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Glister Counselling Provider

Hello! I'm Kerry Quigley, an accredited counsellor with 20+ years' experience. Available weekdays, evenings, and weekends.

I work with a wide range of issues and offer both face-to-face and remote sessions. You can book sessions through my website 🌐 At Glister we promote self-actualization, empower self-growth, improve relationships, and reduce emotional stress. We will work with you collaboratively on whatever is most beneficial and important to you. Together, we will decide upon the best way forward and we will aid you with achieving your goals.

26/03/2026

The clocks move forward.
The days begin to stretch.

And something in us wants to move with it.
To reset.
To change.
To begin again.

But growth doesn’t always look like a big shift.
Sometimes it’s simply noticing where you are…
and choosing your next step with a little more awareness and just a little more care. 🌿

24/03/2026

The Drama Triangle isn’t just a concept.
It’s something you feel.

A pull to fix.
A pull to defend.
A pull to explain yourself.

And before you realise,
you’re caught in their emotional world.

That’s how the pattern works.
Each role pulls for another.
And it can be hard not to get pulled in.

Often, what’s underneath this is an attempt to have emotional needs met in ways that feel familiar,
shaped by past experiences and early conditioning.

Understanding the pattern helps you step outside the dynamic, rather than reacting from within it.

If you’d like to explore these patterns more deeply,
you can book an appointment via the link in my bio 🌿

19/03/2026

I often observe this emotional disconnect between couples in my work as a counsellor.

Men and women can respond very differently to emotional pain.

Women often seek to feel seen and understood.
Men are often conditioned to solve problems and make things better.

When men cannot fix the situation, helplessness can turn into frustration.
And that frustration can easily be misread as not caring.

For many men, the frustration comes from feeling powerless in the face of someone they love being in pain.

In reality, it is often a misfired expression of concern.

If you would like to understand more about these relationship patterns and build stronger emotional connections, you can learn more about my work and book a session via the link in my bio 🌿

17/03/2026

I’ll be honest… I really don’t like the cold.

I admire people who plunge into ice baths, but it’s never been something I’ve been drawn to.

So stepping into –85°C cryotherapy felt like a real challenge.

What surprised me most was that dry cold felt very different to what I expected.
I coped far better than I imagined.

It was a reminder that sometimes stepping beyond our comfort zone can teach us something about ourselves.

Growth often sits just outside what feels familiar. ❄️

12/03/2026

What’s the difference between gaslighting and a healthy disagreement?

In my work as a counsellor, this distinction often becomes very clear over time.

Gaslighting looks like:
• denying something that clearly happened
• dismissing your experience or memory
• telling you that you’re “too sensitive” or imagining things
• repeatedly making you question your own judgement

Healthy disagreement looks like:
• different perspectives being shared
• someone explaining how they saw the situation
• accountability when something has gone wrong
• a conversation that may be uncomfortable but still respectful

One leaves you doubting your own mind.

The other allows space for difference without rewriting your reality.

To learn more about me and my services, visit my website. The link is in my bio! 🌐

05/03/2026

✨ Quick Tip: The Diving Reflex ✨

A client recently shared something surprising.
She finds that holding an ice cube in her hands helps her body settle before sleep.

There’s a physiological reason for this:

❄️ Cold on the hands or face can activate a natural calming response that slows the heart rate and eases stress arousal.
❄️ This can gently help the nervous system move out of ‘high alert’ and towards calm.
❄️ For some people, this gentle reset even supports sleep.

Sometimes the smallest signals create the biggest sense of safety.

For more gentle ways to calm the nervous system, you’ll find me via the link in my bio 🌐

03/03/2026

As a therapist, I ask people to slow down and notice what’s happening inside.

Reformer Pilates asks the same of me.

Breath. Alignment. Awareness.

Subtle adjustments that make a real difference.

It reminds me that change rarely comes from force.
It comes from attention.

Showing up each week keeps me steady, physically and mentally.

155 sessions and counting.

That steadiness is something I carry into the room with my clients.

Working one-to-one with Mandi at has been one of the most consistent and valuable investments I’ve made in my long-term wellbeing. 🌿

26/02/2026

The Space Between Us is now live.

If silence feels uncomfortable…
If you often second-guess yourself after conversations…
If certain relationships leave you subtly unsettled…

Not everything important in a relationship is spoken.
Much of what shapes connection lives in tone, pace and presence.

In this month’s blog, I explore felt sense and relational fields, and what becomes possible when presence is mutual and steady.

Link in bio. 🌿

24/02/2026

Grey Rock is often misunderstood.

It isn’t passive aggression.
It isn’t the silent treatment.
It isn’t punishment.

It’s a nervous system strategy.

When someone repeatedly seeks drama, control, or emotional reaction, engaging can escalate the dynamic. Grey Rock removes the emotional fuel.

But it’s important to remember:
a strategy is not an identity.

If you find yourself using Grey Rock frequently, it may be worth exploring why safety feels fragile in that relationship.

If you’d like to explore this further, you can find more about my work via the link in my bio. 🌐

19/02/2026

There’s something that lives between people.
We feel it before we understand it.

My new blog, The Space Between Us, explores the relational field that forms in silence, tone and presence.

For many, silence has meant rejection or abandonment.
So we learn to fill it.
To reach.
To escalate.

Silence doesn’t feel neutral when it carries history.

But when the relational field is steady, silence becomes a container.
Stillness becomes grounded presence.

Blog live Thursday 26th. 🌿

17/02/2026

We often assume that other people experience the world in the same way we do.

In reality, we all process, decide, recharge, and orient differently.

Those differences shape how we communicate, how we handle conflict, and what feels supportive or overwhelming.

Becoming curious about your own inner wiring can help you make sense of your reactions, your relationships, and what truly supports you.

Understanding yourself more clearly is often the quiet starting point for meaningful change.

When do you feel most like yourself?
And when do you notice you are forcing a way of being that does not quite fit? 🤍

12/02/2026

Love isn’t always the glue.

Sometimes it’s familiarity.
Sometimes it’s fear.
Sometimes it’s choice.

Pausing to notice can matter more than we think.

If this is something you’d like to explore further,
you’ll find me via the link in my bio.

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The Racquets Court, 3 College Street
Newcastle Upon Tyne
NE18JG

Website

http://glister.uk.com/

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