Heather Garbutt Love & Relationship Coach

31/12/2025

The end of the year often brings a quieter kind of honesty.

For many women, one belief surfaces again and again: I’ll be ready when I’ve loved myself a bit more.

It sounds reasonable, but over time, it can quietly turn self-care into another standard to meet.

Self-love was never meant to be something you finish, it’s a relationship you stay in.

If this reframes something for you, consider sharing it with someone who might need to hear it too.

30/12/2025

Late December scrolling lands differently when you’re single.

The year slows down, the noise drops, and suddenly it’s easier to notice what’s still tender. Couples in matching jumpers. Engagement posts. End-of-year reflections that quietly highlight the part of life that still feels unresolved.

For many women, this is when old questions resurface. Why does dating still feel hard when so much else in my life works?

We don’t repeat relationship patterns because something is wrong with us. We repeat them because they fit an emotional rhythm our body learned a long time ago. Familiar doesn’t always feel good, but it often feels safe.

These in-between days, between one year and the next, can offer a different kind of clarity. Not pressure to change, but the quiet recognition of, “I see this now.”

You don’t have to fix yourself. Simply noticing the pattern is often what begins to loosen it.

If this resonates, save it for a moment when the noise returns ❤️

29/12/2025

You don’t need to reach a perfect version of yourself before you’re worthy of love. You don’t need to resolve every wound, fix every pattern, or tidy every corner of your heart.

Love isn’t a reward for healing, it’s part of what helps us heal.

You get to be human, to be in progress and to be loved now, as you are.

What softens in you when you hear that?

24/12/2025

Feeling the pressure to “find someone” for Christmas? Choose calm over chemistry. Be your own dating arranger: look for kind, steady, values-led people who feel like home. Keep your adult self in the room with family, and try a quick family meeting so everyone feels considered. New episode is live: https://heathergarbutt.com/podcast/intentional-dating-christmas-choose-calm-not-chaos/ 🎄💫

24/12/2025

The season is filled with images of perfect families and romantic traditions. But you don’t need to be coupled up to feel whole.

Just because your relationship ended does not mean you have failed.

You are still lovable.
You are still enough.
You are still allowed to feel joy.

Conscious uncoupling helps you reclaim that sense of self-worth - not by erasing the past, but by embracing what it taught you.

This Christmas, celebrate the version of you who chose courage, honesty, and growth. That is something to be proud of.

18/12/2025

Late December has a way of slowing us down just enough to hear ourselves more clearly.

When the noise of the year starts to settle, you begin to notice the patterns you’ve been living inside of the choices that felt familiar, the relationships that echoed old stories and the dynamics you didn’t realise you were repeating.

We don’t choose the same partners because we’re flawed. We choose them because they fit an emotional pattern our body still recognises.

But these quieter days, between one year and the next can offer a kind of clarity. A moment to say,
“I see the pattern now… and I’m ready to choose differently.”

You don’t have to overhaul yourself.
Just notice.
Awareness is what begins to loosen the cycle.

What shifts when you imagine choosing from who you are now, rather than who you once had to be?

18/12/2025

17/12/2025

Love and money are not separate. In this new episode, award winning coach Shilleen Wilson joins me to unpack our worthiness set point and how it caps what we allow in both romance and income.

We talk inherited beliefs, building inner safety, emotional money in the bank and why tests show up just before a breakthrough. If you are ready to stop settling and start receiving, this one will help.

Listen now and tell me your biggest takeaway: https://heathergarbutt.com/podcast/love-and-money-r…-shilleen-wilson/

16/12/2025

Emotional safety becomes more complex in December because the month carries so much history, not just memories, but emotional patterns your body learned long before you had language for them.

If you notice yourself feeling reactive, overwhelmed, or less connected than usual, it isn’t a sign you’re regressing.

It’s a sign your system is full.

When you give your body small moments of steadiness, your emotional range widens again.
And from there, connection becomes possible.

If this season is stirring something in you, be gentle.
Your system is trying to protect you, not limit you.

15/12/2025

15/12/2025