Becca Mather - Maternal Counsellor

Becca Mather - Maternal Counsellor I am a counsellor helping mums with their mental health from pregnancy to preschool

So many mums start believing “I can’t cope… something must be wrong with me” when what they’re really experiencing is:• ...
15/11/2025

So many mums start believing “I can’t cope… something must be wrong with me” when what they’re really experiencing is:
• chronic overload
• unmet support needs
• nervous system fatigue
• invisible emotional labour
• unrealistic expectations of motherhood

It makes sense that it feels hard if you’re mothering without a village, without space for yourself and with a nervous system that never truly gets to slow down.

When the world says “just be grateful,” your body might be saying:
I’m overwhelmed, not ungrateful.
I need help, not more pressure.
I’m adapting, not failing.
You deserve environments, relationships, and tools that help you feel steady, not everyone saying to try harder and do more.

If you saw yourself in this post, you’re not weak… you’re under resourced, but that can change.
~ What part hit you most?
~ Want more nervous system + matrescence support? Comment SUPPORT and I’ll send you the link to my Etsy store where I have therapy worksheets for mums exactly where you are right now.

Wherever you are, pause.Soften your shoulders, unclench your jaw, let your belly go.Feel your feet on the ground, imagin...
07/11/2025

Wherever you are, pause.
Soften your shoulders, unclench your jaw, let your belly go.
Feel your feet on the ground, imagine them anchoring you, like roots.

Next take a deep inhale for 4, hold and breathe out for 4. Ground yourself by looking around the room and using your senses to name things- this brings your awareness back to the present moment.

Even two minutes of centring yourself and bringing your attention to the here and now can change your whole day.

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I feel like many mums just want to be seen and heard. I call myself a person centred counsellor which means that the cli...
03/11/2025

I feel like many mums just want to be seen and heard.

I call myself a person centred counsellor which means that the client leads the sessions. I feel like that is my core and I will always use empathy, acceptance and I will be congruent with you at all times. But the more clients I see, I feel like I natural go into neurobiology and somatic awarensss and clients always reply with “that makes sense”

So whilst I will always hold space for you to come to the session and I will and support you, I may throw in some psycho education about how the brain works and about nervous system regulation as I feel as mums, it’s important to know that there have been changes and if we are in survival mode, it’s makes it more difficult to be present in the chaos. Also, your feelings are always valid

If therapy is something you feel you are ready for now, why not book a call by dropping me a DM and let’s get you regulated and heard in this season of motherhood

Bedtime!!! The part of the day that makes me want to scream and where my guilt is louder. The endless drinks, the one mo...
02/11/2025

Bedtime!!!
The part of the day that makes me want to scream and where my guilt is louder.
The endless drinks, the one more story, the sudden deep questions when you’re hanging by a thread.
It’s the moment my nervous system is like “I can’t do one more thing.” And if I’m honest, I want to run away 🤣

Lately I’ve been trying to pause and take a few slow breaths before walking into their room to remind my body that we’re safe, that it’s ok to slow down.
Some nights I manage to stay grounded.
Other nights, I get frustrated and feel the guilt rise straight after.
Because one day, this version of bedtime will be over
and I’ll wish I could tuck them in just one more time.
So I’m trying to be present in this season of motherhood.
Trying to hold the gratitude and the exhaustion at once.

How are bedtimes in your home?

When anxiety hits, it’s not that your body is turning against you it’s that it’s trying to protect you.Your heart races....
01/11/2025

When anxiety hits, it’s not that your body is turning against you it’s that it’s trying to protect you.
Your heart races.
Your chest tightens.
Your mind starts scanning for danger.

Your nervous system has detected “threat,” even if there isn’t one and it’s preparing for your protection.

Here’s the thing though
You can’t logic your way out of a body that feels unsafe (that part of the brain shuts off during moments of panic)
You have to help your body remember safety.

Next time anxiety shows up, try this:
~ Slow your exhale
~ Grouhd into what you can feel…your feet, your breath, your body against the chair.
~Remind yourself, “Nothing’s wrong with me. My body just thinks I’m in danger.”
That small pause tells your nervous system it’s ok.
Over time it learns it’s safe

If you’re ready to explore your anxiety in a space that feels gentle, supportive, and focused on you, online therapy can help you reconnect with your body’s sense of safety.
Together we can slow things down, understand what your nervous system is needing, and help you find calm again without shame, pressure or judgement.

Save this for next time your anxiety hits.
Or send it to another mum who might need this reminder today.

31/10/2025

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