SB Hypnotherapy

08/12/2025

Christmas party season is meant to bring connection, laughter, and a chance to celebrate the end of a busy year. But every year, some people drink themselves into oblivion....only to face guilt, family upset, or even workplace consequences the next day.

Yes, alcohol can make a shy person feel more confident, but let’s be honest: it often becomes an excuse for behaviour that’s simply out of control. One night of poor decisions can have a long-lasting impact.

The uplifting truth is this: you can enjoy the celebrations without losing yourself.
Through NLP, subconscious work, and hypnotherapy, you can build real inner confidence, break unhelpful drinking patterns, and stay aligned with the person you want to be.

This Christmas, enjoy the fun....laugh, celebrate, be present—but stay mindful.
Your future self will thank you for choosing wisely.

04/12/2025

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Are young men facing a silent crisis?
I caught a segment on This Morning yesterday where Scott Galloway talked about the rise in loneliness among young men, and how many are falling behind in education, work and relationships.

It’s a reminder that beneath the surface so many are struggling ....often quietly, often alone.

In Hypnotherapy and NLP we see firsthand how early support, emotional awareness and connection can change the whole direction of someone’s life.

Let’s keep talking, keep noticing, and keep supporting.
No one should have to face their battles in silence. 💙

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03/12/2025

Understanding the Psychology of Feeling “Invisible” as We Age

Many women share with me a common experience: as they get older, they begin to feel less seen.
Not because they have changed inside, but because the world around them often responds differently.

From a psychological perspective, here’s what’s really happening:

Societal Conditioning
We live in a culture that places a high value on youth and appearance.
Because of this, women can receive less positive attention as they age — not due to diminished worth, but due to outdated conditioning that equates youth with value.

Cognitive Bias in Younger Generations
Younger people can unconsciously assume older women are “less relevant” or “not up to date.”
This isn’t based on truth — it’s based on bias.
Their brains take shortcuts, forming quick judgments that overlook depth and experience.

Shifting External Validation
Many women spent years being noticed, listened to, and acknowledged.
When the external validation decreases, it can create a genuine emotional response:
“Has something changed in me?”
“Am I less important?”
“Do people not see me anymore?”
In reality, nothing has changed — except other people’s perception.

The Identity Gap
As roles evolve (children grown, career shifts, changing relationships), some women can feel disconnected from who they used to be.
This can amplify that sense of invisibility, even though the inner strengths remain intact.

What We Can Change

Ageism is still widespread, especially toward women — but awareness is the first step in challenging it.
When women understand the psychological forces at play, they can begin to reclaim control over how they view themselves.

NLP and Hypnotherapy can support this by:
😊Strengthening self-worth from the inside out
😊Reframing limiting beliefs about ageing
😊Reducing sensitivity to external judgments
😊Building confidence based on identity, wisdom and lived experience
😊Challenging old subconscious narratives

The Truth

Your visibility does not fade with age —
it shifts from external to internal.
And when you reconnect with your inner confidence, the world starts to notice again.

Let’s challenge the culture that equates youth with value.
Let’s educate, empower, and elevate the conversation around ageism.

Women don’t become invisible.
They become powerful in ways the world is only just starting to understand.❤️

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Shirley Bone is a fully qualified hypnotherapist and neuro-linguistic programming practitioner based in Newcastle.

27/11/2025

A Gentle Reminder for the Festive Season 🎄

As we approach Christmas, it’s important to remember that, at its core, it is just one day. A single day that too often becomes weighted with expectation, obligation, and emotional pressure.

This year, my own outlook has shifted. After sixty Christmases, I’ve experienced the full spectrum of the season. I’ve navigated family schedules, respected the natural “pecking order,” and always tried to ensure my children and grandchildren felt free to divide their time without guilt or pressure. They have other families who love them too, and that is something to be embraced, not resisted.

But with experience comes clarity.
This year, I am choosing to step back.
Not withdrawing — simply allowing life to unfold without strain or expectation.

If I am home and family visits, that will be lovely.
If I choose to spend Christmas away, that is equally valid.
There will always be time to reconnect, share moments, and create memories.

This is not selfishness ....it is emotional maturity.
It is the practice of healthy detachment and self-regulation, key principles in both hypnotherapy and NLP.

By changing the internal dialogue, we reshape our emotional experience.
When we release pressure, we create space for calm.
When we allow others freedom, we nurture healthier relationships.
When we maintain balance, we enhance our own wellbeing.

This Christmas, I encourage you to:
🎄 Let go of unrealistic expectations
🎄 Reduce pressure on yourself and others
🎄 Allow plans to flow naturally
🎄 Prioritise emotional health and personal peace

Christmas is one day.
Your wellbeing lasts far beyond it.

Choose ease. Choose balance. Choose the approach that supports your emotional wellbeing ...and allow everything else to settle where it needs to. ❤️
Enjoy the festive season!

Shirley Bone is a fully qualified hypnotherapist and neuro-linguistic programming practitioner based in Newcastle.

21/11/2025

"Another Auld Lang Syne" (Dan Fogelberg): This narrative song tells the story of running into an old, lost love, prompting listeners to reflect on past relationships, life choices, and what might have been.
Christmas, Communication & The Courage to Let Go

The Christmas season has a way of softening us. The lights, the memories, the feeling of togetherness — they all remind us how precious life truly is. And yet, this is often the time when old hurts, unspoken words, and stubborn silences feel the heaviest.

In hypnotherapy and emotional intelligence work, one message appears again and again: communication heals. It doesn’t erase the past, but it opens the door to understanding, peace, and emotional freedom.

As we head into Christmas, consider offering the olive branch — even if you feel someone else “should” be the first to reach out. Pride and silence rob us of moments we can never get back. None of us knows if this will be our last Christmas together, and that truth alone is a powerful reason to speak kindly, soften our stance, and reconnect where it feels right.

Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. It means allowing yourself to move forward. It means choosing peace over tension, compassion over ego, and healing over holding grudges.

This season, take a breath… reflect… reach out… and let the light in.
Let this Christmas be the one where you bury the hatchet, open your heart, and choose love — for yourself, and for others.

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16/11/2025

I spoke to a new client last week who wants to overcome an anxiety that’s been stopping her from travelling, driving and transport ....limiting her life.
She made me smile when she said what so many people say…
“I don’t want to sort it until after Christmas.”

So she’s choosing to restrict her Christmas in order to hold onto the very issue she wants to get rid of.

The truth is, we often don’t realise that these patterns come from a belief we’ve created to try and keep ourselves safe — and we simply don’t know how to step out of it.

That’s where hypnosis can help.
It clears the old belief, rewires the response, and sets you back on the road to freedom.

Don’t let your thoughts or fears hold you back.
Your life is waiting. ❤️

Shirley Bone is a fully qualified hypnotherapist and neuro-linguistic programming practitioner based in Newcastle.

10/11/2025

🎁 The Gift of Presence: Love Without the Price Tag

As Christmas draws near, the adverts get louder, the wish-lists grow longer, and the pressure to spend big on our loved ones creeps in.
But here’s the truth we often forget: love doesn’t come with a receipt.

The people who mean the most to us don’t need expensive proof of how much we care .. they need time, connection, laughter and a little bit of presence over presents.

Focus on meaning, not money

When we think back over the years, what do we actually remember?
It’s rarely the perfume, the gadget or the jumper.
It’s the moments:
• The frosty walk holding hands.
• The chat over a cuppa after a chaotic Christmas shop.
• The laughter that made you forget the to-do list.

Those memories are priceless — and they last far longer than anything wrapped under a tree.

Talk about expectations early

Money worries are one of the biggest causes of stress in relationships, especially around Christmas. So talk about it.
Agree together what feels right .... maybe it’s one meaningful gift, or maybe you both decide to skip presents altogether and focus on time together instead.

When you take the pressure off, you make room for joy, spontaneity and genuine connection.

🌟 Create experiences, not expenses

Love doesn’t need to cost a fortune — it just needs thought.
Here are a few
• A framed photo from your favourite waor trip.
• A “coupon” for a winter stroll, movie night or homemade dinner.
• Lighting candles, putting on a song that means something to you both, and simply being there.

It’s the small things that speak volumes.

❤️ Presence over presents

This year, let’s stop trying to buy affection and start showing it.
Because when you strip back the wrapping paper and the endless “special offers,” all that really matters is love, laughter and the people who make life worth living.

So slow down.
Hold someone’s hand.
Write the message.
Share the mince pie.
And remember — the best part of Christmas isn’t what’s under the tree, it’s who is around it.

08/11/2025

❤️ Why We’re All Hooked on The Traitors

11 million people didn’t just tune in to watch a game ...they tuned in to feel connected.

We love the drama and the tension, of course… but underneath it all, it’s about people ...trust, teamwork, emotion, and that very human instinct to find our tribe.

Whether it’s standing together at the round table or cheering (and shouting!) from our sofas, we’re drawn to moments that make us feel part of something.

Because deep down, we all crave connection — that sense of belonging, unity, and collective celebration that reminds us we’re not alone in this big, messy, beautiful world. 🌍🥰

Maybe that’s the real reason we love The Traitors ...it’s not just about betrayal, it’s about humanity.
Well done Alan ( fantastic charity )❤️

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Neuroblastoma UK Patron Alan Carr has won the hit BBC One show The Celebrity Traitors, produced by Studio Lambert. While bluffing, scheming, and deception may be the name of the game, one thing is certain: Alan remains truly faithful to Neuroblastoma UK.

06/11/2025

Shirley Valentine ....a voice for women everywhere. 🌹

Pauline Collins’ Shirley Valentine spoke for so many women who quietly put everyone else first ....living lives shaped by love, duty and expectation. 💔

Her words remind us it’s never too late to rediscover who we are… to follow the dreams we tucked away.

Never leave this world with regret ...live, love and be true to yourself.

RIP Pauline Collins ❤️

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Her family said she died peacefully in her London care home having had Parkinson's for several years.

29/10/2025

The Power of Connection 🥰

I’ve just watched Riot Women on BBC iPlayer ...and wow, it hit home. What an incredible reminder of how strong, resilient, funny, and brilliantly complicated we women can be when we come together. 💪❤️

If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years ...both personally and professionally ...it’s this: connection changes everything.
Reaching out, sharing a walk, a coffee, a laugh, or even a tear ...it all matters. Loneliness can creep in quietly, but so can community… when we open the door to it.

Never feel you have to go through life’s moments alone. Surrounding yourself with supportive women boosts your mindset, confidence, and even your health. The benefits of belonging — of truly being seen — are profound. ❤️

So, reach out. Join a group. Start a conversation.
Your tribe is out there ...and you might just be the light someone else needs too. 🥰

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Shirley Bone is a fully qualified hypnotherapist and neuro-linguistic programming practitioner based in Newcastle.

07/10/2025

Supermoon Magic October 7th 🌕

Tonight’s Hunter’s Moon, the first Supermoon of the year, rises bright and bold ...a symbol of reflection, release, and emotional renewal as we step deeper into autumn.

The Moon’s pull can stir emotions, especially for those with a Cancer Moon sign, who feel its energy more intensely. Our moods may shift ...but that’s how we grow and realign with what truly matters.

Never be nervous of change ...it’s the only way to grow. Always think “why not” rather than “I wish I had.”
A life of regret is the only real disappointment at the end of our journey.

02/10/2025

Just finished my 4th session of ear acupuncture and I honestly feel amazing, I never thought I’d see the day the NHS would start to take holistic therapies seriously, but here we are🤩

It’s not just about treating the body....it’s about the whole mind, body and soul connection ...... For centuries people turned to natural remedies, and maybe now we’re finally circling back to that wisdom.

There’s always room for both approaches, and it’s so important to accept any help or treatment on offer. Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s necessary

Grateful for this experience and excited to keep seeing the benefits 🥰

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