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25/04/2026

Sometimes we cope by doing, keeping so busy that we don’t have time to think, there isn’t anytime to feel.

We fill silence with noise and space with doing.

Overtime I’ve learnt for myself that sometimes powering through isn’t always the best way. In fact the act of doing so is often a sign of our sympathetic nervous system driving the “fight or flight” response in stressful situations.

And then there is the opposite, suddenly stopping engaging in everything, lacking in focus or motivation, isolating. This is “freeze”.

Either way we prefer to numb ourself with avoidance than sit in discomfort of feeling our feels. And both may be ok, necessary even, for a short time at least but staying here can become problematic.

If we are avoiding we aren’t processing and that catches up with us.

So if you find your days are so full or perhaps achieving anything seems difficult because you’re caught up in your mind or procrastination recognise this, challenge yourself to make a small change. It doesn’t need to be huge.

Pull back a little and breathe, take time for yourself. Or bring your attention outward, to a task that you could complete.

Most importantly listen to yourself, and be kind.

You are coping the best you know how, with the tools that you have. Small changes are possible if you take baby steps.

If your honest with yourself where you are isn’t entirely comfortable either.

24/04/2026

You have to make changes to see changes.

If you chase a butterfly you won’t catch it, but build a beautiful garden and it will come to you.

To build a beautiful garden you must focus on yourself. Direct your love, energy and attention inward by remembering that your peace, happiness, health and wellbeing come first.

I can’t remember where I heard this but I think it tells a story of allowing yourself to attract what you need, rather than chasing what you think you desire.

There is a choice, a choice to work inward and trust that the process will grow you in the most beautiful ways. All the while remembering that nothing will change if you don’t make a change.

Think about what you let into your garden, does it provide you with what you need to grow? What are you attracting?

21/04/2026

If the mountain seems too big today then climb a hill instead;
If morning brings you sadness it's okay to stay in bed.
If the day ahead feels heavy and your plans feel like a curse,
There's no shame in rearranging, don't make yourself feel worse.
If a shower stings like needles and a bath feels like you'll drown;
If you haven't washed your hair for days, don't throw away your crown!
A day is not a lifetime.
A rest is not defeat.
Don't think of it as failure, Just a quiet, kind retreat.
It's okay to take a moment
From an anxious, fractured mind.
The world will not stop turning
While you get realigned!
The mountain will still be there
When you want to try again
You can climb it in your own time, Just love yourself till then!

~ 'The Mountain' by Laura Ding-Edwards

20/04/2026

We often think the hard work is changing and bettering ourself.

However the hardest part of the work is more often than not about learning to accept ourself where we are right now.

18/04/2026

How will you focus on what you can control today?

Having boundaries in place, for yourself and for how you allow others to show up in your life has a significant impact on how you can focus on the blue.

When you feel unhappy, disappointed, anxious and uncomfortable with something, angry, overwhelmed and taken advantage of, it’s a clear indication your boundaries have been crossed. Learning to recognise this can help you identify where your boundaries need some work.

Illustration credit: Mindful Enough / Jacqueline Rae Legard

16/04/2026

I don't have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness - it's right in front of me if I'm paying attention.

Where attention goes, energy flows 😘

14/04/2026

"If you want truthful answers from a narcissist, ask what the exes did to them, then listen carefully, they're actually describing themselves."

Don't forget the power people hold over you is lost when you no longer react.

The absence of your energy ends the cycle.

The hardest truth is that this alone doesn't resolve the trauma you carry, however it is the first step towards choosing yourself and a path where that can begin to heal.

If you are in an unsafe relationship that you want to leave do so safely. Abusers behaviour will escalate when they loose control.

0131 561 5800 can help during and after domestic abuse. It doesn't have to be violence to be wrong.

13/04/2026

“Thank you for all of your support over the past year. You've helped me become a move confident, healthy & effective version of myself.
I truly appreciate it.”

Yesterday I was given a gift, unexpected and completely appreciated. It came when I needed it the most.

I don’t do the work I do with the aim of receiving anything back but to receive feedback as clients progress really is beautiful.

I’m greatful that my clients trust me enough to let me hold that space for them. To watch them sometimes break, challenge themselves, other people and the world, and ultimately grow. It’s a privilege that I’ll never take for granted.

Many times I’ve sat in the other chair and the thing you never know is how you impact on your therapist, how the work evolves them too. I learn from all my clients in the process, I reflect and I grow too.

Doing the work is never easy but doing it with someone by your side makes it feel much more manageable.

13/04/2026

Today I felt like I couldn’t breathe, a moment of life overwhelm and I needed to remind myself what I said to my daughter yesterday; a bad moment is only that, a moment in a day, the rest of the day is a gift with new moments and different emotions. The bad moments don’t define us and certainly don’t have to write the next moment. So we got our wetsuits out, went to the beach and got right in the sea. It was freezing but I walked out that water feeling reborn, it’s an incredible feeling of being alive.

10/04/2026

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I wrote this post two years ago, I reposted it last year. It feels like a reminder to have patience and faith.

“Life keeps on moving forward, at some points we have to surrender to this and trust that what’s to come will work in our favour, even when it might feel difficult or painful 👇

…Yesterday was my birthday and I reflected on how life rarely goes the way we plan.

The paths we walk twist and turn, and there really is no real way if knowing what’s around the corner.

We ask for patience and yet to find patience we must be faced with obstacles, we ask for strength and courage but to find this we must first of all face weakness and fear.

Each day we are faced with opportunities, they might not always come in the form we hoped for but never the less they give us the chance to achieve what we desire if only we look at it with open eyes.

Mandela said “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall”.

With another year there comes a little more wisdom and a little more experience. Another day and another opportunity to live and to be grateful of the highs and lows, the twists and turns, in getting back up and embracing the moment.

So here’s to another year of uncertainty, another year of growth, another year of experiences.

Here’s to life…”

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09/04/2026

Today I am reminded that all storms pass. The darkest moments - pass. Even when we can't see the way.

There is no light without darkness, no love without pain.

So incase you ever need reminding, hold on. This too shall pass ❤️

Someone, somewhere in this world remembers you for the kindness you once showed them.
You matter.