy work lol. I feel like I'm really onto something here, something that really has the bones to make a difference 😃 so yeah, keep your eyes peeled next week, maybe 👀🤷‍♀️😂

Pic of: the birthday boy - my frigglebum freej - and Lollypop waiting super patiently for their birthday cake from their dad this afternoon!🩷

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