Anita Jacob Psychotherapy

25/02/2026

Is separation ever good or does it just delay the inevitable? I've seen it be such a positive thing if done well, allowing space while working on the relationship.

Photo by cottonbro studio on Pexels.com I’m often asked what I think about separation. Is it a good idea? Is it just a precursor to divorce? What’s the point of it? Often one person in …

28/08/2025

No matter what comes in the door of my therapy practice there is often this sense of shame. This may be shame about a past event or a current habit, but something that is being kept secret. In this post I share a little more about what that looks like and the freedom that comes with sharing.

Lately I’ve been struck in my sessions by the power of secrets. Conversely, I’ve been amazed at how once a secret is shared and recognised for what it is, it loses the power it held for…

20/11/2024

It's been a busy and stressful few weeks and most people I've seen have expressed similar sentiments... and then, it SNOWED! There was a buzz in the air. During school drop off not only were the kids excited, but parents I rarely more than smile at commented on the weather or made grand gestures at the sky, stuck out their tongues to catch snowflakes, and seemed to not have a care in the world. Walking through town with huge snowflakes falling, elderly folk were walking with their faces to the sky before darting into the nearby shops, commenting on how they couldn't feel their toes. What an unexpected blessing and momentary shift of perspective!

04/10/2023

Sometimes it's just easier to avoid tough conversations, ignoring messages and ghosting whoever we're trying to avoid. Why is this a better option than talking things through? How could having the hard conversations actually be better for all involved?

As Halloween is just around the corner, It’s the season for ghosts and all things spooky… but the kind I’m thinking about are not the cute Casper’s or spooky ghosts that hau…

08/09/2023

Where has the time gone when the kids went to bed and you had that special time of connection with your partner? Now that time is gone, and with it, that valuable time to reconnect and feel close!...

Where has the time gone when the kids went to bed and you had that special time of connection with your partner? Now that time is gone, and with it, that valuable time to reconnect and feel close!

04/08/2023

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Do you find yourself questioning how you are so liked and respected at work or in social settings, but at home it feels like you can’t do anything right? It’s hard when resentments and …

19/07/2023

Do you ever get asked the question, "what do you need?" or "how can I help?" and you really have no idea? It's so important to be able to understand what you need from your partner when distressed or emotional....

Do you ever get asked the question, “what do you need?” or “how can I help?” and you really have no idea? It’s so important to be able to understand what you need from…

05/07/2023

Do you feel like your emotions get you in trouble? Your partner says something and your reaction is bigger than you think it should be....

Do you feel like your emotions get you in trouble? Your partner says something and your reaction is bigger than you think it should be.

27/06/2023

27/06/2023

I honestly don't care what we do. I don't have an opinion, what do you want? Does this sounds like you? It's easy to lose yourself in relationship, but it's important to remember who you are!

When I was working in a clinic with adults with severe and persistent mental illness, there was an older couple who would come to the clubhouse and all the social a therapy groups. They were the sw…

13/06/2023

Do you ever feel like you and your partner are talking, but not hearing each other? You find yourself getting frustrated and feeling misunderstood....

Do you ever feel like you and your partner are talking, but not hearing each other? You find yourself getting frustrated and feeling misunderstood.

06/06/2023

Sometimes being a wife, husband or parent can be overwhelming and can cause us to feel burnt out. It can be hard to take a break for ourselves, yet it is so important....

Sometimes being a wife, husband or parent can be overwhelming and can cause us to feel burnt out. It can be hard to take a break for ourselves, yet it is so important.