Matt Lightfoot Counselling

11/11/2025

Some excellent reminders here!

11/11/2025

You don’t have to be an expert to help someone open up, and you don’t need the perfect words, the ones you already have are enough. 💚

11/11/2025

Hear, hear!

There's a funny thing that goes on when we view our day as a "bad day".

Somehow that sits uncomfortably with us.

That today is "bad".

Perhaps because it's accompanied by so called "bad" feelings too.

And in all that discomfort, we want it to change.

But sometimes try as we might.

Nothing makes it any better.

And the more we try, and the more we fail.

It feels even more and more NOT OKAY.

That today is a bad day.

And that's not okay.

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You see, there is a saying that I like a lot

And it goes like this.

"The solution is often the problem."

What does that even mean?

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Well, take a bad day for example

We think the bad day is the "problem".

That it is something to be solved.

But what does it mean to solve it then?

It means to somehow change whatever we are feeling into something else.

To somehow change a bad day into a good one too.

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But here's the thing, don't you realize?

That the more you struggle with this so called problem, the worser your day becomes.

"Why can't I make today into a better one?!"

"Why don't I feel better about right now?"

And in trying solve what we think is the problem, we make the problem into an EVEN BIGGER one.

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Because you see, feelings are meant to be something to be solved in the first place at all.

Feelings are meant for us to FEEL.

To sit with.

Yes, even the feelings you feel right now.

So, if you're having a bad day today, I hope you try this instead.

First to know that to force yourself to feel any different from what you are feeling now is to make the problem worse.

And second to know that whatever it is you're feeling right now, acknowledge that they are there right now.

You can still have a day.

And in this day, go do what you need for yourself.

Be kind to yourself.

Rest.

Eat well.

Do your favourite thing.

Or even do nothing at all.

All are okay.

Just don't do all those things to try and "make" yourself feel better.

It's okay to just have a day.

All while knowing that in you accepting today just as such.

You're giving yourself the rest you need.

And the capacity to tackle tomorrow as it comes.

Take care,
Hernping

11/11/2025

Beautifully fitting for the season!

What does 'home' mean to you, I wonder?

01/11/2025

A straight line it isn't 😉

01/11/2025

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31/10/2025

That's Hallowe'en sorted then! 🎃

27/10/2025

There is wisdom here, and there are all sorts of things we can do to ride these waves.

Refocusing, positive distraction, disputing, grounding techniques, cognitive exercises, or even just sitting with the anxiety and writing about it to being more clarity and reduce overwhelm can all have their place 😊

22/10/2025

I love this representation of growth.

Sometimes, when we're working on ourselves, the growth is not always profoundly visible at first. Progress can feel frustratingly slow as we're busy with our daily lives. But slowly, as we grow and expand new roots, that growth starts to surface and become visible to both ourselves and others 🍄

22/10/2025