Better Me Better Us

12/11/2025

The long-lasting impact of trauma on children post adoption has been laid bare by research that charts the huge toll on families

11/11/2025

NEW PODCAST NOW OUT 🎙️

Podcast 30 - Professional Relationships

In this episode, we explore the power and complexity of professional relationships - how they shape our ability to ask for help, to trust, and to be trusted. We look at the systems we work within, and how they can both nurture and hinder the relationships we need to do our best work.

As always you can connect with us through the following -
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Email – info@bettermebetterus.co.uk

10/11/2025

Safeguarding in adoption isn’t just about protecting from immediate harm. It’s about interrupting the cycles of trauma, offering regulation, and helping children feel secure enough to begin understanding their experience.

For children who have experienced early loss, neglect, or trauma, their behaviours often carry messages from the past. What looks like defiance, withdrawal, or dysregulation is usually a signal: they are trying to communicate a need for safety, connection, and understanding.

As parents, carers, and professionals, our role isn’t just to respond to behaviour, it’s to notice the patterns, offer containment, and create a space where the child feels safe enough to begin processing what has happened to them.

When we do this, we interrupt the cycles of trauma. We provide regulation. We offer the foundations from which trust, connection, and growth can begin.

07/11/2025

Explore how mattering affects children's mental and physical health across their lifespan as well as tips for promoting a sense of mattering.

24/10/2025

As true as it may be being in a home where you're under constant attack, physically, verbally or emotionally takes a toll and it may not be personal but it can be glib and dismissive to say that.
Just hold that space and acknowledge it we know it's not personal but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt.

24/10/2025

The 2025 Good Childhood Report from The Children's Society is out and it’s got some interesting stuff about how kids and teens are feeling these days.

Here’s the gist:
Family still matters – most kids are happiest when they’re with their family.
School stress is real – a lot of young people aren’t happy at school, mainly because of grades and pressure.
Money worries – the cost of living is hitting them hard.
Body image struggles – lots of girls aren’t happy with how they look.
Feeling left out – many kids feel they don’t quite belong, at school or in their communities.
Looking ahead – having a safe, secure home is top of their list for the future.

It’s a reminder that there’s still work to do to make sure kids feel happy, safe, and heard.

Link for report in comments!

18/10/2025

Here’s just a few of the awesome feedback we got following our safeguarding session with Nudge Education.

If you school, academy, provision is interested in hearing more about our safeguarding training, drop us a message 📧

14/10/2025

NEW PODCAST EPISODE 🎙️

Episode 29 – Different Lenses

This month we’re exploring how our different lenses - our lived experiences, values, and professional knowledge, shape the way we see and interpret behaviour. They influence how we respond, the language we use, and even whether we view something as needing a safeguarding referral or as an opportunity for support and connection.

By becoming aware of our own lenses and being open to those of others, we can create a shared understanding that keeps curiosity, empathy, and the child at the centre of our practice.

As always you can connect with us through the following -

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Facebook – Better Me Better Us

Email – info@bettermebetterus.co.uk

10/10/2025

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For World mental health awareness day - let’s explore how mental health is whole being health not just what we think.

It’s very much about how easily our nervous system can flow in and out of feeling ok - feeling heightened energy, maybe with an urge to act and react - feeling shut down disconnected with low energy.

When there’s a lack of effortless flow and this beautiful nervous system gets stuck it impacts us physically, mentally, emotionally and our ability to relate and connect.

If this is temporary we recover quickly - when it’s ongoing we feel and become sick.

Let’s broaden the focus and understanding of how much more complex our mental and emotional health are on this World mental health awareness day - especially when it comes to how we are raising and treating our children in daily life.

Healing and health involves the whole being not just the brain.

10/10/2025

10/10/2025

Today is World Mental Health Day. Let’s do all we can to prioritise mental wellbeing, help each other and remind people they are not alone

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