Julie Lee Therapy

Julie Lee Therapy Offering EMDR, Counselling & Clinical Supervision. Specialising in Perinatal Mental Health & Trauma

Counsellor & EMDR Therapist - Helping women find strength, resilience, and hope after baby loss and birth trauma.

17/11/2025

I know it can feel scary to let yourself connect with your rainbow baby, but creating small moments of love and calm can make such a difference. Here are three gentle ideas to try 🌿

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16/11/2025

Already feeling frazzled before the new week starts?

Comment FREEBIE25 for your free download where I share some easy tweaks to help you feel more in control, calmer & less anxious.

It doesn’t have to be BIG steps that make a difference.

16/11/2025

Our Children Don’t See What We See

It’s instinctive to try to make our traumatised children to ‘feel better’ about themselves. The problem is that our children don’t see themselves in the same way that WE do.

Because of experiences when they were young, our children’s internal working model tells them they are useless, invisible, stupid, ugly, not worthy, or just plain bad.

If our child communicates (through behaviour), that they believe they are bad, stupid or ugly, our immediate instinct is to ‘correct’ them and tell them they are beautiful, worthwhile and wonderful, giving them lots of reasons why WE think this.

But here’s the thing- If the child FEELS and BELIEVES that they are bad, you TELLING them that they’re not, doesn’t resonate.
It feels like a lie. It feels like YOU lied. It feels like you just became one more person not to trust.

We have all had those days when we feel unattractive, tired or overweight but someone tells us we look fabulous! We know they mean well but….. Imagine if that happened all the time!
Where is the reality check?

This is a really hard truth that we must deal with in order to help our children heal.
The way we do this is by making sure we KEEP IT REAL!
We base our praise and encouragement in reality.
“I see you are struggling at the moment, but I have faith in you because I saw how you handled it yesterday”

“I know you feel bad about **** but I know you have a good heart, because I saw you help your brother this morning when you thought no one was looking”.

This low level, factual, alternative positive feedback is much easier for our children to accept and internalise than over praising and over compensating.

Little by little, we see our children’s view of themselves change.
The moment when they start to see their true reflected self and realise that maybe they ARE beautiful, worthwhile, and that they matter, is wondrous indeed.

written by Sarah Naish, CEO of the Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma

Have a good Sunday Everyone! 💛
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Why is therapy so expensive?It's a question many people ask, and understandably so. Therapy can feel like a big financia...
16/11/2025

Why is therapy so expensive?
It's a question many people ask, and understandably so. Therapy can feel like a big financial commitment, especially when you're already stretched. But behind the price tag is a trained professional who's invested years in education, ongoing supervision, insurance, accreditation, and specialist training to support people through some of the hardest moments in their lives. You're not just paying for a session, you're investing in safety, expertise, and a space that's fully focused on you.

Let’s break down what goes into the cost and why it matters 👇

15/11/2025

We reshape our minds, one small choice at a time

I ofyen talk to clients about how our brains are constantly rewiring themselves, and not just when good things happen.

When we dwell in negative thoughts, when we replay old fears, our brain literally starts wiring in those patterns.
(Psychology Today)

This stands out because in my work (and in my own life) I’ve seen how pain creates grooves in our thinking. For anyone who’s experienced loss, trauma, or that persistent “what if” loop… those grooves can feel permanent.

Here’s what I’ve learned:
💡 You don’t need a huge overhaul to shift something.
💡 The small choice matters, noticing the thought, pausing, and choosing a different response.
💡 When you choose something new, your brain begins to rewire toward that new way of being.

If you’ve been stuck in patterns of fear, overthinking, or “just surviving”, here’s a question to hold gently:

What’s one small choice I can make today that says: I’m heading in a different direction?

It could be:
• naming a recurring worry out loud
• talking about your grief instead of hiding it
• breathing slowly for one minute when your mind races

Because each little act of kindness toward yourself helps rewiring happen. And yes, rewiring takes time. But, good things come to those who wait.

If this resonates, and if you want a little help catching those thoughts before they take over, I’ve got a free workshop called Catch & Calm that might be useful. It’s not about perfection — it’s about making realistic choices that help your brain know you’re safe. Link in bio, or DM for details.

Is social media messing with our minds? 😵‍💫We love it, we hate it, and somehow we end up scrolling for way longer than w...
15/11/2025

Is social media messing with our minds? 😵‍💫
We love it, we hate it, and somehow we end up scrolling for way longer than we meant to… Sound familiar?

Social media can connect, entertain, and uplift us—but it can also fuel anxiety, comparison, and that never-ending “not good enough” feeling.

In this quick carousel, I break down the good, the bad, and the ugly of our relationship with social media—plus some simple tips to help you use it in a way that supports your mental health, not sabotages it. 💬📱

Swipe through and let me know: how do you feel about social media lately? 👇

For every woman who’s been trying to hold it all together after miscarriage or birth trauma, feeling like your mind won’...
14/11/2025

For every woman who’s been trying to hold it all together after miscarriage or birth trauma, feeling like your mind won’t switch off and your body can’t be trusted, this is for you.

I created The Catch & Calm Hour because I kept seeing the same story: incredible women blaming themselves for feeling broken, when really, their nervous system was just trying to protect them and it's totally FREE for a limited period.

In this gentle 60-minute session, we’ll explore what’s happening in your mind and body, use my Embodied Thought Catching Method to quiet the noise, and practise simple tools to help you feel grounded, safe, and back in control and it's finally here!

There is also Perinatal Peers Hub community that you can join on completion too 😊

✨ You’ll leave feeling calmer, clearer, and more connected to your body again.

Screen shot the post then press and hold the QR code. Or see link in bio

Losing a baby is hard enough. But then comes another challenge:How do you tell people without breaking down, or being as...
14/11/2025

Losing a baby is hard enough. But then comes another challenge:

How do you tell people without breaking down, or being asked endless questions?"

👉 Swipe through this carousel for clear, simple ways to announce a loss in a way that feels safe for you.

14/11/2025

Watch this space. New things are on the horizon 🚥

14/11/2025

Hope after loss isn’t simple, and you don’t have to pretend it is

You might have seen the recent news about Amy Hart from Love Island sharing her pregnancy after previous miscarriages. Moments like this can land differently when you’ve lived through loss yourself.

Because pregnancy after loss isn’t just joy. It’s joy intertwined with fear. Excitement that sits right next to “please don’t let this happen again.”

I see this every day in the pregnant people I support. Everyone around you thinks you should be grateful…
But inside, you’re scanning symptoms, bracing for appointments, and trying to hold onto hope with shaking hands.

That’s exactly why I created 2 things I want you to know exist, not as a pitch, but as support if you need it:

💕1. Catch & Calm (free workshop) Link in Bio, DM me or on the post in my stories.

A gentle, practical session that helps you:
✨ Catch spiralling “what if” thoughts
✨ Understand what your nervous system is really doing
✨ Create even a tiny pocket of calm when your brain won’t switch off.

I made it as a lifeline, something you can use anytime your mind feels louder than your logic.
(And yes, it’s totally free. It also adds you to my list so I can send more support your way, no spam, no pressure.)

🌈 2. Rainbow Pregnancy Programme

A 6-session online antenatal programme for anyone pregnant after loss of any kind: miscarriage, termination for medical reasons, ectopic, stillbirth, neonatal loss… any loss.

This space is different from standard antenatal classes.
Because here, you don’t have to pretend.

You can talk about:

• Feeling disconnected from the pregnancy
• Fearing scans
• Not wanting to buy anything “too soon”
• The guilt, the joy, the grief, all coexisting
• The constant need to “just get through the next milestone”

There’s also a private Perinatal Peers community so you’re surrounded by people who get it, not people who tell you to “stay positive.”

If you or someone you love is walking this complicated path, you can get catch and calm in my bio. Or DM for info.

You’re not overreacting.
You’re not on your own 😘

Ever find yourself spiralling into “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios?You’re not on your own, it’s called catastrophisi...
13/11/2025

Ever find yourself spiralling into “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios?

You’re not on your own, it’s called catastrophising, and it’s something our brains do to try and protect us from danger… even when the danger isn’t real.

Swipe through to learn:
✔️ What catastrophising is
✔️ Why your brain does it
✔️ How it affects your mental health
✔️ Simple ways to stop the spiral
✔️ And why if you can imagine the worst, you can also imagine something good enough

Your thoughts aren’t facts, and they don’t have to rule you.

❤️

12/11/2025

Today I attended the in Plymouth, a day surrounded by inspiring, empowered women.

It was full of honesty, energy, and connection, but if I’m honest, I started the day with a flutter of nerves. That little voice crept in:

"Do I really belong here?”

You know that familiar voice of self-doubt. Over time, I’ve realised it’s not really about capability, it’s about safety. For many of us who grew up needing to be “good” or “pleasing,” new spaces can feel uncertain. Not because we’re unqualified, but because we feel vulnerable.

So, as I stood outside the venue, I reminded myself: "Stay where your feet are.” My feet were ready to walk into a room full of women waiting to connect: no danger, just opportunity. And I’m so glad I went in.

The speakers were honest and real, talking about balancing ambition and wellbeing, growing through setbacks, and leading with authenticity. Hearing successful women share their doubts reminded me that we all feel that way sometimes.

A few years ago, I wouldn’t have imagined being in that room. I used to overthink and worry about getting things “right.” Now, when fear rears its head, I let it come along, I just don’t let it take over.

Recently, I’ve been leaning into growth, meeting new people, exploring opportunities, and expanding my work.

Last week, I met with the co-founder of in Exeter to explore how we can support women and families during the perinatal period. Conversations like that remind me why I do what I do, to help people feel seen, safe, and supported.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Here’s to showing up, staying grounded, and growing, one step at a time. 👟

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