03/12/2025
A beautiful birth story and reflection to get us started for Birth Stories Month
"Nancy, I just had to let you know about my birth!
After a very stressful and unexpectedly painful experience first time around, which was a planned homebirth-turned hospital birth with a 3-day labour, I was almost resigned to the same scenario with baby number 2.
Until I met you and discovered more about the physical process of birth and how this process, first of the uterus muscles contracting, and then the passage of the baby through the birth canal, is actually enabling the baby to be born (rather than being some terrible affliction or punishment). Ante-natal classes skirted around this issue without much detailed explanation.
Thanks to hypnobirthing I can honestly say that nobody believed I was in labour with my second baby, perhaps not even me!
Surges came and went throughout the day and I felt them as a positive and exciting sensation, as I envisaged my baby being ever closer to being born. There was no pain as I had a long walk in the morning, lunch in a café, dropped my daughter off at her grandparents to stay the night and did a supermarket shop in the way home.
I will say once or twice towards 6 or 7pm I had to stop in my tracks, but it felt really good to be active and moving about, so when I got home I did an hour of yoga whilst my husband made dinner, all the time envisaging my baby and the process she was going through to arrive safely into my arms.
I had a big, healthy dinner at about 8pm, then decided to try to have a little walk up the road, leaning on my husband.
My daughter was born at home at about 10pm, just a few minutes after the midwife arrived. The three of us were snuggled up in our own bed before midnight.
There was no pain. Sensation, of course. I FELT it alright, but I was truly able to embrace each sensation, surge and push as a positive, pain-free, beautiful and happy experience and I put this down to getting educated, practice and feeling positive about the birth process as a result of my sessions with you and spending a lot of time during my pregnancy lying in the bath whilst listening to the Hypnobirthing scripts.
The day that my daughter was born will always be remembered as one of the happiest in my life because the whole journey to her arrival was truly magical.
Incidentally, I feel very sad that I can't talk about this experience out loud without being judged for being too 'preachy'. I've been scolded by friends for making others feel bad about their own experiences. I’ve had expectant friends tell me that they know its going to be terrible so why bother trying to sugar the pill? Might as well just expect the worst and you won't be disappointed. I've had another friend tell me that there are no prizes for being in pain, as though they think that choosing a drug free birth is somehow a martyrdom.
It isn't, it can be AMAZING!
But I've learnt to keep quiet, which is sad, because if more people - both men and women- could learn what I have learnt, I feel sure that more women would experience a beautiful, empowered labour and birth.
People are so terrified of birth, even some midwives and doctors seem to view it as something alarming and terrible. Whilst I agree there are huge benefits to medical advancements for birthing women at high risk, for most women they really could embrace this life-changing and wonderful event for the incredible journey it is.
Much love Nancy, thank you!"