07/11/2025
Part of the journey of healing and healing from trauma and shifting an archetype that came online for your survival, safety and protection, can be to feel the post esteem anger and rage of what happened to you.
It is important to get support with that from a therapist or healer. You have a right to be angry and release this, however, you don't have a right to take that out on others.
It is true that sitting in your wounded child, victim archetype will hurt you. Then your brain wants to protect you so will literally keep reminding you (rumination) what others have done to you.
When you have been powerless, to feel anger can make you feel more powerful. However, to stay in that state does take it's toll on your body.
To heal you need to first acknowledge the archetype that came on line for your safety and survival. Hug that dragon and thank them for keeping you safe.
Then get help to work through what happened to you, because you have been victimised. However, there is a difference to shadow victim to mystical victim. You don't make your identity a victim.
Trust me, I have wallowed in my wounded child, victim archetypes for years. There can be a lot of power in sitting in the victim. Especially if you have been seen and cared for as the victim. But there is no healthy power there.
One of the most powerful healing moments in my life has been when I have decided to love and hug my victim archetype and allowed it to sit at my table, but I processed my anger and rage. I felt it and I released it.
I started the journey of forgiveness. That doesn't mean that what they did was ok. It says, I am no longer choosing to live in the pain of the past and I want to receive what is in my present.
The immense peace that it brings is worth the journey of healing.
To feel, you need to heal. To release, you first must acknowledge what happened. You need to be seen and heard by a therapeutic person.
It is possible to get through the dark night of the ego. It feels crap when you're going through the process, but it is so worth the peace and love at the other end.
You can do it, you are worth it and always know you are always enough, no matter what. You are not healing to get to enough, you already are enough.
Love and healing hugs to all those on their journey of sacred love of self 😘❤️