Therapeeze - The InnerMe Project

09/12/2025

Instead of asking “What’s wrong?” try “What’s your body saying?”

Kids often feel things long before they can explain them.
Tight tummy. Fuzzy head. Fast legs. Heavy eyes.
These are the real clues .... not the behaviour.

So make a little Body Signal Menu together:

✨ “Hungry, full, tired, buzzy or heavy?”
✨ “Do your hands need to squeeze?”
✨ “Do your ears need quiet?”
✨ “Does your heart need a cuddle?”

What this actually does:
It takes the pressure off your child to explain something they don’t have the words for yet.
Their body becomes the language — not behaviour, not guessing, not stress.

How to use it:
When you see the wobble starting, gently say:
“Let’s check your body together.”
They pick a signal (or you help them), and you match it with one simple support — movement, quiet, deep pressure, snack, or closeness.

Tiny check-ins.
No pressure.
Just tuning in.

This is how safety grows… and how behaviour settles from the inside out.

Want a ready-made Body Check-In you can use immediately?
Download it now for only £12.50 at: https://pages.therapeeze.com/inner-me-body

Kate xx

08/12/2025

You know what’s mental?
How much parents ..... especially us mums ..... feel judged.
Judged for our kids’ behaviour.
Judged for what we say.
Judged for what we don’t say.
Judged for the choices we make… and the ones we don’t make.

It’s like no matter what you do, someone, somewhere has an opinion ready to fire. And that pressure? It ramps up anxiety until you’re second-guessing yourself for absolutely everything.

But here’s the truth I’m holding onto today:
People will judge you anyway.
So you may as well live in a way that feels good in your bones.

Once upon a time, I’d have worried about looking daft.😳
I’d have toned myself down.
I’d have tried to fit the “acceptable mum” mould.

Not today.
Today I’m fully embracing my girl mum life .... matching jumpers, Disney ears perched on my head, and two buzzing girls by my side as we head off to Disney.

If someone thinks I look silly?
Aye, well… that’s their story, not mine.

And if you needed a reminder:
Your joy doesn’t need to be acceptable to anyone else.
Your connection with your kids beats judgment every single time.

Now, off we go .....ears on, hearts full.

Kate xx

06/12/2025

I hate the anxiety, rush and chew of weekdays mornings getting out the door on time....

so heres to the weekend everyone 🥰

Kate xx

06/12/2025

Ever had to explain something to someone… and you can see in their eyes they’ve absolutely no clue what you’re talking about, but they nod along anyway?
That’s been my week. Twice.

Both moments were about relationships. Proper, nervous-system, safety-based relationships ..... not the fluffy “relationships are important” line people throw out like a slogan.

✨ Child 1:
I was told, “Yes, we know relationships matter,” in that breezy, surface-level way.
Aye, they do.
But if a child has lived through trauma, the loveliest person in the world can still feel unsafe.
Because their body isn’t scanning for niceness.
It’s scanning for danger.
If something inside them says nope, then it’s a no-go.
That’s not them being difficult .... that’s their nervous system doing its job.

✨ Child 2:
We were deep in the weeds of daily tasks and practical bits… all the “doing”.
And completely missing the child. Missing the relationship. Missing the foundation every single intervention rests on.
You can stack a hundred strategies and programmes on top ...... but if the relationship base isn’t solid, everything wobbles ......including the child’s mental health.

Here’s the reality:
Intervention without relationship is just paperwork.
Progress without safety is just pressure.
And pretending to understand doesn’t help the child ...... or anyone.

If we want meaningful change, we have to stop nodding politely and start actually getting it:
🧠 The body decides safety.
🤝 Safety builds connection.
🔄 Connection shapes behaviour.
Not the other way round.

Parents, professionals, anyone supporting a child — this is your reminder:
Don’t get lost in the doing. Come back to the relating. That’s where everything begins.

Follow along for more body-based, neuroaffirming understanding and strategies.

Kate xx

05/12/2025

You can still join the Festive Feel-Good Countdown — and it’s completely FREE. ✨

If this time of year feels a bit… much, the noise, the pace, the pressure to “make magic” when you’re already running on empty, you’re not on your own.

That’s exactly why I created the Festive Feel-Good Countdown.
Little daily pockets of calm, nervous-system friendly ideas, and simple ways to help your child (and you!) feel steadier in a season that can tip everyone over the edge.

And if you’ve been thinking, “I’ve missed it… I’ll just wait ‘til next year,”
Nope. Not happening.
You can still join in today for free ....... and you’ll get everything you’ve missed so nothing feels rushed or overwhelming.

Because feeling good isn’t about perfect plans.
It’s about tiny moments of connection that make your home feel softer, safer, and just a little bit lighter.

🎄 Join the Festive Feel-Good Countdown now
…get daily tips and strategies
…straight to your inbox
…use what works for your child and leave the rest

Your December gets to feel easier. Not heavier.

Click l!nk to join today - https://pages.therapeeze.com/feelgoodfestivecountdown-980506

Kate xx

04/12/2025

🎄 This time of year isn’t magic for everyone… and that’s okay.

People talk about Christmas like it’s all glitter, excitement and kids ripping open presents in a whirlwind.

But for many parents I support…
December lands with a thud.

Because while other families are wrapping gifts with music on and hot chocolates in hand, you’re sitting on the floor thinking:

“I can’t wrap these… my child can’t cope with it.”

And instead of planning the “perfect morning,” you’re planning:

💫Gifts that stay unwrapped because the tearing noise is too much.

💫One present at a time across the whole day so they don’t shut down.

💫Predictable, familiar items because surprises push them over the edge.

💫A quiet living room while everyone else does chaos and noise.

💫A meal that isn’t a Christmas dinner because the textures won’t work.

💫Plans cancelled because their little body says “enough.”

💫A slower pace because their nervous system needs steadiness, not sparkle.

This isn’t you being over the top.
This is you knowing your child.
This is you choosing safety over expectation.
This is you doing Christmas in a way their body can actually handle.

But let’s be honest… you matter in this too.

Your nervous system needs support every bit as much as theirs.

So here’s a simple way to look after yourself this month:

🎁 The “Low Demand, High Connection” Plan

1. Strip Christmas back to what your family can actually manage.

Not what Facebook shows.
Not what your mam did.
Not what your neighbour’s kids can cope with.
Your version. Write it down. Stick to it.

2. Keep your own demand level low.

Your body can’t regulate a child in overwhelm if you’re running on fumes.
Lower your expectations of yourself — meals, decorations, the lot.

3. Protect connection over “making it magical.”

Sit together.
Share quiet moments.
Hold space for their needs.
Magic isn’t in the activities — it’s in the safety they feel with you.

4. Build yourself a small grounding routine.

A walk.
A hot drink alone.
Breathing while the kettle boils.
Something tiny that helps your shoulders drop.

5. Ask for help early, not when you’re ready to snap.

Even five minutes support can stop your own shutdown.

If this season feels emotional, or “not like everyone else’s,” it doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.

It means you’re doing what your child needs.
It means you’re listening to their body (and yours)
It means you’re choosing connection, not chaos.

And honestly?
That’s the kind of Christmas you'll all feel safe remembering. 🎄💛

Kate xx

03/12/2025

I’m feeling proper honoured to make it into the final 3 for the Little SENDsations awards.
To push myself out of the norm and to advocate strongly for childrens nervous systems didn't always come without its own level of anxiety....when you go against the 'norm' in society.

My work has transformed and over recent years had one simple aim......
help children feel safe in their own bodies, and help the adults around them understand what’s really going on beneath the behaviour.
Connection first. Always.

Thank you to everyone who’s supported, trusted, and walked this path with me.
Here’s to lots of things to come in 2026 and making sure our complex and hard to reach kids stop being misunderstood.

Kate xx.

03/12/2025

02/12/2025

Today has been a canny exciting day.
I’ve just stepped out of a meeting that could hugely influence how children and families are supported across the North East.. and I’m so excited.

This wasn’t just a “nice chat.”
It was the kind of conversation where you can feel the shift…
Where people finally start to see that behaviour is the body’s story, not a choice.
Where connection begins to take its rightful place over compliance.
Where the message of nervous-system-first support is not just understood ..... it’s wanted.

If this moves forward the way I hope, we could see:

💫Regulation before expectation actually lived out in services

💫Body signals being noticed before behaviours are judged

💫Safety first, strategy second becoming the norm, not the exception

💫Professionals equipped to meet children where they are, not where systems expect them to be

That’s the heart of the InnerMe work ..... shifting from “fixing behaviour” to supporting the child’s whole nervous system, and helping families feel truly seen.

Today felt like a door opening.
And I’m ready to walk straight through it.

More to come… this is only the beginning.

Kate xx

02/12/2025

Being honest… this part of my job is hard to talk about.

People often expect me to share picture-perfect ideas, tidy activities, cute setups, worksheets laid out like a magazine spread.

But that’s not the world I work in.

I work with children whose bodies are on guard.
Children who aren’t walking into sessions ready to “take part”…
…because their nervous system is busy trying to feel safe.

These bairns aren’t lacking motivation.
They’re protecting themselves.

And when a child is in protection mode, even the simplest request —
“Come sit here”
“Try this game”...... can feel like a giant alarm bell to their body.

This is why I don’t chase perfection.
I don’t post loads of fancy setups.
I don’t pretend every child is ready to “join in”.

My work lives in the quiet spaces…

where we move slow

where we earn trust

where the therapeutic relationship comes first

where safety beats strategy every single time

Some days, the “activity” is simply sitting near each other.
Other days, it’s noticing a tiny spark of curiosity and following their lead.
Those moments the tiny ones .....are where the real work sits.

So if you’re a parent or professional who feels like you’re “failing” because your child isn’t engaging with the pretty Pinterest-worthy stuff…
You’re not failing.
Your child isn’t failing.
Their body is doing its best to stay safe.

And safety is where we start.
Always.

If you want more real-life, body-led, connection-first support ....follow along. There’s room here for the children who don’t fit the neat boxes.

Kate xx