Clear Water Therapy

29/01/2026

In every day there is something beautiful. A reminder of hope, a subtle moment, a smile, joy or connection.

Sometimes we have to look really hard to see these glimmers amidst our own chaos or turbulance, yet even in our darkest of storms they wait for us.

A slither of light that casts the shadows can guide us back and regulate our mood.

27/01/2026

The longest journey can be the road between heart and head.

The mind can go back and forth, with all kinds of doubts and reasons not to move forward. But the heart doesn't doubt. The heart knows what is true.

26/01/2026

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26/01/2026

Welcome to a Monday night at ANDYSMANCLUB ☕️

No judgement, no fees and no pressure to talk. Just a brew, a biscuit and a safe space to chat.

We now have over 335 groups running across the UK and online, every Monday 7-9PM (excluding bank holidays) for any man 18+.

Visit our website to find your nearest group or drop us an email to info@andysmanclub.co.uk to join our online groups.

24/01/2026

This is your reminder to check in with yourself.

Take a pause and notice what sensations you are experiencing. The body knows when you are safe, it communicates when boundaries are being crossed and it instinctively knows what and who is right for you.

Sometimes thoughts can cloud this, disconnection from the body gets in the way. Confusion and fear prevent you trusting your sensations and feelings, cognition over complicates.

Practice taking a moment, notice what comes to the surface when you allow it to, trust that instinctively you always know what you need, what is best. The answers are within you if you let yourself listen.

When something's not right for you, your energy rejects it and tries to alert you in different ways. Don't ignore how things make you feel. Pay attention to what emotions they bring up. These are all signals. If something doesn't feel right to you, let it go ~ Jay Shetty

What’s your energy telling you?

21/01/2026

Feel the feels, all of them. We have a human tendency to overthinking things. Strip it back, don’t intellectualise.

When emotion feels uncomfortable, painful, we can unconsciously look to avoid sitting with that. We don’t want to feel it. So we distract, we stay in places we shouldn’t be with people we shouldn’t be with. We can’t move on with life. Faking it till you make it doesn’t work here.

Alternatively we can get stuck in the despair of it all and loose ourself in the depths of the lows. Cognitively we become stuck in loops that maintain these cycles, learning to identify and challenge these thoughts, to see there is more than pain, or what could eventually become numbness, is possible. Even if it doesn’t seem so life can be different.

Take a pause, breathe, what is this emotion and what is it telling you?

It won’t go away on its own, don’t shut it down because it will fester until eventually it makes you sick.

You have to do the work my friend ❤️

20/01/2026

In client sessions the window of tolerance often comes up. When we are in high levels of constant stress our tollerence levels shrink, this can make us short tempered and irritable.

Working on strengthening the window helps us to be able to move out of extreme feelings and more able to cope when things go wrong.

The first sign that we are becoming disregulated is a feeling of overwhelm. Take a walk. A 5min walk outside or just a walk around the house can help to reset the nervous system before you go back.

19/01/2026

What are the feet doing?
I find myself quietly reflecting of late….

Looking at my choices and the impact these have on my emotional wellbeing and the way I’m able to show up for myself and others. Thinking about my circumstances and experiences and how they to play a role in where I am and how ultimately responsibility lies within myself for how I move forward in my life.

Someone said to me once that there isn’t any point listening to what a mouth is saying, or paying much attention to where the thoughts are at. The big question is - what are the feet doing?

We can spend hours, days, weeks, even years agonising over things, trying to find solutions or simply avoiding what we know we must do. But really this is all worthless, a distraction, a denial and a nothingness that helps us miss time on our journey and keeps us stuck.

It’s your feet that move you forward every time, on the journey that we call life.

As I look back over the last two plus decades I remember being in such a rush to get to life, not really realising that I was already there; for life is what we create and not something that happens to us.

It is in all that we experience, in the very moment we are in right now and all the moments in between. In the ordinary, the extraordinary and the mundane. It isn’t waiting, it won’t start when…

Life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved, its only certainty is that nothing is permanent and this too shall pass.



Reflections from 2024 reminding me how wonderful growth is. Reminding me of all the tears, all the pain and why it's necessary. I hope if you are in a place where you needed to hear this today you found it. I sit here today proud of that girl who made hard choices and kept moving forward. I do so knowing that the girl ahead of me will one point look at where I stand today and also feel proud of the choices I've still to make, the challenges I still have to face and the growth that paves the path ahead.

19/01/2026

Reflections from 2024 reminding me how wonderful growth is. Reminding me of all the tears, all the pain and why it's necessary.

I hope if you are in a place where you needed to hear this today you found it. I sit here today proud of that girl who made hard choices and kept moving forward. I do so knowing that the girl ahead of me will one point look at where I stand today and also feel proud of the choices I've still to make, the challenges I still have to face and the growth that paves the path ahead.

What are the feet doing?
I find myself quietly reflecting of late….

Looking at my choices and the impact these have on my emotional wellbeing and the way I’m able to show up for myself and others. Thinking about my circumstances and experiences and how they to play a role in where I am and how ultimately responsibility lies within myself for how I move forward in my life.

Someone said to me once that there isn’t any point listening to what a mouth is saying, or paying much attention to where the thoughts are at. The big question is - what are the feet doing?

We can spend hours, days, weeks, even years agonising over things, trying to find solutions or simply avoiding what we know we must do. But really this is all worthless, a distraction, a denial and a nothingness that helps us miss time on our journey and keeps us stuck.

It’s your feet that move you forward every time, on the journey that we call life.

As I look back over the last two plus decades I remember being in such a rush to get to life, not really realising that I was already there; for life is what we create and not something that happens to us.

It is in all that we experience, in the very moment we are in right now and all the moments in between. In the ordinary, the extraordinary and the mundane. It isn’t waiting, it won’t start when…

Life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved, its only certainty is that nothing is permanent and this too shall pass.

18/01/2026

Do you ever tell yourself “I don’t need anyone, I’ll do it myself”

I see myself as relatively independent, I certainly used to be hyper independent in many aspects of my life. I had high walls and liked to rely on myself. This kept me safe, it meant I couldn’t be disappointed or let down. I thought this was a good thing. I prided myself on being able to do it all alone and no matter how much I struggled I would never ask for help.

There came a point in my journey where I began to question this so called strength I had and I began to learn that this was in fact a survival tactic.

I learnt that the inability to receive support from others is a trauma response.

Unconsciously we create a belief to protect ourselves from those who could not or would not be there for us.

This may have been the parent who was absent and abandoned you by choice or the parent who was never home from working three jobs to feed and house, to the parent who was caring after other people in the family or struggling to manage with their own situations and emotions.

Lovers who offered sexual intimacy but never provided a safe place, consistency or emotional connection.

Friends and family who took more than they gave and all the times when someone told you “we’re in this together” then weren’t there when you needed them the most.

It’s all the lies and all the betrayals that hurt you in all your situations over the years and you learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Ultimately people let you down, even when they don’t mean to.

You learnt to protect yourself from this disappointment but the problem was that in the process you learnt not to trust yourself either.
You began to believe from disappointments that your own judgment in people couldn’t be trusted and every time you were let down or betrayed this confirmed that your choices in who to let in were flawed. The result - higher walls and hyper-independence.

But no matter how you dress it up, even if you display it proudly, the truth is your broken heart is behind a high wall that no one can get through. You resist being vulnerable in anyway and thus block authentic connection leaving yourself isolated, lonely and craving closeness and support.

When we begin to acknowledge this is trauma then we can begin to heal it. And when we heal we re-learn. Finally you begin to see that you are worthy, you deserve connection, you matter and you can let people in. Your all this just because you exist, without needing to do or give anything.

Don’t be hard on yourself for something that came from trauma. Learn, grow. You’re doing your best in the only way you know how at the time. And when you know more you can do better.

17/01/2026

Isn’t it true that when we need to prioritise our wellbeing the most, life gets in the way and we just don’t have the “time” anymore.

In juggling life somewhere along the line we get lost.

Yet the truth is time doesn’t change; we haven’t lost time, we have just started to use the time we have on things that don’t light us up.

Life keeps going and time keeps moving forward but we have the chance to start again any time, any day, any moment.

So perhaps today will be the day that you do more of what lights you up.

Maybe you’ll choose to scroll less, perhaps you’ll decide to make some changes, maybe you’ll feel ready to let go of the things that don’t add to your life in a positive way anymore.

Maybe today you’ll decide to do something that lifts your spirits, connect with someone that makes you happy, take a little bit extra time for you or do something that makes you feel alive.

Maybe today you will find a moment to be present, to be mindful and to enjoy life.

Maybe today you will choose to invest in your wellbeing in anyway you can manage.

Because you deserve to stop giving so much of your time and energy to the things that don’t fulfil you. In your life you deserve to be happy and healthy.

You choose.

16/01/2026

And if I asked you to name all of the things you love, how long would it take you to name yourself?