16/01/2026
On Sunday, I cooked for the homeless.
It looked ordinary. But it wasnât!
It was a meaningful day for my family,
as yesterday marked my mother-in-lawâs 2-year tithi
(the anniversary of her passing).
In our culture, we honour that day by doing good in their name.
We donât let it pass quietly.
So we did what she loved most:
we fed people.
We cooked the dishes she used to make:
Bhanda, rotli, sambaro, kheerâŠ
and yes, masala chips (Everyone loves chips.)
They may not have been as good as hers.
But I kept smiling to myself, thinking: sheâd be proud.
Some people thanked us like it meant the world.
Others were blunt. Dismissive. Guarded.
And for a split second, my body tightened:
After all that�
Then I remembered what I see in relationships and teams all the time:
When care has been unreliable for a long time,
gratitude isnât instinctive.
Protection is.
Sometimes âentitlementâ is just pain wearing armour.
Sometimes ârudenessâ is a nervous system that doesnât trust kindness yet.
Sunday didnât just honour her.
It reminded me:
People donât always know how to receive care.
Especially if care hasnât been reliable.
So Iâd love your take:
When you get a cold reaction to a kind act, what do you do next:
pull back, push through, or check in?