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Therapeeze - The InnerMe Project, Newcastle upon Tyne (2026)

22/04/2026

You can look completely fine on the outside—smiling, talking, getting on with everything....while inside your nervous system is anything but calm.

So you tell yourself you’re fine and push through (because you have to right), because that’s what the day requires.

But your body is noticing something important.

Incongruence or a mismatch.......
When your outside doesn’t match your inside. 🤷‍♀️

Your nervous system is constantly scanning for safety through neuroception, asking, “Am I safe?”

When you feel overwhelmed but try to act okay, that mismatch doesn’t calm your body.

It sends a signal of danger.

Because to your system, something doesn’t add up. 😬

So your body moves into protection.

You feel more on edge, more reactive, overwhelmed by things you’d usually handle. Your patience is shorter, your chest tighter, your thoughts faster.

And in parenting, that shows up.

✔️Quicker reactions.
✔️Less capacity.
✔️More guilt after.

Not because you’re a rubbish parent......

Because your nervous system has been reading danger all day. (Without you even realising)

The shift isn’t pretending you’re okay.

It’s building your own sense of safety in ways that actually suit your body...
✨️slowing down
✨️stepping away sooner
✨️lowering expectations when needed.

Small changes, but enough for your body to start feeling safe again.

If this feels like you, don’t scroll past it.
Start noticing your body today.

Not your thoughts, your signals.

Because the moment you understand your nervous system…is the moment things begin to change.

Kate

21/04/2026

Yesterday I completed a Sensory VIP Day with a young person with a strong PDA profile.

We spent time really digging into his nervous system and what’s actually driving the behaviours being seen day to day.

What became clear very quickly was this…

His nervous system is highly stressed, and his interoception (his ability to notice and understand what’s happening in his body) is poor.

So what looks like:
– high levels of refusal
– reduced capacity to understand or rationalise
– increased vulnerability in relationships
– difficulty managing everyday functional activities

…is actually his body trying to protect itself.

Not behaviour for the sake of it.
Protection.

When the body feels unsafe, everything becomes harder.

We took a step back from “fixing” and focused on understanding.

Together, we explored what his nervous system needs and looked at fun, natural, low-pressure activities that support regulation first without triggering more overwhelm.

At the same time, we built in ways to gently support the functional goals that matter to him and his parents… but in a way his body can actually tolerate.

Because pushing skills without safety doesn’t work.

Sensory VIP Day (available across the UK)– £527

✔ Full assessment and report completed in ONE day
✔ Deep dive into your child’s nervous system
✔ Clear understanding of behaviours through a body-first lens
✔ 2 personalised intervention programmes based on outcomes
✔ Ready to share with professionals, schools and EHCPs

No waiting lists.
No drawn-out assessments.
No generic advice.

Just clear, practical support you can use straight away.

📩 Message me “VIP” and I’ll send you more details.

Kate

20/04/2026

First day back after easter hols in the north east this morning.

Hows your morning gone?
Show me in a gif below 👇

Kate

19/04/2026

Its been a while.....

That felt good this sunny sunday morning 😁

19/04/2026

Some days, that means I adjust everything.

The make-up gets left.
The washing stays in the cupboard.
The to-do list gets cut right back.

Because some days, my nervous system needs to come first.

Not because everything else doesn’t matter…
but because when I’m overwhelmed, everything feels harder.

The noise.
The demands.
The patience.

So instead of pushing through, I slow it down.
I do less.....I protect my energy.

And that’s not giving up…
that’s making sure I can still show up for my girls without the snapping, frustration and limited patients.....

Because putting your nervous system first sometimes is exactly what your children need most from you.

✨️If you needed this reminder today, take it...your nervous system matters too.

Kate

18/04/2026

Ever feel like you’re constantly asking for help…

✨️Help to understand your child better.
✨️Help to know what to do when they’re overwhelmed
✨️Help when they shut down, go quiet, or everything spills out all at once

You’re reading, searching, trying your best to do things differently.....and still… its bloody hard 💯

Because as parents, we often act like we’re machines (I know I do)

✔️Push through
✔️Ignore the headache
✔️Ignore the tight chest
✔️Ignore the exhaustion

We just crack on with the day.....because there’s no other option, right?

But then your child is dysregulated, they’re overwhelmed and nothing seems to land...

And your body is already at its limit

You’re told to co-regulate, to stay calm ,to be the safe space....but no one really talks about how hard that is when you’ve been ignoring your own body all day, When your nervous system is already overloaded....

So it’s not that you don’t know what to do, it’s that your body doesn’t have the capacity to do it 🤷‍♀️

And that’s the bit that gets missed...

It’s not just about understanding your child, It’s about understanding what’s happening in your body too, so you can actually hold those moments in real life

If that’s been you lately…you’re not on your own 💕

Kate

17/04/2026

I keep coming back to the same thought id like yo say recently but fir a long time...…

We tell parents to co-regulate all the time.

“Stay calm”
“Be the regulated one”
“They need your nervous system”

But no one really talks about how hard that actually is…🤷‍♀️

Because in those moments?
When you’re overwhelmed, touched out, running on no sleep… when you’ve asked the same thing ten times…when everything in your body is saying this is too much…

Co-regulating feels almost impossible. (Your not alone) 💗

Not because you don’t care.
Not because you don’t know what to do.

But because your own nervous system is overloaded. 💯

And that’s the bit that keeps getting missed.

Parents are told to hold calm, safety, connection spaces…without ever supporting the system that’s meant to create that.

So it turns into pressure.
✔️Guilt.
✔️Feeling like you’re getting it wrong.

When actually…your body is just struggling to cope in that moment. (Because you are human too).

This isn’t about trying harder.

It’s about understanding what’s happening inside you, when you feel like you’re about to snap…
and having something real to hold onto in those moments.

Because co-regulation doesn’t start with a script.
It starts with a nervous system that feels supported enough to stay steady.

And I don’t think parents are lacking strategies…

I think they’re lacking the kind of support that actually helps them do this in real life.

That’s the bit I’ve been quietly working on 🤍

Kate

17/04/2026

Once upon a time… I worked out because I hated my body. Every session was about fixing it. Changing it. Punishing it.

Fast forward to now…after anxiety, overwhelm, and those days where everything feels too much…
I made a decision.

I don’t move my body to change it anymore.
I move my body to look after it.💗

Do I struggle with consistency?
Of course I do.🤪

Life is busy.
Parenting is relentless.
And some days the last thing I want to do is move.

But here’s what I do know…

It’s my go-to when I’m stressed.
✨️When I’m snapping at the girls.
✨️When I’m walking round the house launching things in the bin because everything feels too much.
✨️When I feel like I could quite happily find an empty field and just scream.

Because being a regulated parent in today’s world?
It’s not easy.💯

And yes… we see the advice everywhere.
“Go for a walk”
“Move your body”
"Be the regulated one for your child"

But the reality?
It hits different when you’re exhausted…when you’re overwhelmed…when you’re fighting for your child’s basic needs.

This isn’t about motivation.
This is about survival some days.

And finding something that helps your body come back down…..matters more than doing it perfectly. 💯

If you’re in that place right now… I see you 🤍

Kate

16/04/2026

Check your opinion before you check the child.

Two adults.
Same behaviour.
One says “That’s fine.”
The other says “That’s unacceptable.”

That’s not the child…
That’s our judgement.

Behaviour isn’t “good” or “bad” in the body.
It’s communication.

When we pile our own expectations, rules, and past experiences onto it…
we risk missing what the child actually needs.

✨️Is it defiance… or overwhelm?
✨️Is it rudeness… or anxiety?
✨️ Is it attention-seeking… or connection-seeking?

If we lead with assumption, we react.
If we lead with curiosity, we understand.

Next time you see a behaviour that pushes you… pause and ask yourself:
“What might their body be telling me right now?”

Drop a comment 👇 if this made you think differently.

Kate

16/04/2026

I didn’t set up my business because I fancied going it alone.
I did it because I was done watching families fall through the cracks.

The waiting lists.
The tick-box assessments.
The “discharge” letters because a child didn’t engage.

Let’s be clear, if a child can’t engage, it’s not because they don’t want to.
It’s because their nervous system is screaming unsafe.

And instead of offering more support… we offer them the door.

I became an OT to make a difference. But the scope of OT in typical services?
Narrow. Child-focused. By the book.

And that’s where I do things differently.

Because it was never just about the child.

Traditional services zoom in on the child’s behaviour, the child’s skills, the child’s “deficits”… But they miss the most important part, the nervous systems around them. 💯

✨️The overwhelmed parent.
✨️The exhausted teacher.
✨️The adult trying their best while running on empty.

Because here’s the truth…
Children don’t regulate in isolation.
They regulate through us.

I apply the knowledge to real children, in real families, with real challenges.
Not just checklists and equipment.

Because parents don’t need to be taught how to suck eggs.
✨️They need to understand the why behind the meltdowns.
✨️They need support to regulate themselves in the middle of the chaos.
✨️They need to feel confident holding their child’s big emotions without losing their own sense of safety in the process.

That’s where the real change happens.
Not in a one-off strategy… but in the relationship, the connection, the co-regulation.

That’s why I do what I do.
To shift the focus from fixing the child… to supporting the whole system around them.
Because every child deserves to feel safe in their body, and every adult deserves to feel able to hold that safely too.

This is why The InnerMe Project was born, from using my experience of 18 years in clinical practice to build strong foundations for both children and the adults around them…
to regulate together, understand each other beyond surface-level behaviours,
and develop a real sense of internal safety that lasts.

Because when safety is felt in the body, we don’t just see “better behaviour”… we see improved mental health, less trauma, reduced burnout, and fewer children struggling to access school.

Kate xx

15/04/2026

Tonight I spent the night with the lovely ladies Little SENDsations and a group of their parents.

We talked all things:-
✨️ Bodily signals (interoception)
✨️ Why to validate childrens experience and emotions.
✨️ Supporting non-speaking children to develop their bodily signals.
✨️ Co-Regulation and why children seek a lot of connection with parents and how this can look behaviourally.
✨️ Predictability giving the body a sense of safety.
✨️ Toileting
And more!!

And comments like 'That was amazing, thank you so much. I could listen to you all day, fab advice' .......reminds me exactly why I do what I do.

Safe to say, this wont be the last of these conversations.....watch this space 😉

Kate

15/04/2026

This cycle is something I see every single day in my work.

Children are not “choosing” these behaviours.
They are responding from their nervous system.

When a child experiences repeated stress, overwhelm or feels unsafe (even in ways we can’t immediately see), their brain shifts into survival mode.

In this state, the thinking part of the brain goes offline and the body takes over.

This is when we see:
• Meltdowns (fight)
• Avoidance or running away (flight)
• Shutdown or withdrawal (freeze)
• Masking or people-pleasing (fawn)

These are not behaviours to be corrected.
They are nervous system responses to perceived threat.

The difficulty is…
When these responses are misunderstood as “naughty”, “lazy” or “attention-seeking”, the child is often met with consequences, pressure or withdrawal of support.

This increases their stress load...so guess what?
Yep....we see MORE behaviours! .....and the cycle continues.

Over time, this can lead to:
• Disconnection from bodily signals (interoception differences)
• Increased masking
• Heightened anxiety or burnout
• Reduced capacity to engage, learn or feel safe

At The InnerMe Project, everything starts with the body.

We focus on helping adults understand:
💫What is this child’s nervous system telling us?
💫What do they need to feel safe?

Because when safety is felt in the body…
Regulation becomes possible.

And only then can we truly support behaviour, connection and learning in a way that lasts.

Children are not the problem.
The misunderstanding is.

Kate

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