Sean Harris

27/12/2025

We are all born with raw, instinctive confidence. Babies don’t question their worth, they cry when they need something, reach for what they want, and explore the world with fearless curiosity. This natural self-assurance is unfiltered, whole, and ours from birth.

However, this confidence begins to be suppressed when a young child experiences rejection, abandonment, or emotional neglect.

Anxiety often arises in response to these early experiences, triggered by the nervous system’s survival responses. The child learns that being rejected or unseen feels unsafe, driving them to overcompensate, conform, or hide their authentic self in an effort to regain safety and connection.

During this critical period, self-limiting beliefs start to form, and the child begins to feel not good enough and unworthy, eventually trying to be someone they’re not hiding their authentic self to gain love, approval, or acceptance.

From birth, children are wired to look to their parents for survival and learning, and their development is profoundly influenced by them. A parent"s critical look, tone of voice, a comparison, , or even the absence of praise can send powerful messages: “You’re not enough. Something is wrong with you. You’re not lovable as you are.” Even small moments, being ignored or laughed at when upset, having achievements overlooked, or feeling consistently dismissedare absorbed as truth.

A sigh of impatience, a distracted glance, or emotional withdrawal communicates that the child’s feelings and needs don’t matter. These subtle cues layer over time, forming self-limiting beliefs: “I must earn love. I’m too much or too little. I am not worthy.”

But this natural confidence doesn’t survive untouched. Over time, it is suppressed by subtle messages, unprocessed experiences, and self-limiting beliefs , shaping the struggles, fears, and habits we carry into adulthood.

We carry this pattern of trying throughout our lives—trying to please, trying to succeed at work, in sports or hobbies, trying to lose weight, avoid discomfort, stop smoking, or simply perform better.

These efforts, while understandable, are created to keep us safe. They form subconsciously as a way to alleviate the distressing memories, thoughts, and emotions that arise from unprocessed experiences and self-limiting beliefs. Many behaviors, including addiction, overworking, extreme dieting, self-criticism, procrastination, and constant people-pleasing, are attempts to stay safe, fit in, and avoid rejection or isolation. Even habits like smoking or drinking are often about belonging and protecting oneself from the painful feelings of inadequacy.

“These struggles and habits are not personal failings, They are a result of disregulated nervous system.

The good news is that confidence never truly disappears. It is simply buried beneath layers of unprocessed experiences and internalized beliefs. Reconnecting with it is less about building something new and more about remembering who we truly are.

When we stop constantly trying to be someone else or proving our worth, we reconnect with our natural selves and suddenly, we succeed effortlessly in whatever we do.

Through advanced hypnotherapy, I help you uncover and address the root cause on a subconscious level, regulate the nervous system, neutralize emotional triggers, and change limiting beliefs. This process allows deep emotional release, enabling your suppressed natural confidence to emerge and shine. Authenticity then becomes your greatest strength, and life begins to flow in alignment with who you truly are.

From this place, life changes. We make choices aligned with our true selves, interact authentically, pursue opportunities boldly, and form relationships grounded in connection rather than fear. We stop living as though love or worth must be earned and start living as though we were always enough.

“The confidence inside you was never lost. It was always there, waiting beneath the surface, ready to rise again the moment you choose to remember it.”

sean 07858 112643

26/12/2025

24/12/2025

From birth, our nervous system begins wiring itself to understand and respond to the world. Between birth and age seven, the brain is highly flexible, forming pathways that regulate emotions, stress responses, and bodily functions. Every experience during this period matters. Biological Parents play a central role in shaping these early patterns, which influence how we handle life emotionally and physically.

When a child experiences fear, neglect, criticism, or inconsistency, the body’s fight, flight, or freeze system activates. The amygdala, the brain’s alarm center, floods the body with stress chemicals like cortisol and adrenaline. Normally, the hippocampus and prefrontal cortex help the brain calm down and make sense of the experience. But when a child cannot process or move through the experience, the energy becomes trapped, quietly affecting the body and mind well into adulthood.

Trapped energy often appears in physical ways: pain in the neck, back, shoulders, hips, or jaw, muscle tension, poor posture, digestive issues like IBS or Crohn’s, fatigue, fibromyalgia, headaches, immune problems, or long COVID-like symptoms. Emotionally, it may cause anxiety, mood swings, hypervigilance, or emotional numbness. Even without conscious memory of the original events, the body reacts as if danger is still present.

This pattern is rooted in the brain and body. The amygdala stays on high alert, the prefrontal cortex struggles to regulate emotions, and the hippocampus has difficulty contextualizing experiences. Muscles, fascia, and connective tissue hold unresolved tension, while chronic stress impacts hormones, immunity, and even gene expression. Over time, the nervous system remains in a chronic state of survival, influencing thought, emotion, and behavior.

Working only on calming a dysregulated nervous system may provide temporary relief, but it doesn’t address the root cause: the trapped emotional energy stored in the body and subconscious mind. Even if the nervous system feels calmer for a while, unresolved trauma, anxiety, or stress patterns remain, ready to reactivate fight, flight, or freeze responses. True healing requires addressing both regulation and energy release.

By working on a subconscious level through advanced hypnotherapy to identify and address the root cause, negative emotions are neutralized, self-limiting beliefs are changed. This allows the nervous system to reset, muscles and fascia to relax, and long-standing patterns to be rewritten.

When trapped energy is released, chronic pain , including hip, neck, back, shoulder, and jaw pain, digestive issues, fibromyalgia, Crohn’s, long COVID-like symptoms, and emotional challenges can be overcome for good . Mental clarity, emotional balance, energy, and vitality are then restored.

In short, being stuck in survival mode is often the hidden root of many physical, emotional, and mental challenges. Lasting transformation comes from releasing trapped energy and allowing the nervous system and body to function freely and safely again.

Sean 07858 112643

18/12/2025

Phobias Are Not the Fear , They’re the Body Remembering
Why Most Fears Begin Long Before We Can Explain Them

Phobias are often called irrational fears, but they don’t come from nowhere and they are rarely about what we think they are. A phobia is not really about spiders, flying, crowds, or small spaces. These are symptoms, not the cause. A phobia is created when the subconscious mind perceives something as dangerous whether it truly is or not.

From birth to around age seven, a child’s brain is still learning how the world works. During this time, the subconscious mind is in charge. The child absorbs experiences without logic or understanding. When something feels overwhelming or frightening, the child cannot reason through it or put it into words. They are emotionally trapped in the experience.

When a child feels threatened, the body goes into fight-or-flight. In this state, the conscious, thinking mind shuts down. There is no ability to process what is happening or make sense of it. The only goal is survival. Once the moment passes, the experience is not fully processed it is simply stored.

That memory is filed away in the subconscious with a strong, unprocessed emotional charge. The mind keeps it as a lesson: this feeling equals danger. This is not a conscious choice. It is automatic learning designed to protect the child in the future.

The problem is that the subconscious does not update itself on its own. Years later, the stored emotional memory can be triggered by something that feels similar, even if it is completely safe. The body reacts as if the original danger is happening again. The adult may not even remember the original event, but the emotion is still there.

This is why phobias can appear suddenly and feel intense. The fear is not new it has been waiting in the subconscious, sometimes for years, until something activates it.

Phobias can take many forms, but they all follow the same pattern: a subconscious fear response triggered by a past emotional imprint. Some common categories include:

Specific phobias: Fear of a particular object or situation, like spiders, snakes, heights, flying, or injections.

Social phobias (social anxiety): Fear of being judged, embarrassed, or humiliated in public situations.

Agoraphobia: Fear of open spaces, crowds, or situations where escape feels difficult.

Situational phobias: Fear of specific situations such as elevators, tunnels, or driving.

Natural environment phobias: Fear of natural events like storms, water, or lightning.

No matter the type, the root cause is almost always the same: an emotional memory stored in the subconscious during early development, often before the child could process it consciously.

Because phobias are created at a subconscious level, they must be resolved there too. Talking about the fear or forcing exposure may manage symptoms, but it does not erase the original emotional imprint.

Therefore through Advanced hypnotherapy, I help you identify and reframe the subconscious root of the phobia neutralizing the emotions, as well as the associations , eradicating any triggers.
When this happens, the nervous system calms, the fight-or-flight response switches off, and the fear loses its power. The body no longer reacts because it no longer believes it is under threat.

Phobias don’t disappear through effort or logic. They disappear when the subconscious mind updates its understanding of safety.

And when that happens, freedom feels natural.

Sean 07858 112643

17/12/2025

Insight Is Not Healing

Some of us can be obsessed with understanding ourselves.
We dissect our childhoods, label our patterns, name our triggers, and explain our behavior in flawless psychological language. And yet , anxiety, fear still spikes. Relationships still implode. The same mistakes repeat.

Because insight doesn’t rewire the system that created the problem.

Thinking Didn’t Create the Problem , So Thinking Can’t Fix It

Some people are wired to experience the world primarily through sound and language. Their dominant sense is auditory. They think in words, process emotions through inner dialogue, and organize life through explanation.

These individuals are often intelligent, articulate, and highly logical.
And they are often the ones who stay stuck the longest.
When Sound Becomes the Dominant Sense

Auditory-dominant people process experience through meaning, tone, and narrative. They replay conversations in their head. They analyze what was said, what should have been said, and what it meant.

This creates a powerful cognitive advantage and a psychological blind spot.

When sound and language dominate, thinking replaces feeling.
Most emotional patterns were formed before language, logic, or reasoning existed. They were installed when the brain’s survival circuits were running the show.

You didn’t decide to be anxious.
You didn’t choose to shut down.
You didn’t reason your way into self-doubt.

So why are you trying to reason your way out?

The Conscious Mind Is Late to the Party

By the time the conscious mind begins analyzing a problem, the subconscious has already made the decision. Emotion fires first. Logic follows, often just to justify what’s already happening.
This is why you can understand your behavior perfectly and still feel powerless to stop it.

Understanding gives the illusion of control.

Change requires rewiring.
Analysis Is Often Avoidance

For many high-functioning, intelligent people, logic becomes a refuge.

If you stay in explanation, you don’t have to feel.
If you stay in theory, you don’t have to process.
If you stay in insight, you don’t have to go where it actually hurts.
So the mind gets sharper and the problem gets smarter.

Why Symptoms Shape-Shift, When a pattern isn’t resolved at its origin, it doesn’t disappear. It mutates.

Anxiety becomes control.
Control becomes burnout.
Burnout becomes numbness.

The subconscious doesn’t care how evolved your vocabulary is.
It cares whether you’re safe. Until it learns that you are, the behavior stays.

Healing Is Not Intellectual

You don’t heal by understanding why something happened.
You heal by resolving the emotional memory that taught your system to respond that way in the first place on a subconscious level not on a conscious one

Clarity feels good.
But clarity is not cure.

I Can Help You

Sean 07858 112643

13/12/2025

Born Enough: How Children Lose Their Selves Trying to Earn Love, Feel Accepted, Feel Safe

Every child enters the world radiant, shining, glowing, with an unspoken truth: I am enough. Babies do not question their value.

They do not calculate whether they are too loud, too small, too bold, or too quiet. They cry when they need, laugh when delight strikes, and reach toward the world with pure, unfiltered curiosity.

Their nervous systems have not yet been taught that the world judges, rejects, or punishes. This is confidence in its rawest, most sacred form, a trust in life itself, before fear ever enters. A child’s natural state is authenticity. Who they are and how they express themselves are one and the same. There is no editing, no armor, no self-protection. This confidence has never gone; it is simply untested, unrecognized, and waiting to be remembered.

From the first heartbeat, a child is wired to look to their parents as their sole protectors and guides for survival, for learning how to navigate the world, and for understanding themselves. Parents are the mirrors in which a child sees themselves reflected. Through their responses, children begin to learn how to be safe, how to connect, how to relate, and even how to be male or female absorbing early lessons about social roles and identity from the very people they depend on most.

Love, attention, or dismissal, even when subtle or unconscious, writes messages onto the child’s nervous system. Every glance that says “you are too much” or “you are not enough,” every moment of being unseen or unheard, quietly teaches the child to shrink.

All parents have challenges. Even the most loving parents carry shadows, fears, and unmet needs. Some struggle with stress, distraction, or perfectionism; some are too indulgent, smothering, or overprotective. Ironically, even too much love, if inconsistent or anxiety-driven, can create insecurity. Every human heart has limits, and the child is the receiver of these limits, often without comprehension or choice.

When authenticity feels unsafe, the child learns to survive. They become the pleaser, the perfectionist, the overachiever, the invisible one, the strong one, the peacekeeper, the one who tells jokes while hiding tears. These roles serve as shields, adaptations to protect the tender self. But beneath the armor, the true self waits, silenced but not gone. In adapting to meet parental expectations, children often become someone they are not—shaped by others’ needs rather than their own innate design.

Within this adaptation, the first seeds of self-limiting beliefs take root, for example:

“I am not enough.”

“Something is wrong with me.”

Because the child learns to hide their authentic self and perform the roles that earn love or safety, these patterns often continue into adulthood. They spend their lives trying to be someone they are not, carrying anxiety, fear, self-doubt, and coping habits that were once survival strategies. The very adaptations that once protected them now limit their freedom, joy, and true expression. From these early experiences grow the familiar shadows of adulthood: anxiety that whispers danger where none exists, fear that tenses the body and mind, habits that soothe what the child could not protect, and behaviors that attempt to control a world that once felt unpredictable.

Anxiety, fear, smoking, drinking, overeating, overworking, addiction, perfectionism, people-pleasing, etc etc , every habit is a coded message from the nervous system: I once had to protect myself. I once had to hide. But the authentic self is never destroyed. It is only waiting, beneath layers of learned caution, behind walls of self-protection, silently remembering the original truth: I am enough. Healing is not transformation into someone new; it is remembrance.

Awareness, acknowledgment of unmet needs, and safe self-expression allow the nervous system to relearn what the body has longed for all along: I am safe. I can be myself.

The child’s brain, developing rapidly in areas that regulate emotion and safety, links feeling with danger and self-expression with risk when repeated dismissal occurs. Anxiety becomes magnified because the body remembers before the mind does. Coping behaviors are survival strategies, and fear is encoded deeply in muscle memory, heartbeat, and breath. Healing requires revisiting these memories, gently, safely, and with compassion through therapies like Advanced Hypnotherapy to rewire the nervous system, updating its internal map to one that says: I am safe. I belong. I am worthy. I am Good enough!

Children are born radiant, confident, and whole. Parents’ role is not to mold that light but to protect it, to witness it, to honor it. Validating feelings, repairing ruptures, encouraging expression, allowing imperfection, and reinforcing unconditional love preserves authenticity. The confidence a child is born with can survive anything when it is nurtured, witnessed, and remembered.

Healing is the journey back. Confidence does not arrive suddenly; it returns quietly, subtly, and then fully. Boundaries feel natural. Relationships deepen. Joy is no longer earned; it is simply lived. Confidence steadies and radiates, once the past has been held, witnessed, and processed.

The child you once were, expressive, curious, worthy, never disappeared. They were never lost; they were simply surpressed beneath layers of self limiting beliefs and survival strategies. Once you reprocess and rebalance the past on a subcinscius level not a conscious, then confidence flows effortlessly, brilliantly, and unapologetically. You wont try ,you will just do!

The light you were born with never leftit simply waited for you to come back and claim it.

If you want to claim back your confidence and thrive in all areas of your life I can help you ..

Sean 07858 112643

30/11/2025

“Overcoming Emotional Eating: The Key to Lasting Weight Loss

Why cravings go deeper than willpower and how transforming the subconscious mind creates lasting change

For many people, eating has quietly become an emotional coping strategy rather than a response to hunger. After a stressful day, a lonely evening, or a moment of anxiety, the automatic pull toward food can feel irresistible. But this pull isn’t about appetite , it’s about the subconscious mind, where emotional patterns, habits, and deeply held beliefs about ourselves live.

Emotional eating is rarely about food. It’s about comfort, distraction, control, and relief. Over time, the brain forms automatic shortcuts: Stress = food. Sadness = food. Emptiness = food. These patterns become deeply wired, often without conscious awareness, and they persist even when we consciously want to change.

At the heart of emotional eating are often self-limiting beliefs that were formed years earlier. Many children experience their parents’ stress, tension, or unhappiness but do not understand it. They may internalize it as something being wrong with themselves: “If Mum or Dad are upset, it must be my fault” or “I’m not good enough.” Over time, these subconscious messages grow: “I’m fat. I’m ugly. There’s something wrong with me. I’ll never be enough.” These beliefs embed themselves in the mind and shape behaviour for decades, influencing how emotions are handled and how food is used for comfort.

These subconscious beliefs drive behaviour without the person realizing it. Thoughts like “I can’t resist food” or “I always fail at diets” feel like personal flaws, but they are echoes of early experiences and unresolved emotional patterns. When stress, sadness, anxiety, or self-doubt arises, the subconscious automatically turns to food for relief, repeating the pattern learned in childhood.

This is why willpower alone rarely works. The conscious mind may want change, but emotional eating is rooted in the subconscious, where self-limiting beliefs live. Attempting to “be good,” restrict food, or force discipline often feels like a battle, and in moments of stress, the subconscious pattern always wins.

Hypnotherapy offers a transformative solution. Unlike traditional dieting or conscious-focused strategies, it works directly with the subconscious the part of the mind that truly drives behaviour. Through guided relaxation, imagery, and targeted suggestions, hypnotherapy helps the mind uncover and release the root causes of emotional eating. It allows individuals to see that early messages, childhood misunderstandings, and self-critical beliefs like “I’m fat,” “I’m ugly,” “I’m not good enough” "Im not lovable " are no longer true or relevant. As these beliefs lose power, so does the emotional pull toward food.

Hypnotherapy also reshapes identity at a deep level. Instead of seeing themselves as “a stress eater” or “someone who always fails,” the subconscious can adopt new empowering truths: “I am enough,” “I am capable of coping with emotions without food,” and “I deserve to nourish and care for myself.” When the subconscious mind embraces these beliefs, behaviour shifts effortlessly. Eating becomes intentional rather than automatic, and cravings lose their control.

The results are profound. Emotional triggers lose their force. Cravings diminish. Eating becomes conscious and balanced. Weight loss happens naturally not from restriction or punishment, but through alignment between the conscious and subconscious mind. Emotional eating ceases to dominate life because the underlying beliefs and patterns that once fueled it have been transformed.

Emotional eating isn’t a lack of discipline — it’s a deeply rooted pattern created by early experiences, unmet emotional needs, and self-limiting beliefs. When those beliefs are healed and the root causes addressed, people don’t just change their eating habits. They transform how they feel, how they cope with life, and how they see themselves. For anyone who has ever felt trapped in the cycle of cravings, guilt, and self-criticism, hypnotherapy offers freedom: the ability to eat, live, and feel without being controlled by old patterns or negative self-beliefs.

Sean 07858 112643

30/11/2025

Want to stop smoking for life ?

Why People Smoke and Why They Struggle to Stop: It’s Not Addiction, It’s the Subconscious Mind

For decades we’ve been told that smoking is all about ni****ne addiction. But here’s the surprising truth: there isn’t enough ni****ne in a standard cigarette to fully explain why millions of people struggle to stop. The physical withdrawal is mild and short-lived. What really keeps people hooked is the invisible, automatic world of the subconscious mind.

If quitting was just about ni****ne?
We’d all stop in three days.

So why don’t we?

The Real Driver: Emotional Habit, Not Chemical Addiction

The subconscious mind runs our automatic behaviours ,the things we do without thinking. Smoking becomes wired into this deep system as a comfort response, stress release, or identity cue long before a person even realizes it.

People smoke because it meets subconscious needs:

Stress regulation

Momentary calm

A break from pressure

Belonging or identity (“I’m a smoker”)

A reward or mini-escape

None of these have anything to do with ni****ne levels.

That’s why someone can logically know ci******es are killing them… yet still reach for one the moment life feels too much.

Trying to stop with The “Wrong Mind” is the Problem

Most people try to quit using willpower , a conscious tool.
But smoking is driven by the subconscious, where habits and emotional associations live.

This creates a simple but powerful conflict:

Conscious mind: “I want to stop.”

Subconscious mind: “But smoking helps me cope.”

And the subconscious always wins. It controls around 90–95% of human behaviour. Willpower can fight it for a short time , days or weeks , but eventually the old emotional programming pulls the person back.

It’s not weakness.
It’s biology.

Ni****ne clears from the body quickly , often within 72 hours.
Yet people continue to crave ci******es for months or years.

That’s because the craving isn’t chemical.
It’s emotional, habitual, and associative.

A cigarette becomes linked to:

The morning routine

Driving

Work breaks

Stress

Pleasure

Social situations

Even boredom

So the subconscious mind learns:

“Cigarette = emotional relief.”

That’s the real attachment.

Quitting Requires Changing the Subconscious, Not the Cigarette

The people who quit easily almost always have one thing in common:

They changed the meaning of smoking in their subconscious mind.

When the deeper mind no longer sees smoking as useful, enjoyable, or necessary…

The cravings disappear

The habit collapses

Stopping feels natural, not forced

This is why methods that target subconscious patterns such as hypnosis, NLP, often produce faster, lasting results than willpower or patches that dont and cant

They speak the language of the mind that actually controls the behaviour.

So The Bottom Line is ,people don’t fail to quit because they’re addicted, they fail because they’re using the wrong mind to try to stop.

Smoking is sustained by subconscious emotional learning not ni****ne. When the subconscious is updated, the behaviour changes effortlessly. Ci******es lose their appeal. The identity of “smoker” dissolves. And quitting stops feeling like a battle.

The real power to stop smoking isn’t in the lungs, the hands, or the ni****ne levels.It’s in the deepest part of the mind, he part that’s been running the habit all along. I Can Help You